I played a 4.0 dubs match with a new partner today. A nice lady who was playing up. We stood no chance from the get-go. No need to go into why. We took an unbelievable beatdown with grace and dignity. The only two games we won were my service games, when I served slice serves and kick serves to the deuce player, who missed just enough to allow us to win those sad little games. When we approached the net, we had something like the following conversation: ******************** Cindy: Nice playing, ladies. Cindy's Partner: You guys are good. Nice match. Ad Opponent (to Cindy): Wow, you have a lot of topspin on your serve. That's awesome. Cindy: Thanks. You have some serious topspin your own self! Deuce Opponent (to Cindy): You know, there's something you could do better on your topspin serve. You're tossing the ball too far back. I know all the teaching pros say you should toss so the ball would fall down onto your head, but that's just wrong. You want to toss into the court, not over your head. That's why your topspin serves were landing so short, you know. 'Cause you toss the ball too far back. Cindy: Um, thanks. It's a new serve for me. I guess I will have to keep working on it. Deuce Opponent: Yeah, you should. It's landing way too short. Toss it into the court and it will be much better. ******************* Afterward, my partner almost burst a blood vessel, she was so annoyed. "Who does she think she is? If your serve is so short, how come she kept missing it? Your serve is a whole lot better than her serve." I have to say, I was a bit taken aback. When I win a match, I never offer up unsolicited advice to my opponents. I certainly never criticize one of their strokes, especially if my stroke is no better. If my opponents asked me, I might offer up a tip or two, but I cannot think of a time when my vanquished opponents asked for a mini-lesson. So I keep my pie hole shut about their strokes unless I have something to praise. And if I did offer up unsolicited advice to someone I just beat from my vantage point at the opposite baseline, I would take special care to make sure my advice was actually correct.