Did she like me?

Disgruntled Worker

Professional
This is something that has been picking at my brain for a while. Years ago, I used to really like this girl. We were friends, but in reality, I wanted more. The problem was that she never seemed to like me. She was into cocky confident guys who turned out to be assholes to her. All they ever wanted to do was to have sex with her, and that to me was pretty sad. She just wanted a guy to respect her. And of course, she never chose to be with me because she thought I was a little boring and weird at first. But our friendship improved and got much better as time went by. I never told her I liked her because I was too scared, but deep down, I knew she didn't want me.

When she left to go to Florida from Boston, I still kept in contact with her through Facebook. Then there was a time where she went back to attend a friend's funeral. It was a sad moment, and I was there with her mourning our friend's death with a group of other friends. As she left, I heard she needed a ride to the airport. I thought that it would be a good idea to help her since none or our other friends couldn't do that favor for her. I got her number and texted her. Even though she was all set and even thanked me, she still kept my number until February.

Then on Valentine's Day, I got a text from her saying "Happy Valentine's Day!" I mean she could've waited until Christmas or New Year's. I'm just wondering if she was finally admitting that she like me or not. It felt unreal knowing that the girl I've liked for years is actually giving me a chance, but then again, we were too far away. I ended up not keeping her number because I didn't want her to be hurt like I was. I really liked her a lot, but I knew a friendship was more meaningful. It was the one time she may have liked me, but I didn't want her to.

When I contacted her on Facebook for her birthday, she was very defensive. I wasn't trying to touch base of how I didn't keep her number or how I rejected her at all. But she assumed that I still liked her and that I still wanted her. In the end, we still remained friends and she kept my number as I gave it to her once again; however, she wouldn't give me hers. So did she really liked me during Valentine's Day? Or was it just a friendly text? No other girl has texted that to me. And I also assumed that she knew I liked her. To this day, I still have some feelings for her, but now I know it's too late. So what do you guys think? Did she liked me or not?
 

men8ifr

Semi-Pro
I think she liked you around valentines day but probably not all the time. Did she flirt with you?
 

Disgruntled Worker

Professional
She doesn't sound worth the trouble. Dated assholes but wouldn't give her number to a guy who apparently wasn't one with her. Move on.

Thanks, man. It's just hard because I cared about this girl a lot. Whenever she would break up with one of her boyfriends I would always be one of the first people she called. I never wanted to take advantage of a women in an emotionally-fragile state. But looking back I wish I could have expressed my feelings more candidly.
 

snvplayer

Hall of Fame
This is something that has been picking at my brain for a while. Years ago, I used to really like this girl. We were friends, but in reality, I wanted more. The problem was that she never seemed to like me. She was into cocky confident guys who turned out to be assholes to her. All they ever wanted to do was to have sex with her, and that to me was pretty sad. She just wanted a guy to respect her. And of course, she never chose to be with me because she thought I was a little boring and weird at first. But our friendship improved and got much better as time went by. I never told her I liked her because I was too scared, but deep down, I knew she didn't want me.

When she left to go to Florida from Boston, I still kept in contact with her through Facebook. Then there was a time where she went back to attend a friend's funeral. It was a sad moment, and I was there with her mourning our friend's death with a group of other friends. As she left, I heard she needed a ride to the airport. I thought that it would be a good idea to help her since none or our other friends couldn't do that favor for her. I got her number and texted her. Even though she was all set and even thanked me, she still kept my number until February.

Then on Valentine's Day, I got a text from her saying "Happy Valentine's Day!" I mean she could've waited until Christmas or New Year's. I'm just wondering if she was finally admitting that she like me or not. It felt unreal knowing that the girl I've liked for years is actually giving me a chance, but then again, we were too far away. I ended up not keeping her number because I didn't want her to be hurt like I was. I really liked her a lot, but I knew a friendship was more meaningful. It was the one time she may have liked me, but I didn't want her to.

When I contacted her on Facebook for her birthday, she was very defensive. I wasn't trying to touch base of how I didn't keep her number or how I rejected her at all. But she assumed that I still liked her and that I still wanted her. In the end, we still remained friends and she kept my number as I gave it to her once again; however, she wouldn't give me hers. So did she really liked me during Valentine's Day? Or was it just a friendly text? No other girl has texted that to me. And I also assumed that she knew I liked her. To this day, I still have some feelings for her, but now I know it's too late. So what do you guys think? Did she liked me or not?

So, you want to know whether she texted you on v-day because she liked you. A text isn't a sufficient enough information to tell whether a person has a romantic feeling or not. She remembered you, her memory of you was fond enough to send you the text. And, it sounds like she trusted you and considered you a friend. She may have texted other guy friends as well. Not sure how long you guys were apart in FL and Boston, but it's hard to think that a person bears a romantic feeling for someone when there had been no significant interactions for a long time, especially if there was no prior romantic relationship to begin with. Who knows how things have turned out if you stayed in touch with her? Everyone's feeling develops in different ways.

Unfortunately, we are not always going to have answers to our questions. Next time, just don't be afraid to find out for yourself.
 

Noleberic123

G.O.A.T.
Thanks, man. It's just hard because I cared about this girl a lot. Whenever she would break up with one of her boyfriends I would always be one of the first people she called. I never wanted to take advantage of a women in an emotionally-fragile state. But looking back I wish I could have expressed my feelings more candidly.
No one knows how you feel bro better than me. :(:oops: When I have expressed my feelings though it hasn't exactly been successful though.
 

navigator

Hall of Fame
So what do you guys think? Did she liked me or not?

I suspect she would like to marry you, have a few kids and have you support them all, then go and screw her teaching pro, the mechanic, and an out-of-work neighbor who spends a lot of time at the gym. A pretty common scenario.
 

Mr.Lob

G.O.A.T.
What you still seek is closure. What you're still hoping for is a new beginning. You should contact her and lay it all out on the line. How you feel. Give her an easy out. You have absolutely nothing to lose.
 

Fedinkum

Legend
If you want to sleep with her, get out of the friend zone ASAP!! Or be like this man...
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jga111

Hall of Fame
The reality is girls are very emotional and one minute they may like you, the next they may appear not so keen. When she texted you she was probably feeling "yeah I like this guy, let me send him a text" - that's about it. I doubt there was any long-term thinking behind it. It was a capricious text and should be treated as such. Your rejection at that time may have put her off. Have you lost your boat on that one? If she is single now, then of course there is a chance, I'm sure she would still give you your number if you were more charmingly persistent, which most ladies are open to.

But bottom line, I ask myself this question when it comes to women.

Does it feel like trying to push a square peg in a round hole?

If the answer is yes then she is not for you, plain and simple. I've been there believe me.

My advice?

Move on and enjoy your life and when you meet a girl who you connect to seamlessly, have fun with her and see how it goes. Don't waste your time with incongruous pegs and holes! Life, genuinely, is too bloody short.
 

hollywood9826

Hall of Fame
Usually when you have to ask a question like this you already know the answer.

You still should have replied to valentines day text and hit it while you had the chance though.

Sorry
 
This is something that has been picking at my brain for a while. Years ago, I used to really like this girl. We were friends, but in reality, I wanted more. The problem was that she never seemed to like me. She was into cocky confident guys who turned out to be assholes to her. All they ever wanted to do was to have sex with her, and that to me was pretty sad. She just wanted a guy to respect her. And of course, she never chose to be with me because she thought I was a little boring and weird at first. But our friendship improved and got much better as time went by. I never told her I liked her because I was too scared, but deep down, I knew she didn't want me.

When she left to go to Florida from Boston, I still kept in contact with her through Facebook. Then there was a time where she went back to attend a friend's funeral. It was a sad moment, and I was there with her mourning our friend's death with a group of other friends. As she left, I heard she needed a ride to the airport. I thought that it would be a good idea to help her since none or our other friends couldn't do that favor for her. I got her number and texted her. Even though she was all set and even thanked me, she still kept my number until February.

Then on Valentine's Day, I got a text from her saying "Happy Valentine's Day!" I mean she could've waited until Christmas or New Year's. I'm just wondering if she was finally admitting that she like me or not. It felt unreal knowing that the girl I've liked for years is actually giving me a chance, but then again, we were too far away. I ended up not keeping her number because I didn't want her to be hurt like I was. I really liked her a lot, but I knew a friendship was more meaningful. It was the one time she may have liked me, but I didn't want her to.

When I contacted her on Facebook for her birthday, she was very defensive. I wasn't trying to touch base of how I didn't keep her number or how I rejected her at all. But she assumed that I still liked her and that I still wanted her. In the end, we still remained friends and she kept my number as I gave it to her once again; however, she wouldn't give me hers. So did she really liked me during Valentine's Day? Or was it just a friendly text? No other girl has texted that to me. And I also assumed that she knew I liked her. To this day, I still have some feelings for her, but now I know it's too late. So what do you guys think? Did she liked me or not?
I really feel for you, as I know what you are going through. Women (or at least a large number of them) operate on a different wave length. Attempting to understand them would be like trying to listen to a radio station from a different frequency.

At least be grateful that things didn't go anywhere (vs actually turning sour).

I recommend you watch The War of the Roses, especially the last scene. Once a woman has crossed that threshold where she feels contempt for you, God help you. We men get mad. Women turn evil. ;)
 
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heninfan99

Talk Tennis Guru
I really feel for you, as I know what you are going through. Women (or at least a large number of them) operate on a different wave length. Attempting to understand them would be like trying to listen to a radio station from a different frequency.

At least be grateful that things didn't go anywhere (vs actually turning sour).

I recommend you watch The War of the Roses, especially the last scene. Once a woman has crossed that threshold where she feels contempt for you, God help you. We men get mad. Women turn evil. ;)
you sound very mgtow rusty
 

Disgruntled Worker

Professional
:) next time play it safe: ignore to score..

All I wanted was some closure on other factors of our friendship. In the end, I wasn't sure if there was true closure and I felt pretty ****ty that she shut me down immediately. It's stupid. Even though I've liked her for years while she was chasing assholes. She never paid any attention to me. And now I feel like s h i t.

I'm stressed out to the point where I'm having trouble sleeping. I'm afraid that I won't be able to keep my job because of all these tasks and all these mistakes. I don't know what to do but to hang in there. This kind of reminds me of when I was in college and finals was coming. Anyway, thanks for the support.
 

heninfan99

Talk Tennis Guru
Don't worry I am sure things will improve but those guys she chased, don't think of them as assholes, that's a losers mindset. They r just guys, like you, just as horny but less lonely, befriend them.

All I wanted was some closure on other factors of our friendship. In the end, I wasn't sure if there was true closure and I felt pretty ****ty that she shut me down immediately. It's stupid. Even though I've liked her for years while she was chasing assholes. She never paid any attention to me. And now I feel like s h i t.

I'm stressed out to the point where I'm having trouble sleeping. I'm afraid that I won't be able to keep my job because of all these tasks and all these mistakes. I don't know what to do but to hang in there. This kind of reminds me of when I was in college and finals was coming. Anyway, thanks for the support.
 

Legend of Borg

G.O.A.T.
Don't worry I am sure things will improve but those guys she chased, don't think of them as assholes, that's a losers mindset. They r just guys, like you, just as horny but less lonely, befriend them.

as if women aren't just as if not more horny than men

women's "purity" is a myth...
 
^indeed. A quiick wit!^

Hey rusty cackleford, did the moniker, "ZingerTom" just catch on?
Hoping so.

Also...disgruntled friendzone resident (sorrymate)....
I peronally get the feeling she digs you. But she does not really know it, so she was looking to either find out or just torque you up. I think you might have to communicate with her. But psychically, you'll have to know whether to be coy or confident and overt. I am for confident and overt, especially since she lives far far away. But you will have to trust your gut more than your fellow tennisgeeks.
See what's up with her. Ask her out next time you two are in the same area code.
Worst case, you get some closure from a lady who lives far far away. Best case, well, great relationship. But somewhere in the middle....a fun trip to flahrida this wintah.
 
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stringertom

Bionic Poster
^indeed. A quiick wit!^

Hey rusty cackleford, did the moniker, "ZingerTom" just catch on?
Hoping so.

Thanks there, sarcastic swiper. My long sentence inside the sewretchian vorteks in his version of the Hotel San Poobiego helped me sharpen my steely knife that has yet to kill the beast but its pointy little tip can poke Spanky Monkeyford when he makes outlandish claims to be a Dwight Clark or an Odell Beckham Jr. In fact, his position on the baseball diamond of this forum lately has been catcher for the arsenal of curveballs our Aussie ace Fartleby delivers from the pitching mound.

But I digress and my apologies to Unhappy Drone for hijacking the Dear Abby thread. He already thinks I'm a jerk so I won't be getting elected in November again. Or, will I? It seems that's all you have to be to get on the ballot these days.
 

Disgruntled Worker

Professional
Thanks there, sarcastic swiper. My long sentence inside the sewretchian vorteks in his version of the Hotel San Poobiego helped me sharpen my steely knife that has yet to kill the beast but its pointy little tip can poke Spanky Monkeyford when he makes outlandish claims to be a Dwight Clark or an Odell Beckham Jr. In fact, his position on the baseball diamond of this forum lately has been catcher for the arsenal of curveballs our Aussie ace Fartleby delivers from the pitching mound.

But I digress and my apologies to Unhappy Drone for hijacking the Dear Abby thread. He already thinks I'm a jerk so I won't be getting elected in November again. Or, will I? It seems that's all you have to be to get on the ballot these days.

I don't mind you hijacking my thread. Just keep the sureshs crap to, like, 50 pages instead of the usual 200.
 

mightyrick

Legend
This is something that has been picking at my brain for a while. Years ago, I used to really like this girl. We were friends, but in reality, I wanted more. The problem was that she never seemed to like me. She was into cocky confident guys who turned out to be assholes to her. All they ever wanted to do was to have sex with her, and that to me was pretty sad. She just wanted a guy to respect her. And of course, she never chose to be with me because she thought I was a little boring and weird at first. But our friendship improved and got much better as time went by. I never told her I liked her because I was too scared, but deep down, I knew she didn't want me.

Move on. IMHO, when it comes to relationships, if you have to chase anybody really hard... it simply isn't worth it. They either like you and are open, or they aren't. But if you have to sit around and constantly wonder about it, just move on. Either she isn't ready or interested... or you really aren't ready or interested. As you get older, you'll tend to really tire of people who incessantly want to be chased, begged, prodded, coddled, etc.

Unfortunately, mainstream movies tend to paint very unrealistic (and unhealthy IMHO) pictures of how relationships between two people should start.
 

Frost5541

Professional
This is something that has been picking at my brain for a while. Years ago, I used to really like this girl. We were friends, but in reality, I wanted more. The problem was that she never seemed to like me. She was into cocky confident guys who turned out to be assholes to her. All they ever wanted to do was to have sex with her, and that to me was pretty sad. She just wanted a guy to respect her. And of course, she never chose to be with me because she thought I was a little boring and weird at first. But our friendship improved and got much better as time went by. I never told her I liked her because I was too scared, but deep down, I knew she didn't want me.

When she left to go to Florida from Boston, I still kept in contact with her through Facebook. Then there was a time where she went back to attend a friend's funeral. It was a sad moment, and I was there with her mourning our friend's death with a group of other friends. As she left, I heard she needed a ride to the airport. I thought that it would be a good idea to help her since none or our other friends couldn't do that favor for her. I got her number and texted her. Even though she was all set and even thanked me, she still kept my number until February.

Then on Valentine's Day, I got a text from her saying "Happy Valentine's Day!" I mean she could've waited until Christmas or New Year's. I'm just wondering if she was finally admitting that she like me or not. It felt unreal knowing that the girl I've liked for years is actually giving me a chance, but then again, we were too far away. I ended up not keeping her number because I didn't want her to be hurt like I was. I really liked her a lot, but I knew a friendship was more meaningful. It was the one time she may have liked me, but I didn't want her to.

When I contacted her on Facebook for her birthday, she was very defensive. I wasn't trying to touch base of how I didn't keep her number or how I rejected her at all. But she assumed that I still liked her and that I still wanted her. In the end, we still remained friends and she kept my number as I gave it to her once again; however, she wouldn't give me hers. So did she really liked me during Valentine's Day? Or was it just a friendly text? No other girl has texted that to me. And I also assumed that she knew I liked her. To this day, I still have some feelings for her, but now I know it's too late. So what do you guys think? Did she liked me or not?
as a kid who lives in a country where ever 2nd person has 4-5 girlfriends, i speak from other peoples experience.

i would guess she liked you, but tbh, it was your fault to not try to get to 2nd base when she texted you. (2nd base, as in, meet up more and get to know each other to the point where you could read her like a book. not in any sexual manner type of 2nd base, and anyway, you seem like a responsible guy.)
 
^indeed. A quiick wit!^

Hey rusty cackleford, did the moniker, "ZingerTom" just catch on?
Hoping so.

Also...disgruntled friendzone resident (sorrymate)....
I peronally get the feeling she digs you. But she does not really know it, so she was looking to either find out or just torque you up. I think you might have to communicate with her. But psychically, you'll have to know whether to be coy or confident and overt. I am for confident and overt, especially since she lives far far away. But you will have to trust your gut more than your fellow tennisgeeks.
See what's up with her. Ask her out next time you two are in the same area code.
Worst case, you get some closure from a lady who lives far far away. Best case, well, great relationship. But somewhere in the middle....a fun trip to flahrida this wintah.
ZingerTom is a good moniker indeed, because Tom always delivers.
 
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