GAtennis, I agree with you 100%. When my 12 yo daughter went down last Summer to Florida to train with Harold Solomon, we let her local coach know. I did not want to deal with having to hide it from him and create some unnecessary friction. My daughter was going down to FL anyway to spend time with both grandparents and while their I wanted her to continue with her tennis and so we got her in with Solomon which happens to be a friend of my father. Anyway, her local coach saw it as a positive thing and even requested that we take some video's so he can see what he was working on with her so he can build off what she had learned.
Unfortunately, that coach left the academy last year and I ended up being her main coach since we really have no strong academies in the charlotte area until now with Kriek. Its tough being her full time coach, we tend to argue more, she takes more water breaks, shes seems less focused and shows less intensity. Of course, if I ask her, she will say and feel that she is working hard and giving it her all. But the fact is that she is not. I guess unconsciously she knows she can get away with more with me and not have to prove herself to me as much. On the one hand you want her to practice hard, but on the other hand you still want to keep it fun and have her not hate having to practice with me or being around you off the court. It seems to take me twice as long to accomplish what someone else can do in half the time. Not to say that we don”t have good practices it just takes a lot more out of each of us to do so. I much rather be the dad which chimes in as needed to keep her motivated, interested and support her along the way. As you mentioned, tennis is a very tough sport, mentally, physically and emotionally. It takes a lot of time and dedication. And you need someone around to support and guide you and to keep it fun which is difficult to do if your always telling her what to do as her coach. I am looking forward to passing on the batton on to Kriek this coming Summer.