many of my long-time opponents didn’t want to play singles against me anymore as the results were getting one-sided. I couldn’t get players my age to play regularly because they were getting outmatched from not training as hard as me under coaching supervision. Players much younger than me who had college experience also didn’t want to play much if they incurred a few losses because it hurt their egos too much to lose in singles against someone old enough to be their dad - if they won, they just beat a guy old enough to be their dad and there wasn’t much bragging rights about that either at the club.
Wow. While I understand the logic behind situation, it totally doesn’t gel with my altitude towards tennis. How can I not love getting my a… wooped regularly by better player! Facing a senior to me who actually plays great game is fascinating. Ego — well yeah, it hurts, but it fuels my tanks for more training. And the crowd around the tourneys I play is mostly the same.
There’s that guy who complains about trained youngsters who c’mon at him drilling full-power FHs left and right after he paid participation fee… but he’s like alone, and overall still fun competitor to face every now and then.
But I live in big city, and you hardly ever have a chance to get better than everyone… you can get into ProAm doubles for example, including mixed ProAm doubles, where you get you coach-trained ego destroyed by young ladies
Club dudes still love you as you improve, they just pair you with the weakest hack around and love to try to beat you by hitting to your partner…
Singles — yeah, need to sign up for higher-level tournaments and leagues to play. But still enough depth in this sea, unless you are 5.5+
Again, I see how smaller town may have too shallow waters for you to find competition. But all that “they don’t want to play you once you’ve improved” situation is believe-able, but weird to me. Play handicapped after all, if you 6:1 6:2 them start 0:15 every game and see where it ends.
(PS I got suggested 15:0 advantage on games and it hurt my ego then, I preferred to loose 1:6 or even get bageled… but if we played regularly with that guy, I would eventually accept!)