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So would you rather have a dude be indirect and try to get in your pants or be direct about it? Personally I would rather not waste my time and play ridiculous games. At first sight, attraction is largely physical, especially so for men, you have to understand that. By that same token, I bet you would rather have a man who looks like Brad Pitt than a guy that looks like Bill Gates approach you uninvited.Ahem! Maybe it's because:
a) 99% of the time, a random dude who comes up to you and talks to you uninvited IS just trying to get in your pants, whether he knows it or not;
I'm curious as to what happens when a genuinely friendly and outgoing guy approaches you; I guess you put up a shield and test him?b) most of the guys who are just "friendly and outgoing and stuff" are actually priming you for their eventual "strong move";
I guess you must be attracting some socially un-savvy men, because they should know that they need to win the group over before the girlc) it's embarrassing, esp. if you're out with your male friends, when some ********* or another gets up in your grill (trying to get in your pants), so you try to nip the situation in the bud from the get-go; and
Sounds like you get validation for your ego being to shut down these men.d) you've had to shut down a short parade of losers already in one night, so the next guy that talks to you gets the quick and brutal blow-off because you just don't want to deal with one more stupid conversation with some *********, period, and you don't give him a chance to demonstrate that he is not, in fact, trying to get in your pants. Tough luck for you both.
Mention it.Now a question for you:
When I actually *do* get into a decent conversation with a guy I don't really know, and I genuinely CAN'T tell whether he's hitting on me, I am torn between two options:
1) mentioning my boyfriend, just so that he knows that I'm spoken for and therefore I cannot be accused of leading on or teasing
2) not mentioning him, because I don't want the guy to get all cranky thinking I assumed he was hitting on me, and thus ruin our conversation and any fun we could have had.