How to find the love for the game again

AHJS

Professional
In the summer of 2015 I loved playing, played 20+ hours a week and had a great time. The fall season in school tennis was awesome and I played great the whole season. In November and December out of nowhere it started becoming less and less interesting and I started losing more and more. Per the advice of many, I took a break from playing for a month, and still haven't found the desire to start competing. I've been playing 10 or so hours a week but have gotten significantly worse than I was 5 or so months ago.
How can I find the love for the game again?
 

blip

Rookie
Buy a shiny new racket or demo a few with different technologies you wanted always try.

Get into a new league with new players to DESTROY!
 

AHJS

Professional
Set a target if that helps drive you or pick up the phone and call people you used to play with but dont spend much time with any more?
See, all the people I hit with I still do hit with and am good friends with still. But I do like the goal/target setting idea!
 

dgold44

G.O.A.T.
In the summer of 2015 I loved playing, played 20+ hours a week and had a great time. The fall season in school tennis was awesome and I played great the whole season. In November and December out of nowhere it started becoming less and less interesting and I started losing more and more. Per the advice of many, I took a break from playing for a month, and still haven't found the desire to start competing. I've been playing 10 or so hours a week but have gotten significantly worse than I was 5 or so months ago.
How can I find the love for the game again?
You are overtrainning and playing too much.
If you lower the hours and days you will find new energy and spark.
I know your peers play 20-30 hours per week but maybe you should add on a new sport too.
 

dgold44

G.O.A.T.
You live in Texas... right.. I would avoid bull riding or boxing but try something like basketball ??
 

Dartagnan64

G.O.A.T.
I know a few people out there like the OP. Get really hot on a sport then cool right off. It's clearly a personality thing. They fall in love with the skill progression then lose interest as they level off.

I'm never sure how one reignites the flame if you are one of those types. I find joy in sports in hitting the good shot. The nice topspin forehand to the corner, the crisp volley, the long drive down the centre cut, the birdie putt, the smooth carve of a snowboard over powder. It's the feeling and adrenalin rush of those great shots amidst a slew of bad to mediocre shots that keep me coming back to sports. Intermittent rewards are the most addictive.
 

AHJS

Professional
I know a few people out there like the OP. Get really hot on a sport then cool right off. It's clearly a personality thing. They fall in love with the skill progression then lose interest as they level off.

I'm never sure how one reignites the flame if you are one of those types. I find joy in sports in hitting the good shot. The nice topspin forehand to the corner, the crisp volley, the long drive down the centre cut, the birdie putt, the smooth carve of a snowboard over powder. It's the feeling and adrenalin rush of those great shots amidst a slew of bad to mediocre shots that keep me coming back to sports. Intermittent rewards are the most addictive.
Maybe I didn't give the whole story. I've been heavily invested in the sport for around 4 years now, I was just giving the reference of the summer, so its not so much leveling off as I've fought through many plateaus before.
 

user92626

G.O.A.T.
Maybe I didn't give the whole story. I've been heavily invested in the sport for around 4 years now, I was just giving the reference of the summer, so its not so much leveling off as I've fought through many plateaus before.
What exactly do you mean by "invested in the sport"? Like spent big bucks in coaching, training?
 

Curiosity

Professional
It is possible that you have fallen in love, or into depression, or both, which is quite common.

Barring those, single out the practice partners you most enjoy hitting with, and avoid any, for a time, who take the fun out of it.

Find the most attractive college-age coach in the area and take a few lessons.....
 

shindemac

Hall of Fame
If you've gone thru this before, then i wouldn't worry about it and do what you did before. There are prolly causes for these dips and peaks, but you're not aware of them. As you become older, you're prolly be more aware of the tendencies of your body and just ignore it when stuff like this happens. IOW, it's impossible for us to speculate why you lost interest, and therefore to offer sound advices.
 

esgee48

Legend
If you want to feel good, give something back. Offer to teach beginners. Volunteer to be an official. Just play for fun for a period rather than league or touraments. See how seniors enjoy the game (I know that they're happy to be alive and still moving!) and emulate their mindset. You can always find reasons to enjoy or hate a sport. It's all up to you. BTW, if work is interfering with your playing hours, let the hours go. We are not pros and don't have to be out there in the sunshine chasing da yellow ball. HTH.
 

dgold44

G.O.A.T.
I am pretty sure he does not work


If you want to feel good, give something back. Offer to teach beginners. Volunteer to be an official. Just play for fun for a period rather than league or touraments. See how seniors enjoy the game (I know that they're happy to be alive and still moving!) and emulate their mindset. You can always find reasons to enjoy or hate a sport. It's all up to you. BTW, if work is interfering with your playing hours, let the hours go. We are not pros and don't have to be out there in the sunshine chasing da yellow ball. HTH.
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AHJS

Professional
If you've gone thru this before, then i wouldn't worry about it and do what you did before. There are prolly causes for these dips and peaks, but you're not aware of them. As you become older, you're prolly be more aware of the tendencies of your body and just ignore it when stuff like this happens. IOW, it's impossible for us to speculate why you lost interest, and therefore to offer sound advices.
I've gone through slumps, but nothing like this before :|
 

Dartagnan64

G.O.A.T.
I know a few people out there like the OP. Get really hot on a sport then cool right off. It's clearly a personality thing. They fall in love with the skill progression then lose interest as they level off.

I'm never sure how one reignites the flame if you are one of those types. I find joy in sports in hitting the good shot. The nice topspin forehand to the corner, the crisp volley, the long drive down the centre cut, the birdie putt, the smooth carve of a snowboard over powder. It's the feeling and adrenalin rush of those great shots amidst a slew of bad to mediocre shots that keep me coming back to sports. Intermittent rewards are the most addictive.
Maybe I didn't give the whole story. I've been heavily invested in the sport for around 4 years now, I was just giving the reference of the summer, so its not so much leveling off as I've fought through many plateaus before.
Well I still think the key is to analyze why you loved the game in the first place. Love of sports is all about adrenalin rushes, endorphins and the addiction of intermittent rewards. It's that simple at a physiologic level. What gives you those feelings that make you come back (Great shots, winning matches, good workout, skill progression, camaraderie)? What is the reason you are no longer getting those experiences (level of play plateaued, deteriorating skills, no longer winning, no friends to play with)? If you are getting those experiences, why aren't you getting stoked to play (undiagnosed depression, physical pain, life stresses)?

Until you look closer at yourself in an analytical fashion, you won't be able to figure out why you've lost your desire. The rest of us can't really help you. Only you can figure out these sort of things.
 

AHJS

Professional
Well I still think the key is to analyze why you loved the game in the first place. Love of sports is all about adrenalin rushes, endorphins and the addiction of intermittent rewards. It's that simple at a physiologic level. What gives you those feelings that make you come back (Great shots, winning matches, good workout, skill progression, camaraderie)? What is the reason you are no longer getting those experiences (level of play plateaued, deteriorating skills, no longer winning, no friends to play with)? If you are getting those experiences, why aren't you getting stoked to play (undiagnosed depression, physical pain, life stresses)?

Until you look closer at yourself in an analytical fashion, you won't be able to figure out why you've lost your desire. The rest of us can't really help you. Only you can figure out these sort of things.
Very insightful and helpful. Thank you!
 

Capulin Zurdo

Hall of Fame
Some thoughtful given here; I think most go through slumps like this. For me, I'd reconsider why I love playing. Which the simple reason is just hitting the ball, just playing makes me happy. (And if I'm not content on how I think I should be hitting, then I'd go back to basics)
 
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