Ok, so I should probably go through the full story. I live in Shanghai China, this girl lives in Wuhan China (she is Chinese), I met her online, through ICQ about a year before I came to China. We spent a great deal of time chatting online. Thing is, I knew it then and it's even more apparent now, but she was desperate to get married before she turned 30 because of some weird Chinese custom (apparently if you are unmarried after 30 then no man will even look at you let alone marry you). Anyway we stopped talking to each other about 6 months before I came to China, and I'd all but forgotten about her, I had applied to go to study Chinese at Wuhan University, but I met a new girl in Shanghai (also through icq). So I then applied for university in Shanghai, however roughly one week before I came to China the first girl (from Wuhan) called me and asked me to go to Wuhan instead, but I refused because I couldn't break up with the new girl. This hurt her a lot, after about 2 or 3 months in China I did break up with the new girl, because I couldn't get the first girl out of my head. We started dating, but she never really trusted me, I would make frequent trips to Wuhan, but she kept accusing me of cheating on her, and got really angry at any behaviour she deemed out of the ordinary. She also kept threatening to sleep with other guys if I misbehaved. My friends in Shanghai kept telling me to dump her, but I couldn't do it. She also had this nasty habit of stonewalling me by turning off her phone then going to sleep after getting really angry with me over the smallest little thing, when there was really no reason to get angry at all. I planned on marrying her, but the problem was that I am still married to a girl in the UK because my divorce hasn't arrived yet. She kept putting a lot of pressure on me to get a divorce quickly, presumably so she could marry me. Well it turned out my ex wife (also Chinese) was coming to China to see her family in the north for Chinese new year. All of my friends had gone home, leaving me in Shanghai alone, so my ex wife's mum invited me to go to their home for Chinese new year. The last time I visited them I had a really good time, so I thought I would have a good time this time. My gf wanted me to go to Wuhan, so i told her I would, but my gf refused to introduce me to her family because I was still "married", and I told her I would go to Wuhan but she insisted on me going to my ex wife's home. At my ex wifes home I had a miserable time, so I told my gf that I would leave early and come home, we had a fight via text message, and I ended up jumping on a plane to Wuhan and meeting her. That night I got food poisoning and spent all evening throwing up. The very next day we went to Shanghai together. She got really angry with me because I have this very old nail biting habit, and couldn't stop it no matter how many times she told me to. She started stonewalling me again, but I talked her around. As we got back to my home in Shanghai I suddenly just didn't feel any connection to her at all, and I thought "this isn't a relationship" I wanted to break up with her but decided to sleep on it. The next day she got pissed off with me again for watching TV shows on my computer early in the morning while she was trying to sleep, and because this was the second time she'd asked me not to do that it was now unacceptable. She walked out of my house to see her friend, and that was the last time I saw her. Now I don't know what to do because I just can't stop thinking about her. It's driving me crazy, and I don't know why I'm putting myself through this, when I should clearly just move on. Now she has a new bf who apparently is much better than me, she won't talk to me even, doesn't answer my calls, doesn't reply my texts, reply to my emails, nothing. I really don't know what to do.