Losing to a girl

[coloskier]

Hence my tennis motto:

Never play a match against female or old folks.

If you win, it's as expected;
If you lose, you are sissy.

lose-lose situation.



Now serious, it looks like you are playing against a better player. Make her one of your regular tennis buddies if I were you.

I would add, "never play a match against a female unless you want to sleep with her".

 

[OrangeOne]

Most guys posting here could lose to a woman that's been playing serioulsy.

Most guys here could lose to a girl who has been playing seriously. There are plenty of 14-16 year old girls who are legitimate 4.5s and 5.0s out there, and by legitimate I mean equal-scale to guys. Many seriously playing teenage girls reach this level (and often never go higher, but still), and would destroy 80%+ of the guys on here, whether they'd like to admit it or not.

(Look at the rating-polls on here when they happen, 80%+ of posters are 4.5 or below, and that's with probably half of them self-rating at that).

Before you argue, remember that many of these girls play 6-7 days a week, many hit 100s of balls each session or 1000s of balls a day, many play mixed against the guys in high divisions. They hit a harder rally ball than you, have a mid-court put-away that will make you think you're playing Agassi, and sure, maybe you can serve 10% harder, but their serves go in, and often, and your second serve will be toast served on a platter to them.

Let's get over the gender thing, shall we?

(For the sake of it, I'm a guy. I'm just realistic.)

 

[kevhen]

I have lost to three women in my life. First one was the Illinois state champ and she really walloped me but that got me interested more in becoming good at tennis. The next one was the state champ of Nebraska and she beat me 6-4 in the last set we played but I had won about 10 sets against her. Now this other woman who was rated nationally in D1 (6.0 women's level) can beat me but it doesn't bother me at all since she is so good and I can compete with her and win some games.

I did lose to the #1 woman here at the U of Iowa this spring in doubles and she would beat me in singles too but I enjoyed the experience.

Just use this as a learning experience and to provide you with a goal of getting better. Women are good tennis players too. Be the best that you can be.

 

[In D Zone]

The BALL IS ROUND!

So goes the saying...

It knows no master, no gender nor age. He/ She knows where to bounce the ball wins...

In tennis ... its not any given Sunday. Its every point counts! There is partity in tennis ...... maybe except in the top level 6.0 and above. But again the ball is round.

So its ok to get whooped by a woman opponent!

 

[mucat]

round, curve, female player, bottle opener, hmmm......

 

[luckyfool]

I was beaten by my 21 yr old female friend 2 weeks ago. She's a solid 4.0 player. Do I feel bad about it? No. The scores went like 6-2, 5-7, 3-6.
It's okay to lose to a woman especially those who are better.

 

[Topaz]

Would you be posting this if you had lost to a guy the same way?

Why does it matter that she is a girl? This isn't the 1800s. You got beaten by a better player, regardless of gender.

As to what you do now, well, lots of other posters already gave you some ideas, the best of which I think is to ask her to play mixed with you.

 

[richw76]

Get her to play Mixed Doubles with you. Assuming you're not too bad you should get a few easy games while your opponents mistakenly attack her as the "weaker player" before they adjust.

I know a couple like this. They met each other at a round robin, she played some college tennis, and he is real athletic. She is a superior tennis player and a doubles specialist. Teams ALWAYS lose the first set to them because they don't realize she is the much stronger player

 

[ttwarrior1]

our you sure you did your real first serve against her. How about hitting to her weekness or charging net or drop shots.

 

[kevhen]

Don't play baseline game with a girl. Dropshot or low slice and bring her to net where you can pass or lob her.

 

[OrangeOne]

Don't play baseline game with a girl. Dropshot or low slice and bring her to net where you can pass or lob her.

Or.... play from the baseline and take advantage of the single thing we all look for - playing someone our equal or slightly better than us....

I know which way i'd rather play, and which way my game would benefit more.

 

[dunloplayah]

dude, i'd be happy to meet a girl like that! i'd make her my wife if she loved to play tennis as much as me!

 

[mark rodgers]

I'd say keep playing her until you win. If you don't, you'll never out live the shame of it all! DOH! Also keep in mind that if she'll play you again after knowing that she wipe you up, maybe there's more to her intention than just tennis! Oh yeah, baby!

 

[RM05]

She's a hustler! Probably has 9month + 10 years of secret training with wta pro.

 

[Tennisguy61]

If that girl plays tennis and works out more than you, that is why she beat you. She might have natural talent at what she does, you might not ever be able to beat her. You should be very happy about what happened. It is always nice to win but winning is not everything, that could especially be true in your case. There are many good things that could come out of your situation. The girl is your friend, that means a lot. It was very nice of her to play a game with you. If you are a good sport when you lose she will probably play more games with you. When you play games with her don't worry about losing, just enjoy the game and have a good time. That is what games are for, to have fun. No matter how bad she beats you, always thank her for the game and tell her how great she is and tell her that you really enjoyed playing her. If you can get a hug from her after the game is over, that alone will be better than winning. If you want to get better at tennis or get in better shape that girl could be a big help to you. There is the possibility of you developing a relationship with her. If she does not want a relationship she might could introduce you to a girl that is looking for a good guy. Even if you never win one single game, you might be a very big winner. The thing for you to do is to be a good sport, have a good attitude, and have a good sense of humor. Losing to a girl is never anything to be embarrassed about. You are a lucky guy, I would pay very big money to be in the situation you are in. Good luck to you.

 

[Forehand Forever]

I'd play against hot girls but make a bet in the beginning, like if I win....

 

[ssjkyle31]

She can either help you with stroking you or you can stroke yourself afterwards if she Hot.

 

[order]

It's okay. I've lost to 3 girls before. They all had more experience than me though. One was the number one of a pretty good school, the other was a girl on my high school team who had alot of consistency, and the third was 11 years old and has been playing twice as long as I have.

 

[Hot Sauce]

With all honesty, yes, you should be embarrassed. I sure as hell would be. And she's attractive? That doesn't help. I would feel so emasculated. Some people aren't bothered by losing to a girl, they feel the same way as they would losing to a guy. But I feel far from that way, and I think in any physical competition, especially sports, guys should beat girls. The exceptions are when the girl is obviously much more dedicated to the sport than you, like an average guy losing to Sharapova, its expected. That's just how I feel.

 

[notujoo]

i can't play with attractive girls. they always distract me with their smiles. =/

 

[jck01]

A few months ago I was playing this girl. She won the toss and served first, and I immediately broke her at love to take the lead 1-0.......
Two hours later, she won 6-2, 6-0. :-(
Every other game went to deuce, and I lost every one of them. I went home and immediately cut out the strings. ;-)

Good move. I would have went home and cut the strings too.

 

[AM28143]

With all honesty, yes, you should be embarrassed. I sure as hell would be. And she's attractive? That doesn't help. I would feel so emasculated. Some people aren't bothered by losing to a girl, they feel the same way as they would losing to a guy. But I feel far from that way, and I think in any physical competition, especially sports, guys should beat girls. The exceptions are when the girl is obviously much more dedicated to the sport than you, like an average guy losing to Sharapova, its expected. That's just how I feel.

I think part of it is that she is more dedicated however, I contribute my loss primarly on the fact she is more athletic than me. I am 5-10 and weigh 165 pounds, while she is 5-9 and 130 pounds. My biceps lack defiance and when running one can see the fat dangling below my bone, while her biceps are tight and thin with pleanty of muscle and hardly any fat. I have a keg and she has the begining of a six pack.

Because of my sexuality I am stronger than her (I hope), but she holds the upperhand in athletics because of her muscular little body adopts so well to all circumstances and can last longer and move faster than mine. Kind of sad, yet she is probably in better shape than 2/3rd of the American male population therefore, maybe I shouldn't feel too bad.

 

[Sean Dugan]

It's official.......you're a wuss. ;o)

You should have said......"After that beating you just gave me, the least you could do is sleep with me now." Worth a shot! ;o)

 

[thundaga]

...yet she is probably in better shape than 2/3rd of the American male population therefore, maybe I shouldn't feel too bad.

"67% of American males are overweight"
- American Obesity Asssociation

was that a guess?? if so u have quite a talent lol!

 

[tsmcauliffe]

i can't play with attractive girls. they always distract me with their smiles. =/

Fricken boobs

 

[Pleepers]

Fricken boobs

For me its the short shorts/skirts and legs. I actually enjoy playing with girls who can play well, the key is to make sure they don't have boyfriends -which is always the case :grin:

 

[_mats_]

I dont know if it is embarrasing or not.. but...

did you ask her out?

 

[Hot Sauce]

I dont know if it is embarrasing or not.. but...

did you ask her out?

I was thinking about that too, but I would feel kind of awkward knowing that she is a better athlete than me and that she can beat me in tennis. Well, not me, but the OP.

 

[richw76]

I was thinking about that too, but I would feel kind of awkward knowing that she is a better athlete than me and that she can beat me in tennis. Well, not me, but the OP.

My wife regularly Pummels me at Air Hockey and bowling, and she's a TERRIBLE winner. No worries, I'm over it about five minutes after we stop playing, and I always have a great time.

 

[Automatix]

dude, i'd be happy to meet a girl like that! i'd make her my wife if she loved to play tennis as much as me!

I'm still looking for such a girl and yeaaaah I would be more than happy to meet such a girl... good God please make my dreams come true!

Loosing to someone that plays good is normal... I once lost a 2vs2 match against two girls... I was a bit angry but when they told me they play for a junior squad of a certain team I was relieved.

 

[Automatix]

I forgot to mention that the game was: Soccer...

 

[porchdoor]

i lost to a hot girl one time. it was awesome. we ended up making out on the courts.

 

[goober]

i lost to a hot girl one time. it was awesome. we ended up making out on the courts.

and then you woke up and realized your dog was licking your face.

 

[Tennis_Bum]

and then you woke up and realized your dog was licking your face.

Goober,

You beat me to it!

 

[richw76]

I'm skeptical but you never know. Once in college I was hanging with friends in the dorm. A girl walked by and needed help with her groceries, so being a good samaritan I helped. Boom chikibowwhaaamm! I got a great tip. Turns out she used to watch me and my buddies play basketball for weeks, and she liked me.

Not that stuff like that happens all the time but it's possible ;-)

 

[cj011]

There is nothing wrong with loosing to a girl. It took me 4 years+ to beat this girl in baseline games without serves. Grant it she had been ranked 120 or so in the world and has beaten Hingis.

 

[cj011]

I cannot tell you how many times she beat my butt when we would play without serves. She would spit at me, swear at me in Hungarian, you name it, she did it. Her boyfriend at the time didn't find it too funny when we asked him if she has a bigger male body part then him. It was all in good fun, but he still wasn't too happy.

 

[Big Fed]

So should I be embarrased? Has anyone else ever loss to an attractive (very to be honest) girl? And furthermore, does her out lasting me say more about my physical condition or hers?

Did you get some?

If not than yes....

 

[Pr0DiGy]

I lose to my gf sometimes. Embarassed? Not at all. She makes fun of me for it, and I laugh along. There are more important things in life than losing to a girl. It's not that big of a deal. If it's really bugging you, go out and work your butt off. Good motivation.

 

[Hot Sauce]

My wife regularly Pummels me at Air Hockey and bowling, and she's a TERRIBLE winner. No worries, I'm over it about five minutes after we stop playing, and I always have a great time.

Air hockey and bowling, now there are 2 physically demanding games/sports.