Being insulted by someone who tied me.

Taxvictim

Semi-Pro
Interesting match this past weekend was a four man round robin doubles. You play 8 games with each of the other three players on the court, switching receiving sides half way through each set. The score was a perfect tie, 4-4, 4-4, 4-4. Everyone was equal, yet one player grumbled to a bystander that he would have come out on top if I were a decent player. We tied after 24 games, so I'm not sure what he was grumbling about. Some folks...
 

S&V-not_dead_yet

Talk Tennis Guru
Interesting match this past weekend was a four man round robin doubles. You play 8 games with each of the other three players on the court, switching receiving sides half way through each set. The score was a perfect tie, 4-4, 4-4, 4-4. Everyone was equal, yet one player grumbled to a bystander that he would have come out on top if I were a decent player. We tied after 24 games, so I'm not sure what he was grumbling about. Some folks...

Guys like that always have an excuse; internalize success [we won because of me] and externalize failure [we lost because of someone or something else].

Avoid people like this; they are energy vampires.
 

Steady Eddy

Legend
I remember this from "The Bad News Bears", the first one. A kid wants to blame a loss on another kid. Walter Mathaws character says, "If we win, it's a team win. When we lose it's a team loss." True dat. I really dislike doubles partners who try to fix the blame for a loss.
 

Bud

Bionic Poster
Interesting match this past weekend was a four man round robin doubles. You play 8 games with each of the other three players on the court, switching receiving sides half way through each set. The score was a perfect tie, 4-4, 4-4, 4-4. Everyone was equal, yet one player grumbled to a bystander that he would have come out on top if I were a decent player. We tied after 24 games, so I'm not sure what he was grumbling about. Some folks...
Did you miss an easy shot that would have given you a 5-3 victory, when he was your partner?
 

Bud

Bionic Poster
God forbid he blames himself for the result he doesn't like. It has to be someone else's fault.
Check out this scenario.

Playing a set of doubles, you make zero errors, your opponents make zero errors and your partner makes 24 errors. Who would be at fault for the loss?

Not saying blaming is right or wrong, However, losing can be caused by an inferior player.
 

TTMR

Hall of Fame
Well one thing I have learned over my many years of life: Just because someone's a jerk, doesn't mean they're wrong.
 
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socallefty

G.O.A.T.
Check out this scenario.

Playing a set of doubles, you make zero errors, your opponents make zero errors and your partner makes 24 errors. Who would be at fault for the loss?

Not saying blaming is right or wrong, However, losing can be caused by an inferior player.
When the OP mentioned the comment that this guy made, I looked up the OP’s signature and it says ‘3.0 working up to be 3.5’ which I thought might be relevant. Decided not to comment anymore on the thread.

one player grumbled to a bystander that he would have come out on top if I were a decent player.
 

Bud

Bionic Poster
When the OP mentioned the comment that this guy made, I looked up the OP’s signature and it says ‘3.0 working up to be 3.5’ which I thought might be relevant. Decided not to comment anymore on the thread.
They are all around the same level if they finished completely tied like that. It seems a bit crazy however that another player complained about the final score, being nobody lost.

I can also understand the OP being perhaps a bit p1ssed being blamed for not winning the set with the complainer.

The bottom line is when playing doubles with others whose levels are approximately equal, it's usually the fault of one person on the losing team for losing the set. Tennis is a game of small margins and winning the important points. Everyone who plays doubles and is self aware realizes when they were the weakest link on the court. It happens to everyone at every level.
 

Morch Us

Hall of Fame
Couldn't you have asked politely, what exactly did you do wrong to cause the loss? There may or maynot be something you are not aware of. Of course I am not vouching for partner blame behavior, but that is not something in your control, correct? But it is totally in your control to see if there is some opportunity for you to improve, and also to learn how to not get frustrated.
one player grumbled to a bystander that he would have come out on top if I were a decent player.
 

S&V-not_dead_yet

Talk Tennis Guru
Couldn't you have asked politely, what exactly did you do wrong to cause the loss? There may or maynot be something you are not aware of. Of course I am not vouching for partner blame behavior, but that is not something in your control, correct? But it is totally in your control to see if there is some opportunity for you to improve, and also to learn how to not get frustrated.

IME, people like that aren't worth engaging; they will always have a response, usually illogical and indefensible. How can I even argue with that?
 

Taxvictim

Semi-Pro
When the OP mentioned the comment that this guy made, I looked up the OP’s signature and it says ‘3.0 working up to be 3.5’ which I thought might be relevant. Decided not to comment anymore on the thread.

Lol, that's an old bio. I made it up to 4.0 USTA ranking, then appealed back to 3.5 to join a senior team when I turned 55.
 

Fairhit

Hall of Fame
Check out this scenario.

Playing a set of doubles, you make zero errors, your opponents make zero errors and your partner makes 24 errors. Who would be at fault for the loss?

Not saying blaming is right or wrong, However, losing can be caused by an inferior player.
Yes, in that scenario and in almost any loss, there's someone to blame but, being a team effort, a good partner talks about what can be improved instead of plainly chalking the loss (tie in this case) to his partner.

I've played many doubles sets and I have never blamed my partner, it is a choice everyone has to make, to be destructive or constructive.
 
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LuckyR

Legend
Check out this scenario.

Playing a set of doubles, you make zero errors, your opponents make zero errors and your partner makes 24 errors. Who would be at fault for the loss?

Not saying blaming is right or wrong, However, losing can be caused by an inferior player.
Though in the limited scenario you describe it's possible that the zero error guy is the "reason" for the loss.
 
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