I am a male and have captained many men's and mixed teams over the years. I have heard talk from my fellow men, from time to time, about how much drama there is in womens leagues. I've finally decided that there is just as much in the mens leagues, it's just not as openly evident.
Last night, I had to change my lineup an hour before the match because a player called and said he was sick. So, I shuffled things around attempting to find that winning formula AND attempting to please the most players on my team. My court 2 players showed up about 15 minutes before the match while I was on the phone trying to track down another player who I was not sure was coming due to his lack of replying to communications about the scheduled match. I didn't have time to talk to my team before the match and explain lineup changes, but as captain I've told them in the past, several times, that I reserve the right to make such changes. My court 2 team was soundly defeated.
Later last night I get an email notification that one of my court 2 players had changed his scheduled availability for the upcoming matches. So, I logged into the schedule to find that he has made himself unavailable to play the remainder of the season. I sent him an email and asked if his schedule change had anything to do with his match last night. He sent me a very lengthy email complaining about how he thought he was playing with one guy and how I "blindsided" him by putting him with someone else.
Now, if he had just asked me, face to face, why the schedule change, I would have explained and we wouldn't have had this drama.
I'm captaining the "b" team at my club and half the team is borderline a/b team and the other half is "b" team. It's very difficult to please the players, when everyone regardless of their personal skill level, want to play with the "A" players.
Last night, I had to change my lineup an hour before the match because a player called and said he was sick. So, I shuffled things around attempting to find that winning formula AND attempting to please the most players on my team. My court 2 players showed up about 15 minutes before the match while I was on the phone trying to track down another player who I was not sure was coming due to his lack of replying to communications about the scheduled match. I didn't have time to talk to my team before the match and explain lineup changes, but as captain I've told them in the past, several times, that I reserve the right to make such changes. My court 2 team was soundly defeated.
Later last night I get an email notification that one of my court 2 players had changed his scheduled availability for the upcoming matches. So, I logged into the schedule to find that he has made himself unavailable to play the remainder of the season. I sent him an email and asked if his schedule change had anything to do with his match last night. He sent me a very lengthy email complaining about how he thought he was playing with one guy and how I "blindsided" him by putting him with someone else.
Now, if he had just asked me, face to face, why the schedule change, I would have explained and we wouldn't have had this drama.
I'm captaining the "b" team at my club and half the team is borderline a/b team and the other half is "b" team. It's very difficult to please the players, when everyone regardless of their personal skill level, want to play with the "A" players.