How low is this?

ksqwqb

New User
OK, I need some opinions here. My buddy and I both took up tennis about a year ago. Really love it. We decided to take lessons together a few months ago. Pretty sporadic, maybe one lesson a month at most. All of a sudden he starts getting a lot better than me, I'm thinking what's going on here, then I find out from my wife she saw him at the club taking private lessons! And he never told me! Is this low or what? Should I immediately sever all ties with this phony or what? Comments please. . .
 

lolsmash

Rookie
well, not really. He doesn't need to tell you everything he does unless you both made an agreement to tell each other exactly what you are doing in tennis. If he felt that he needs to take them to improve, then let him. If you are mad that he is taking private lessons and is improving, then go ahead and take them too.
 

drakulie

Talk Tennis Guru
This thread is funny. :)

Dude, just worry about your own game. You make it sound like he is cheating. LOL
 

SFrazeur

Legend
You want REVENGE, you want to GET BACK at him? You DO don't YOU. Listen closely. . . while his not at the club, go there, and take private lessons!

It's just diabolical enough to work!

-SF
 

kck123

New User
I salute him for trying to get better. I mean, why do you care that he is taking lessons? You must be worried that he is slowly getting better than you.

You should commend your buddy for trying to get better. It's not his fault that he thought of doing this before you did!!!!!
 

xie_419

Rookie
OK, I need some opinions here. My buddy and I both took up tennis about a year ago. Really love it. We decided to take lessons together a few months ago. Pretty sporadic, maybe one lesson a month at most. All of a sudden he starts getting a lot better than me, I'm thinking what's going on here, then I find out from my wife she saw him at the club taking private lessons! And he never told me! Is this low or what? Should I immediately sever all ties with this phony or what? Comments please. . .
I'm surprised no one has mentioned the obvious solution.. kill him? ;)
 
:O ...I would feel pissed too man. I remember when my dog broke free from his leash and ran away. But, don't worry, your buddy will come back, just like my dog did. I hope you had an ID on his collar.
 

Mountain Ghost

Professional
Is It a Low Blow?

There’s something not right here, but it’s not about secretly taking private lessons per se. It’s about the intentional withholding of any technical information that might help you (his “buddy”) to improve as well. I had a number of tennis buddies throughout my younger years, and we were always on the exact same quest . . . to improve. If one of us discovered something that really helped his game, he would automatically share it with the other. Holding back on valuable tips would have been considered competitive on a “non-buddy” level. In tournaments, and even in practice matches, we would certainly try to blast each other off the court, but in training we were either on the same team . . . or NOT!

MG
 
OK, I need some opinions here. My buddy and I both took up tennis about a year ago. Really love it. We decided to take lessons together a few months ago. Pretty sporadic, maybe one lesson a month at most. All of a sudden he starts getting a lot better than me, I'm thinking what's going on here, then I find out from my wife she saw him at the club taking private lessons! And he never told me! Is this low or what? Should I immediately sever all ties with this phony or what? Comments please. . .
I know ... find out what time he has tennis lessons, then start sneaking around with *his* wife during them. That will show him. :p
 

Jay27

Rookie
C'mon man. I don't believe you hate the idea that he's taking private lessons secretly, but rather that you didn't think of it before he did.

I had a situation once where my buddy picked up a tennis racket for the first time and he immediately picked up on tennis. It was a little intimidating at first because it took me months and months before I attained what he did within a few hours. At first, I didn't want him to succeed, but soon found that was stupid. I was a little jealous that he was learning tennis so rapidly. Then, a few months later, we played a match. He actually took a couple games off me (this was about 2 years ago). It was then that I knew I had to do something to improve my game. And I did.

He basically has not improved past the 3.5 level. But, more importantly...we're still friends, and I still try to help him whenever he asks.
 

chipsbuzz

New User
Probably playing devil's advocate... but maybe your wife took the oppurtunity of seeing your friend getting better and just told you he's taking lessons to "justify" how he's getting better so that you would spend less time with your tennis bud and more time with your wifey.

lol. not everything has to revolve around tennis. Plus, people get better at different paces. Who knows...
 

darkblue

Semi-Pro
OK, I need some opinions here. My buddy and I both took up tennis about a year ago. Really love it. We decided to take lessons together a few months ago. Pretty sporadic, maybe one lesson a month at most. All of a sudden he starts getting a lot better than me, I'm thinking what's going on here, then I find out from my wife she saw him at the club taking private lessons! And he never told me! Is this low or what? Should I immediately sever all ties with this phony or what? Comments please. . .

u sound like a girl
 

goober

Legend
Ooh your tennis partner is taking lessons behind your back. The injustice!:)
If you love tennis as much as you say you do, you should be happy that you have a partner that is better than you and will be pushing you in your practice matches and rallies.

I don't know what pretty much all the people I play with do for tennis when they are not playing me. I know some of them play way more than I do and take lessons, but seriously that's good for them if they can do it. I just don't have enough time.

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Milano

Rookie
OK, I need some opinions here. My buddy and I both took up tennis about a year ago. Really love it. We decided to take lessons together a few months ago. Pretty sporadic, maybe one lesson a month at most. All of a sudden he starts getting a lot better than me, I'm thinking what's going on here, then I find out from my wife she saw him at the club taking private lessons! And he never told me! Is this low or what? Should I immediately sever all ties with this phony or what? Comments please. . .
I think you should divorce him...
 

dacrymn

Professional
Not low. Why should you be offended? Did you PROMISE each other that you wouldn't go competitive? Does he want to make you look bad? No, he just wants to get better. If he's crushing you and laughing about it, well that's different. You really shouldn't even care. If you guys are friends, try to pick up on what he's learning.
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Cirrus
 
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kck123

New User
Okay, I am the one taking the secret lessons.

Does the fact that he beats me on a very regular basis make any difference on why I decided to take the lessons??
 

lecter255

Rookie
dude u should be glad you have a dedicated tennis partner. it's kinda hard to find regular hitting partners =(
 

Noveson

Hall of Fame
No see this is low. One of my best friends got me started on tennis before our freshman years. His dad is the coach of the team and he has been playing all his life, while I started playing when I moved to where I am now and met him. So I have been catching him very quickly in these years, to the point where now I am as good as or better. So suddenly his Dad(the coach) starts taking him to the courts every morning and takes out the team ball machine and works with him. He told me himself that it wasn't his idea, and that his dad didn't want me coming. There isn't really any other people I can play with, so now I am stuck home when I know he is out practicing. Now that makes me mad. Especially since I don't have the same opportunity to use the ball machine, and now I have nobody to play with except lower level players.
 

sapient007

Semi-Pro
Okay, I am the one taking the secret lessons.

Does the fact that he beats me on a very regular basis make any difference on why I decided to take the lessons??
assuming that you already have a wedding ring on your finger.. does your buddy and you have some kinda of secret c@@@@ck ring that you 2 both sport?? if not, then you are not secretly married to each other either so he doesn't need to tell you shiet even if he's taking private lessons from your wife.

what a bunch of cry babies
 

ksqwqb

New User
OK, a little update for you guys. I confronted him the other day, told him I knew everything. At first he's like "that wasn't me, I don't know what you're talking about" but then when I showed him the photos/video of course he broke down crying, sobbing, telling me how sorry he is, blah blah blah . . .So I forgave him, just made him promise never to do it again, now we're back together again, was this the right thing to do?
 

Ronny

Hall of Fame
seriously, have a sad...hes just trying to get better and you're trying to stop him. let him do what he wants, and why did u take videos and photos of him playing in a lesson....are you a stalker or something?
 

armand

Banned
:O ...I would feel pissed too man. I remember when my dog broke free from his leash and ran away. But, don't worry, your buddy will come back, just like my dog did. I hope you had an ID on his collar.
LOL good one.

To the OP: is it a money issue?

It's just a matter of commitment. He enjoys tennis more than you so wants to improve faster. He's not gonna get stuck at the 3.0 level(or wherever) because you can't unglue your eyes from the television set.
 
OK, a little update for you guys. I confronted him the other day, told him I knew everything. At first he's like "that wasn't me, I don't know what you're talking about" but then when I showed him the photos/video of course he broke down crying, sobbing, telling me how sorry he is, blah blah blah . . .So I forgave him, just made him promise never to do it again, now we're back together again, was this the right thing to do?
Ok, this must be a joke! It was a pretty funny one. If you are not joking, then I think you may have some "issues", especially if you photographed/videod him taking lessons.
What your hitting partner does on his own time is HIS business. If he wants a private lesson/lessons, he doesn't need your approval. If one of my hitting partners stalked me like you stalked him, I'd tell him to go (blank) himself. So please just tell us that you were pulling our legs, you can't be serious! LOL
 

zapvor

G.O.A.T.
i dont know if you guys noticed, but i think these 2 are just goofballs. remember the other thread where they had the other time about ntrp and saying who was who in the video? i think they are just trying to pull our legs here.
 

kck123

New User
please Zapfor...stop flirting with me. I'm married, and I am male....just like you.

Okay, here is my issue. I go to have a lesson. All of a sudden, my playing partner's wife is all up in my grill video taping me. I mean...what tha??? I'm just trying to get better at tennis...why is she filming the way my buttocks moves during my sAAAA-wEEEEt backhand. I almost feel a little violated.

We played today...6-4, 6-1. Why shouldn't I take lessons...BTW...I am the one that lost.
 

kck123

New User
assuming that you already have a wedding ring on your finger.. does your buddy and you have some kinda of secret c@@@@ck ring that you 2 both sport?? if not, then you are not secretly married to each other either so he doesn't need to tell you shiet even if he's taking private lessons from your wife.

what a bunch of cry babies
You are a piece of organic she-it.

You are an idiot. I am the one taking lessons...he is the one stalking me. Actually, he (and his wife) asked me and my family to go on a beach vacation in a couple of weeks. Should we be worried?

What is a c@@@@ck ring anyway??
 

zapvor

G.O.A.T.
please Zapfor...stop flirting with me. I'm married, and I am male....just like you.

Okay, here is my issue. I go to have a lesson. All of a sudden, my playing partner's wife is all up in my grill video taping me. I mean...what tha??? I'm just trying to get better at tennis...why is she filming the way my buttocks moves during my sAAAA-wEEEEt backhand. I almost feel a little violated.

We played today...6-4, 6-1. Why shouldn't I take lessons...BTW...I am the one that lost.
kpl124, stop flirting with me. I'm married, and I am male....just like you.

Okay, here is my issue. I go to have a lesson. All of a sudden, my playing partner's wife is all up in my grill video taping me. I mean...what tha??? I'm just trying to get better at tennis...why is she filming the way my buttocks moves during my sAAAA-wEEEEt backhand. I almost feel a little violated.

We played today...6-4, 6-1. Why shouldn't I take lessons...BTW...I am the one that lost.
 
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