Hi! I've had a few matches recently (I'm a 3.5 player playing up to 4.0) where I've lost, and the other players WERE both higher rated than me and better overall players, BUT I felt I could have done better or even figured out ways to win (or lose but not by so much.) For instance it's unacceptable to me to lose 6-0, 6-0 yet have long deuces in 3-4 of the games. That tells me that I'm getting into trouble at key junctures and not closing out the games. In these matches I'm thinking of, I'll count W/L individual points and win many or even sometimes MORE points but not win the crucial points and lose. Observers tell me they couldn't tell who was winning or even they saw the scores and thought our scores were reversed due to watching the play. I'm not expecting to walk in and win right away. I'm playing up and all of these players are higher rated than me, sometimes a lot higher. The 6-0, 6-0 match I had recently is an example -- I hover on TR around 3.2-3.3-ish and she is 3.9+ probably will be bumped to 4.5 if she keeps on this way. I think she's 10-0 so far this year. Another match was a loss of 6-4, 6-2, but we were neck and neck except she could close out those games. This has to be a mindset/psychology issue, right? So what do I do? Advice for resources like podcast or website, videos, book, etc? Just keep at it? Thank you!