Lack of togetherness on tennis community ?

Discussion in 'Odds & Ends' started by tenapasi, Mar 2, 2013.

  1. tenapasi

    tenapasi Rookie

    Jul 2, 2010

    I am an avid tennis player. I love this game a lot. In my tennis journey, i've played with many people from many different tennis community/club. And i joined several of them.

    What i notice is, quite a lot of people on the community/club doesn't have a strong feeling of togetherness for their comm/club. The more the people knows each other, the more they tend to gravitate to one another and make their own pack. Which sometimes, they leave the comm/club and join elsewhere.

    The case is not whether the leader are dictator or control freak. They just leave. To create their own group and does not care with their old ones.

    Another story from my friend. He said that when there are tournament, a bunch of people from his club join the tournament without asking other club fellow to join too.
    It's not because the other fellow play worst than them. It's just because they just go together with their own pack.

    Have you guys experience this as well ?
  2. ollinger

    ollinger Legend

    Nov 24, 2004
    New Jersey
    If you believe people should "have a strong feeling of togetherness for their club," how is it that you've played with "many different tennis club." You seem to drift around as much as the people you complain about?
  3. tenapasi

    tenapasi Rookie

    Jul 2, 2010
    I do play and join a couple of community/club. But i am not abandon any of them. Since the play schedule are all different and not clashing with one another.

  4. dennis10is

    dennis10is Banned

    Jun 19, 2005
    Long Island, NY

    google "minimal group effect" and read up on it.

    Basically, I can get any random group of people, split the oen group into two or more groups based the most arbitrary and stupid differences. If I continue to push this "difference" between the two groups, eventually they will gleefully kill each other.

    Humans have the amazing abilitiy to conform and give their lives to somebody who doesn't care for them and at the same time will hate and kill others who they don't even now but were told that these people are "different" from them.

    It is a beautiful thing. BTW, watching Braveheart on AMC, lovely carnage.

    If only we TW posters would leave our rackets and pick up our swords and have at it. "For Freedom!"
  5. Fifth Set

    Fifth Set Professional

    Oct 9, 2009
    Well OP, Dennis' post (and general posting history) pretty much answers your question in a proof in the pudding kind of way.

    Unfortunately, tennis does attract some pompous, selfish jerks.
  6. El Diablo

    El Diablo Guest

    Feb 19, 2004
    Describing people who play tennis as a "community" may be a bit of a stretch. This is especially the case when the thing we share in common is an individual activity with the goal of beating the other guy. As activities go, one that's notably competitive is not likely to create a profound sense of togetherness.
  7. millicurie999

    millicurie999 Semi-Pro

    Jul 10, 2011
    I'll venture to add that the "optimal" group number for recreation tennis is 4 (for double). More than that, you will start having problem getting everyone on the court per outing. Naturally, when there are 4 people that get alone, and play at comparable level, there is no need to add additional players to the setting.

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