Bad experiences with lovers

[TheGhostOfAgassi]

The girl who acted like a six year insisted on sex first date! Even as a horny masculine guy i wasn't overly keen on that. Maybe its a bad sign when they want sex so soon!

Congrats on your love interest! he's a new kind of challenge for you, taming him is going to be a challenge. Women love someone they think they can tame

I'd be a bit weary though, men like that can indeed be troublemakers. He might be rough on the outside, make sure he's not rotten on the inside some big mouth men are big mouths because they're actually insecure somehow and are trying to compensate for it.

Looking forward to hearing about this one in the heartbreak thread! At least he doesn't get seasick

To be continued lol

 

[jaggy]

 

[Nostradamus]

has he ever scored with Naomi Watts ?

 

[every7]

The girl who acted like a six year insisted on sex first date! Even as a horny masculine guy i wasn't overly keen on that. Maybe its a bad sign when they want sex so soon!

Congrats on your love interest! he's a new kind of challenge for you, taming him is going to be a challenge. Women love someone they think they can tame

I'd be a bit weary though, men like that can indeed be troublemakers. He might be rough on the outside, make sure he's not rotten on the inside some big mouth men are big mouths because they're actually insecure somehow and are trying to compensate for it.

Looking forward to hearing about this one in the heartbreak thread! At least he doesn't get seasick

Agree, any person trying to have sex on a first date...... that's a red flag for sure. Sex is the most intimate possible situation you can be in. You can't possibly know enough about someone to get to that place on a first date, unless it's a first date with someone you have known already - i.e. the escalation of a friendship to "something else" etc etc.

Anyone presenting that sort of an angle is most possibly committment-phobic or looking for a purely physical situation.

I had this happen once to me and the first thing I could think was this person could be a terrible judge of character lol and may have done this many times before. It was a real turn off to me and actually I felt slightly objectified by it. I rejected her advances because I didn't know her well enough but I liked her enough to continue dating her for a short period just going to dinner. To me there was a real novelty because she seemed more sophisticated than other people I had met and was over 30 and quite good looking (I have never dated someone that old before). BUT I was guarded about becoming physically intimate after that initial overture. Came to find out that she had been with many men and had never really had good relationships at all. I dodged a bullet by never getting in too deep and avoiding a physical element while I was assessing the situation thankfully. My instincts on first meeting were that she was a totally different person lol. I am in the same boat as you where I am honest and too trusting for my own good sometimes lol, but I always tread carefully just in case I am wrong about someone.

Good luck moving to your new town. My recommendation would be to sign up at a few tennis clubs and play in some mixed tennis competitions. You might not meet anyone in this environment but you will get some good social contacts that could lead to something and it is a quick way to add to your social group.

Also will help you confidence-wise to see a whole heap of nice women in the new area. I find women who are into tennis are great to date because you have some instant congeniality with them in terms of common interests. You will also have some great things to do straight away. This might sound a bit tawdry but the other benefit is generally they are really fit and sporty and attractive.

has he ever scored with Naomi Watts ?

Because of the Hollywood allegations we are learning bizarre connections of people who have links that we never saw before. It wouldn't suprise me if this encounter has happened after the bizarre stuff we have learnt about in the last 2 months about everyone from Jennifer Lawrence to Charlie Rose.

 

[Rafaisdabest]

I had one bad bf it was my ex and he only saw me on weekdays and was away the rest of the time and in the end I found out he had a fiancée and he was sleeping with all these chicks he worked with too

 

[Rafaisdabest]

Im not the one coming w love advice since Im slow
I should probably update my heartbreak thread as I have been meeting someone Ive been romantic with.
I took up an old passion of mine, thats being on the sea. My family has a summer house south coast and I got in contact w some guys for lobster fishing. That guy Ive gotten romantic with is one of them. It took some weeks before something happened. He is not the type I have dated before. He is almost a decade older than me, very manly and loud. A traditional Norwegian and a character in the very small place he is from. Because its a small place and everybody know each other its been easy to know his reputation and he is very kind under his roughness. He has been quite open with me and not holding back, but never tried to touch me or push me into anything.
So, starting as friends can be a good thing and not push something that is not there. My first impression w this guy long time ago was not great,thought he was a troublemaker, womanizer and a badguy. Has a big mouth.
But I have judged him hard, I just have no experience w those kind of men.
Been good we have been friends and feelings develop before going to bed. I think letting your body needs taking over before bonds being created can ruin things that could have been good.
Sex on the second date kind of thing is way too soon imo.

Glad you have found someone!

Yes being friends first is a great thing oz and I were friends for a year before we got together and look at us now...

Also agree with you that someone that makes you laugh is a good thing