How many of you are genuine friends with your hitting partners?

Bambooman

Professional
I was almost friends with my most frequent hitting partner and mentor and then it cooled off when I started to catch up to him and push him. Last year we car pooled to doubles leagues and this year he did not join and never mentioned it.

We're neighbors but now he basically crosses the street to avoid me.
 

Rosstour

Legend
My two hitting partners are also my best buddies.

Still have my all time best buds from high school but right now, locally, my tennis friends are my best friends.
 

faded_lines

Rookie
I have a few hitting partners that I am good friends with and have known for a long time.

I also have met a lot of new hitting partners, that are just that.
 

ChaelAZ

G.O.A.T.
You know, not just the tennis equivalent of coworkers, but people you actually hang out with off the court and know well personally.

I often go out with several of my teammates and their wives for dinner, drinks, and just hanging. They are not over for Netflix and chill, but they are really good peeps and I would even be down for that. Some are more of just general friends though, and while we talk about more than tennis we don't get together all that often outside of tennis tied stuff.
 

BlueB

Legend
I have coached a pretty good friend of mine, from a 0 to a hero, over a period of several years. Eventually, he was good enough to hang with me even playing sets. It was great...
Then we had a non-tennis related fallout... He now lives in a different province. No idea if he still plays tennis.

With another of my playing partners, I occasionally have lunches.

There was another chap, who was my snowsports, tennis, skateboarding and hang out buddy. Since Covid started, he pretty much lost interest in sports and completely in socializing :(

Two other people that I snowboard with and occasionally hang out with, I introduced to tennis and started teaching a bit. They didn't develop enough to be the hitting partners.

When I go to Europe, I play tennis with lots of my buddies. Some are good. Unfortunately, the ones that I'm closest to, are shockingly bad. We still play :)
 

silverwyvern4

New User
I often go out with several of my teammates and their wives for dinner, drinks, and just hanging. They are not over for Netflix and chill, but they are really good peeps and I would even be down for that. Some are more of just general friends though, and while we talk about more than tennis we don't get together all that often outside of tennis tied stuff.
You would be down to netflix and chill with your teammates and their wives?
 
an unbelievable but internet believable username and avatar to kick this thread off. im wondering if this is someone's burner. well done, sir.
 

DeeeFoo

Rookie
Most of my hitting circle were already my friends before we started playing tennis together. One of them is a close friend that I hit with since he was a beginner, and I basically hit with him for years to the point where he's now a really solid player. We still hit regularly.

I've also met a few good friends through tennis, and we're now all part of the same tennis friend group. Before covid, we would go out to eat together, have cookouts, and invite each other over for food or to play video games. They're all really good at cooking, so it's never a bad meal when they're in charge.
 

MarinaHighTennis

Professional
I'm usually close friends with those who play tennis. Since my time is limited my hangouts are tennis hangouts and we talk/bond thru the process of playing. Friends that stopped playing I tend to not see very often besides a dinner every few months. I can't imagine once I get married/have kids and having even less time for myself in terms of friends, exercise, etc.
 

GummiiBear

Rookie
My hitting partner is my roommate. While I've years more of previous experience with the sport, he's been taking lessons with the same coach I have and I'd say he's improved to be considered an intermediate-ish player now. Given that we share a bedroom, I certainly hope we're friends. :p

I have another person I played a couple matches against through UTR Flex, and he and I have met up to hit and play practice sets a handful of times. I hope to keep that going more regularly in the coming months. I have a teammate (USTA) who was the other singles player on our team, and she and I have played practice sets at least a couple times. That is, outside the team-informal practice sessions. Our schedules don't allow for us to play together as often as we'd both like, but that'd also be nice to keep going. I'm not sure I would go so far as to say I'm friends with either of them (yet?). The guy is ~20 years older than me and, when we hit together it feels strictly "business" (exaggerating). As for my teammate from earlier this year, she's ~10 years younger and we are probably more friendly in how we interact. But it's been weeks since we were last in contact.
 

HBK4life

Professional
On the flip side. Are their people that you won’t play with? I have one. Constantly tried to hit me in doubles. The final straw was a ball going out and he takes a swinging f hand volley at me. I dropped my hands a bit as the ball was sailing. I got them up in time to deflect it a bit. That was that. Anytime I am asked to play in a group with that person it’s a quick no for me.
 
I was almost friends with my most frequent hitting partner and mentor and then it cooled off when I started to catch up to him and push him. Last year we car pooled to doubles leagues and this year he did not join and never mentioned it.

We're neighbors but now he basically crosses the street to avoid me.
The sport is full of petty people like this, it's sad to witness.
 

FedLIKEnot

Professional
This is a funny question I was just speaking with a hitting partner about this. While we regularly check in on things outside of tennis we are the equivalent to tennis co-workers, it does seems more than half of our club are friends. Superficially friends of course. As some have mentioned tennis is a petty, fickle thing. I remember there was a huge blowup in 2018 when someone made a districts or bust sort of team and omitted more than half of their "friends" who they'd played with in the past. Needless to say they are not exactly friends anymore. So to me what is the point.

I have a ton of amazing acquaintances I have met through tennis, and that is good enough for me. Besides in my professional life I have to be charismatic and charming which I am good at, but it doesn't come naturally to me and I would just rather not have to do that any more than what is required. Haha.
 

cortado

Professional
I'm on good terms with everybody that I hit with but I don't really socialise with them outside of tennis.
I like that though. It's not anti-social, it's just our thing is tennis. We don't need to sit around talking about politics.
We converse through playing.
 

aa2

New User
Better friends with some than others. As a woman who hits with mostly men, sometimes feelings get in the way and that is kind of a drag. Let's just hit some balls. A good hitting partner is hard to find.
 

zaskar1

Semi-Pro
i only practice with one of my doubles partner and wife, so we are great friends. you dont have to be friends with a
hitting partner, but it makes tennis more fun
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