Nick Kyrgios writes an emotional piece on himself, his tennis career and the loss of his grandmother

Aussie Darcy

Bionic Poster
Important read. Shows what's going on inside his head. Love him or hate him, it's interesting.


I am not the professional tennis needs me to be.

That’s the truth.

Being home is the only time I get to lead a normal life. It’s the place where I can spend time with my family, play Call Of Duty with my mates, be a kid like everyone else.

It’s also the time where tennis expects me to be training, going to the gym and trying to improve the mental side of my game. I’m not making the improvements I should because I don’t want it enough, I’m not taking it seriously enough.

I know that and there’s no point trying to convince anyone otherwise.

There is a constant tug-of-war between the competitor within me wanting to win, win, win and the human in me wanting to live a normal life with my family away from the public glare.

DEATH & THE TOUR

The time when this really came to a head was when my grandmother, Julianah Foster, passed away two years ago. I didn’t get to spend the time with her I wanted to and tennis was the reason for that. It kept me away from her. It’s something that still gnaws away at me.

If I’m honest, I’d say I haven’t committed to tennis the way the game needs me to since she died.

Nanna was basically my mother for five or so years while my mum was working fulltime as a software engineer and traveling back between our home in Canberra and her offices in Sydney and Melbourne. We were incredibly close. We spent hours and hours and hours together. We even slept in the same bunkbed.

There’ll never be another person like my Nanna. I remember when Mum bought her an car because she was doing so much driving ferrying Christos, Halimah and me around Canberra. Nanna wanted to give it her own touch, so she went to the arts and craft shop and painted flowers all over it.

When we weren’t in the hippie car, Nanna used to drive us around in a little red four-door Suzuki. The last time we drove together she ran up a pole. James Frawley, who I hit with and is one of my good mates, was in the car and told Mum he wouldn’t drive with us again. He called her ‘Nanna’ too. All my mates did. It was all pretty funny.

If I’m honest, I’d say I haven’t committed to tennis the way the game needs me to since she died.

She smoked a lot and Mum hated that. Nanna would be puffing away in the car or in the Lyneham Tennis Centre, reading her Woman’s Day and Woman’s Weekly magazines while I trained. I kept Nanna’s little secret until very recently. I told mum that Nanna used to smoke all the time and let’s just say she wasn’t particularly happy about it.

After she passed away, my brother and I visited a friend in Canberra, George from Armani Art, to get ‘74’ tattoos, which was her age when she died. Mum and Dad don’t like tattoos so we kept it to ourselves (Mum found out when someone posted it on social media). It still hurts every time I look at it. I remember all the good times, the great times, but then I think about how much I miss her and the pain is still there, very raw and real.

That’s when you realise tennis is not very important in the scheme of things. It’s just a game. We hit a ball over the net. When I was first on tour I thought it was unbelievable, it was such a good life, I really enjoyed it. When my grandfather passed away recently, I pulled out of a few tournaments. I needed to be home. I love being home and being normal more than anything.


THE FIRE WITHIN

But don’t get me wrong. I love to win. Whether it’s chess, or Call Of Duty or tennis, I hate losing and I get angry – as you might have picked up! – when I feel I’m not performing to my potential.

When I’m in the right frame of mind, I feel unbeatable. That period this year where I beat Novak Djokovic a couple of times in a row in Acapulco and Indian Wells? Yep. Unbeatable.

I felt like a lot of people thought the first win over Novak in Acapulco was a fluke. I knew it wasn’t and was really motivated to show that. As fate had it, I played him again a week and a half later in Indian Wells and won in straight sets. When I’m in that frame of mind – when motivation levels are high – I feel like I can beat anyone who steps out on the court. The match is on my racquet and the ultimate result is up to me.

It was the same story playing against Rafa Nadal in Cincinnati. It’s easy to get up for a match like that. Big name opponent. Centre court. Huge challenge. I love that. It’s against the lower ranked guys on the back courts where I can’t get it together and tank. Obviously, my grand slam season has been terrible. I meant what I said straight after losing to John Millman in New York. Maybe it’s time for Sebastian Grosjean to work with someone more dedicated than me. I don’t know…

When I’m in the right frame of mind, I feel unbeatable. That period this year where I beat Novak Djokovic a couple of times in a row in Acapulco and Indian Wells? Yep. Unbeatable.

It all comes down to my motivation levels. And one of the things that impacts that is the media and how I feel I’m being portrayed in it. Wimbledon this year was a case in point. I entered the tournament with a hip injury that, sooner rather than later, is going to require surgery.

But that wasn’t how the story went down in the media. Apparently, I didn’t care and showed disrespect. And then I had the temerity to go clubbing afterwards and it was like a crime had been committed. I mean, who hasn’t gone clubbing in their lives?

So, the same writers who loved me when I was beating Djokovic were now belting me for losing while playing injured? OK. Whatever. If that’s what you really believe, I’m not going to try and talk you around. More on this later…


TOMIC IS A CONTRADICTION

You’d also be wrong if you tried to lump me in the same category as Bernard Tomic, as Kitty Chiller and tons of others have over time.

Bernie has lost his way. We were pretty good mates when I was younger. I obviously didn’t know the tennis tour too well back then and we were guys of similar age, representing the same country, on the road at many of the same tournaments.

But a lot has changed since then. He needs to figure out what he wants to do. I can’t relate to anything he says anymore. He says one thing and he does the other. And he contradicts himself all the time.

He says tennis doesn’t make him happy, that he doesn’t really like the game, yet he says the only thing that will really make him happy is winning a grand slam. It doesn’t make sense at all.

I can honestly say winning a grand slam would not make me the happiest person on earth. As I wrote previously, I just love being a normal guy and having enough money to live a normal life. I don’t need the excess money at all. We’re a lot different.


THE MEDIA AND ME

I am a very private person. I don’t like people knowing things about me and being all up in my business. I naturally have a bit of a chip on my shoulder, so I don’t like it when people are saying things that aren’t true about me. I completely hate having a completely public life. I really don’t like it at all.

I have read over time that I am arrogant, disrespectful and tennis is my be-all-and-end-all. None of this is even close to the truth and anyone who has spent time with me would tell you the same.

I find this stuff harder to deal with as time goes on. When I first started on the tour, I didn’t expect to get any media. Now, with a bit of perspective and context, I see it for what it really is. And I don’t like it at all.

The senior guys on tour don’t know what it’s like growing up in the age of social media. It’s a big thing. I can’t really do anything without a camera being there or without someone saying something about it.

And then I had the temerity to go clubbing afterwards and it was like a crime had been committed. I mean, who hasn’t gone clubbing in their lives?

I played mixed basketball in Canberra for like five minutes a few months ago and it was reported in the media, supposedly, because I had pulled out of Atlanta due to my hip injury. The reports suggested I was playing a full-on basketball game when, in reality, I was mucking around with my friends for a couple of minutes. I mean, come on.

After my recent tournament in Washington I had a big heart-to-heart with Mum on this subject. I told her that I didn’t feel like I had really done anything wrong and hadn’t considered there’d be cameras on me at 3am. She told it to me straight, as she always does. She said that it’s not in our nature to be mean to people, even if they are mean to us. And she told me to be aware that there will always be people trying to make money off my name – like the people who sold the post-Wimbledon video to the newspapers – and that I had to rise above it. Of course, she’s right. But it isn’t always easy to take the high road when you feel like you’ve been wronged.

KIDS AND THE FUTURE

There is plenty I want to achieve in life. I get asked quite often about what the future holds, which always seems a bit strange when you’re only 22 and have a tennis career, a family life and many other things in front of you. There are things I need to focus on right now, like getting my hip and arm strong and getting back on that same trajectory I was on at the start of 2017.


But one motivating thought I have is to earn enough money to build a centre for kids who are homeless, having problems at home or don’t have the financial means to play sport.


They could come over and play on the basketball courts, the tennis courts, swimming pool and live there. I would love to do that, have a couple of kids and support my wife in whatever it is she wants to do.

One of the most satisfying things I’ve done is building a little shelter at the Lyneham Tennis Centre in tribute to be Nanna, right where she used to smoke her cigarettes and read her Woman’s Day. That, I am learning, is what life is all about.

https://www.playersvoice.com.au/nick-kyrgios-the-battle-raging-inside-me/#BQlyb02APTWk7ztf.99
 

Jackuar

Hall of Fame
When someone opens up their heart honestly, there's not much you can do to avoid warming up to him. I hope he's honest in saying all that. And I feel for him. He needs a psychological support, not in a 'treatment' sense but more of a 'moral support' sense.

Losing a very close one will need time and space to recover. Unfortunately tennis will not provide that.

At the same time he should also be made to realize that as a global star in any field, privacy is lost. He can only do so much to keep his private life to himself. He need to understand and accept that alongside the benefits being a recognizable player gets. That's part of this profession and he need to make his mind up to sacrifice one or the other.
 

Fabresque

Legend
Seems to me he doesn't really care for tennis. It's just something he happens to be talented in. Sometimes people don't want to be happy, or people don't feel happiness when something really good happens to them, and plenty of people can relate. Is happiness wasting your career for 2-3 grand slams doing something you don't love and don't get happiness from? Or is happiness sitting at home, relaxing, and doing something you actually love. Nick may feel accomplished when he wins a match against the world number one or one of the greatest players of all time, whatever. But does that really make him happy? I don't think it does.

I agree and disagree with his section on Bernard Tomic. You cannot really compare them because they are somewhat different. Nick just can't seem to find his rhythm and isn't very caring of tennis much the way he's acting. Bernie has completely lost his way, and I'm pretty sure he's battling some depression. He's lost the plot.

But in a way they are similar. Both don't seem to find their happiness through tennis. In an interview a while ago Bernie made light of what's been going on and said that tennis just doesn't make him feel happy anymore. He said if he could go back and tell a young Tomic what to do, he said "Don't play tennis, do something you really love and enjoy, don't play tennis". Nick also just can't find happiness on the court. Simple as that.

Either way I feel that Nick should take some sort of break from tennis to really assess what he's doing. He's at a crossroads right now. Either you stick it out and become the player everyone said you'd be, or drop it completely. There's still time for Nick, unlike Bernie, who's lost it completely and has little to no hope for coming back. I wish Nick a fast recovery, and I also wish him a great future.
 
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Seems to me he doesn't really care for tennis. It's just something he happens to be talented in. Sometimes people don't want to be happy, or people don't feel happiness when something really good happens to them, and plenty of people can relate. Is happiness wasting your career for 2-3 grand slams doing something you don't love and don't get happiness from? Or is happiness sitting at home, relaxing, and doing something you actually love. Nick may feel accomplished when he wins a match against the world number one or one of the greatest players of all time, whatever. But does that really make him happy? I don't think it does.

I agree and disagree with his section on Bernard Tomic. You cannot really compare them because they are somewhat different. Nick just can't seem to find his rhythm and isn't very caring of tennis much the way he's acting. Bernie has completely lost his way, and I'm pretty sure he's battling some depression. He's lost the plot.

But in a way they are similar. Both don't seem to find their happiness through tennis. In an interview a while ago Bernie made light of what's been going on and said that tennis just doesn't make him feel happy anymore. He said if he could go back and tell a young Tomic what to do, he said "Don't play tennis, do something you really love and enjoy, don't play tennis". Nick also just can't find happiness on the court. Simple as that.

Either way I feel that Nick should take some sort of break from tennis to really assess what he's doing. He's at a crossroads right now. Either you stick it out and become the player everyone said you'd be, or drop it completely. There's still time for Nick, unlike Bernie, who's lost it completely and has little to no hope for coming back. I wish Nick a fast recovery, and I also wish him a great future.
You're obviously too young to know who Scud was but he and Kyrgios are VERY similar.

Tomic is just a journeyman mug. Even with effort put in I doubt he cracks the top 8.
 

gogo

Legend
Nick is telling the story how he wants it to be told. He wants sympathy. The entire article is "woe is me".

He says he doesn't want a public life, and yet he does certain things to attract attention.

I was at his match in New York. He can blame his behaviour on his hip, but that can't be all there is. He would take some shots standing perfectly still below the waist and just gently swing at the ball. The very next rally he would suddenly jump several feet in the air and absolutely drill it. There was no rhyme or reason to when he did something or when he didn't. He rubbed one shoulder for a couple of games. Then he was rubbing the other shoulder and called a MTO for it. The ump would call time after a change over and Nick wouldn't get up. He'd leave Millman hanging around at the service line waiting. Pure disrespect. He swore. He yelled. He acted like a baby. And then he'd drill another one, just so to show you he could.

Everything he did was all about himself. He is very needy.
If he doesn't like the life and the game, then why keep playing? Fans paid for those tickets. Fans started to leave well before the match was over. They were tired of the "show".

Don't get me wrong. I have sympathy for Nick as a person. I think he has psychological issues and needs professional help. No shame in that. I think there is a nice person underneath all of that anger and sadness. But the anger and sadness mask that person underneath and leads him to self-destructive behaviour. And he shouldn't be blaming everyone else for his troubles.
 

Charleneriva

Hall of Fame
I think he should have chosen basketball or some other team sport because, well, he said it himself, he likes team sport and it suits him more.

I watch him play doubles and DC, even exos (yeah). He looks so "different" from when he play singles. And not just that. He even blooms in some interviews.

But since he chose tennis, he must make up his mind sooner better than later and deal with it, whatever happens.

He's a grownup already and it's heartbreaking to hear his story with his grandma. But everyone must be responsible for their own choices and actions. No excuses.

Not feeling happy playing tennis - it's still his choice.

Feeling happy playing it - he can still learn how to, if he really wants to and determines to do it.

The media stuff - who cares? It's just water under the bridge. Prove yourself on court first. Earn some real respect first.

He's certainlly wonderfully gifted. He already has a head start in that regard compared to most. He can either make something out of it or he can't. It's up to him.

I wish him all the best. But he needs to grow up - man up - be decisive and take action. Still sounds like a man who wants to stay as a happy, carefree but also sensitive kid forever (until he has a wife and a couple of kids and runs a charity sport centre for, well, kids again :p).

But first thing first. If he decides, well, not to give up tennis, then fix his hip first. His mind is already not there, now his body too? Not gonna work.

Stay healthy first, Nick. Then ask Hewitt to become your coach/your other coach. (Well, McEnroe was, and maybe still is, dying to become your coach). I think he can help you mentally as well.
 
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Gary Duane

G.O.A.T.
I don't feel particularly sorry for him, and I also don't judge him. Lots of people don't love what they are gifted at. If he doesn't love tennis, he'll find something else to do in life. He'll probably make less money, but he might be happier.

I certainly don't plan to judge him, and I see no reason why I should.
 
Darcy,
thanks for poasteng that.

I am a Niko fan. I am also a critic.
He is honest. Sometimes. I like this version of Niko.
Bit of a victim, but a sweet kid. I wish him strength, and growth.

Odd how even niko distances himself from tomic. Bernie much be a pretty serious skidmark, wow.

Well, i would love to hear Niko's rationale behind his on-court dirtbaggery with Stan last year.

Was this a cry for help, or a "get off my back" note? Was it a foreshadowing of retirement?
 

Tommy Haas

Hall of Fame
You're obviously too young to know who Scud was but he and Kyrgios are VERY similar.

Tomic is just a journeyman mug. Even with effort put in I doubt he cracks the top 8.

Philippoussis didn't like playing tennis for a living either or just that it also took him a while to find his way on tour? He's actually still playing tennis today on the Legends Tour and has the best stats compared to the other legend players like Chang and Courier.
 

Gary Duane

G.O.A.T.
Philippoussis didn't like playing tennis for a living either or just that it also took him a while to find his way on tour? He's actually still playing tennis today on the Legends Tour and has the best stats compared to the other legendary players like Chang and Courier.
Because most likely he still has things to prove, in his mind, while Chang and Courier have already clearly made their marks.
 

Big_Dangerous

Talk Tennis Guru
He should play his best to make his Grandmother happy. He is also lucky to even know and spend ANY time with his Grandmother.

Last time I saw my last surviving Grandmother was in 2001; she is now 88 years old with dementia.

I'm not even 30 and I have zero remaining grand parents that are living. My grandfather on my mom's side died before I was born. My grandmother on my dad's side died when I was like 4 or 5, and my grandfather on the same side died when I was in 4th grade. My grandmother on my mom's side made it the longest - she passed away in December 2014 - 8 years after my mother passed. :(
 
Nick isn't happy playing tennis but he makes great money. Lots of people aren't happy with their jobs and make meager money. Nick should have gratitude for where he is.

He doesn't need to be a champion. He just needs to be a professional and show up and play hard. No disgrace is being a top 50 player and making a couple of million a year. Keep at it for another 8-10 years and he's set for life, financially, if he's not stupid with his money.
 

Aussie Darcy

Bionic Poster
Darcy,
thanks for poasteng that.

I am a Niko fan. I am also a critic.
He is honest. Sometimes. I like this version of Niko.
Bit of a victim, but a sweet kid. I wish him strength, and growth.

Odd how even niko distances himself from tomic. Bernie much be a pretty serious skidmark, wow.

Well, i would love to hear Niko's rationale behind his on-court dirtbaggery with Stan last year.

Was this a cry for help, or a "get off my back" note? Was it a foreshadowing of retirement?
You're welcome. I don't really have an opinion but thought it was something us tennis forumers should read as it's a good insight into his head.

I agree I did find it odd he mentioned Tomic, really trying to distance himself from him which is both understandable but also a bit sad as it seems Tomic has nobody on tour (only has himself to blame for that though).

Yes, no mention of the Stan incident but I guess Nick was surprised how much that blew up. That sort of childish behavior is commonplace in our high schools here (so and so slept with your girlfriend ohhh) so he probably didn't really think much of it until it really blew up in his face.

I think this was a bit of a puff piece but it was also raw and real. It's nice hearing from these players at times, easy to forget they aren't just tennis players at our disposal for matches. We've become used to marketing machines like Nadal, Federer and more who are all about their tennis talk and not much about their personal struggles (unless it's injury struggles). We don't hear much about the pain they face when losing a relative or a marriage breakdown or all the person things people go through. . DelPo lost his grandmother this year, Stan and Lopez have both had marriage breakdowns, Stan ditched his wife and new baby for a much younger woman etc etc, but we only focus on their tennis. It's almost always tennis related stuff we hear about them and we've become used to that. Nice to hear real talk about their lives.
 

gogo

Legend
You're welcome. I don't really have an opinion but thought it was something us tennis forumers should read as it's a good insight into his head.

I agree I did find it odd he mentioned Tomic, really trying to distance himself from him which is both understandable but also a bit sad as it seems Tomic has nobody on tour (only has himself to blame for that though).

Yes, no mention of the Stan incident but I guess Nick was surprised how much that blew up. That sort of childish behavior is commonplace in our high schools here (so and so slept with your girlfriend ohhh) so he probably didn't really think much of it until it really blew up in his face.

I think this was a bit of a puff piece but it was also raw and real. It's nice hearing from these players at times, easy to forget they aren't just tennis players at our disposal for matches. We've become used to marketing machines like Nadal, Federer and more who are all about their tennis talk and not much about their personal struggles (unless it's injury struggles). We don't hear much about the pain they face when losing a relative or a marriage breakdown or all the person things people go through. . DelPo lost his grandmother this year, Stan and Lopez have both had marriage breakdowns, Stan ditched his wife and new baby for a much younger woman etc etc, but we only focus on their tennis. It's almost always tennis related stuff we hear about them and we've become used to that. Nice to hear real talk about their lives.

That's because their personal problems don't spill over into their tennis. Nick wears his problems on his sleeve and on the court. He yells at fans. He tanks games. He says he doesn't want to be there. I think that is the difference.

I hope he can find a way to be happier. As someone mentioned further up, I bet he would do better in a team sport. And look how excited he sounds for Davis Cup! I hope he plays well and enjoys himself and the comraderie.
 

Aussie Darcy

Bionic Poster
That's because their personal problems don't spill over into their tennis. Nick wears his problems on his sleeve and on the court. He yells at fans. He tanks games. He says he doesn't want to be there. I think that is the difference.

I hope he can find a way to be happier. As someone mentioned further up, I bet he would do better in a team sport. And look how excited he sounds for Davis Cup! I hope he plays well and enjoys himself and the comraderie.
Yes yes but it's still nice to be able to humanize then instead of viewing them as just people that play tennis. I agree about the team sport aspect, Tomic was the same, needed a father figure and Hewitt stepped up and it saw him play great for 18 months and break the top 20. Somehow they let his actual dad John back into the picture and since then it's been a cataclysmic failure into nothingness.
 

metsman

G.O.A.T.
You're obviously too young to know who Scud was but he and Kyrgios are VERY similar.

Tomic is just a journeyman mug. Even with effort put in I doubt he cracks the top 8.
Nick is a more complicated character. Scud and Safin were basically long lost brothers who pissed away most of their talent in the conventional fashion before injuries killed them, but whereas Scud was a 2 slam talent, Safin was a 12 slam talent so Safin still won some slams. I think for Nick, there's more going on inside the head that holds him back, but him and Scud are probably similarly talented.
 

BeatlesFan

Bionic Poster
When someone opens up their heart honestly, there's not much you can do to avoid warming up to him.

Well said. Nick is immature and I hate that he tanks, but God, he's talented and more fun to watch than almost any other player out there when he's on. I really hope he brings his A game in '18 because he has insane talent!
 

BeatlesFan

Bionic Poster
You're obviously too young to know who Scud was but he and Kyrgios are VERY similar.

I'm one of those who is not too young to know who Flipper is and I see no comparison between them aside from nationality. Nick is 100 times more talented and gifted than Scud.
 
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Deleted member 307496

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I'm one of those who is not too young to know who Flipper is and I see no comparison between them aside from nationality. Nick is 100 times more talented and gifted than Scud.
Is that a joke? No, he's not.
 
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Nick is a more complicated character. Scud and Safin were basically long lost brothers who pissed away most of their talent in the conventional fashion before injuries killed them, but whereas Scud was a 2 slam talent, Safin was a 12 slam talent so Safin still won some slams. I think for Nick, there's more going on inside the head that holds him back, but him and Scud are probably similarly talented.
I kinda agree. I think that Scud had personal issues he never discussed - an unhappy childhood I imagine (which is why he spent a lot of time partying and living it up; trying to make up for that).

Safin though, he's an enigma. The guy really didn't care about tennis at all but his parents and other older influences forced him into it due to his inane talent and he won due to that.

I think he lost the 2002 AO final because he didn't care. Much like Sampras lost the 1992 USO for the same reason - but Sampras smartened up. Safin never did and injuries ruined him just when he did start to care.
 

metsman

G.O.A.T.
I kinda agree. I think that Scud had personal issues he never discussed - an unhappy childhood I imagine (which is why he spent a lot of time partying and living it up; trying to make up for that).

Safin though, he's an enigma. The guy really didn't care about tennis at all but his parents and other older influences forced him into it due to his inane talent and he won due to that.

I think he lost the 2002 AO final because he didn't care. Much like Sampras lost the 1992 USO for the same reason - but Sampras smartened up. Safin never did and injuries ruined him just when he did start to care.
yeah that's a great assessment. I didn't know Scud had those personal issues. For Safin, yeah the issue was clear. He just didn't care enough about the sport and didn't have the innate drive of the true greats to basically kill themselves with hard work on and off the court to fulfill their talent. Which is fine, of course, not everyone is born with that level of tunnel vision, but it sure did rob us of a ton of great tennis.
 

Tommy Haas

Hall of Fame
Nick Kyrgios is an attention seeker, insecure, he keeps saying he "does not care" what people say about him, while it is obvious he cares a lot.
He should quit tennis and get into reality television. It would suit him best and make him a happier person.

The funny thing is that again, he'll be following in the Scud's footsteps. Philippoussis was on the Bachelor show. I wonder what happened to the woman he chose.
 

Yoneyama

Hall of Fame
So many Nick haters on here, I can only assume a lot of you are sheep... If you go and spend a day searching and observing his "life" outside of tennis you will find that he is a really good guy who has been portrayed in a negative light. There are far worst characters on the tour who are less "interesting" media-wise/ do not appeal to the viewers as much.
 

MasturB

Legend
Yea, we all face disappointments and have our own struggles. But we don't make 50k by playing 2 hrs and losing in the first round.

Welcome to adulthood, and get over yourself!

I think this is one of the dumbest things to criticize someone for. Yes he makes a ton of money playing a game most of us play for recreation, but it's not like he didn't work his ass off to get where he is.

Trying to discount someone's shortcomings or personal demons/tragedies just because they make more money than you is one of the most obtuse and short-sighted things you can do. We're all human, we all have our own flaws that make us who we are.

I'd criticize Tomic about the boohoo before Nick. At least Nick has shown that he could at least tap into his potential if not injured, whereas Tomic just gave up years ago and is only playing to keep his lavish lifestyle afloat.
 

MasturB

Legend
Seems to me he doesn't really care for tennis. It's just something he happens to be talented in. Sometimes people don't want to be happy, or people don't feel happiness when something really good happens to them, and plenty of people can relate. Is happiness wasting your career for 2-3 grand slams doing something you don't love and don't get happiness from? Or is happiness sitting at home, relaxing, and doing something you actually love. Nick may feel accomplished when he wins a match against the world number one or one of the greatest players of all time, whatever. But does that really make him happy? I don't think it does.

I agree and disagree with his section on Bernard Tomic. You cannot really compare them because they are somewhat different. Nick just can't seem to find his rhythm and isn't very caring of tennis much the way he's acting. Bernie has completely lost his way, and I'm pretty sure he's battling some depression. He's lost the plot.

But in a way they are similar. Both don't seem to find their happiness through tennis. In an interview a while ago Bernie made light of what's been going on and said that tennis just doesn't make him feel happy anymore. He said if he could go back and tell a young Tomic what to do, he said "Don't play tennis, do something you really love and enjoy, don't play tennis". Nick also just can't find happiness on the court. Simple as that.

Either way I feel that Nick should take some sort of break from tennis to really assess what he's doing. He's at a crossroads right now. Either you stick it out and become the player everyone said you'd be, or drop it completely. There's still time for Nick, unlike Bernie, who's lost it completely and has little to no hope for coming back. I wish Nick a fast recovery, and I also wish him a great future.

I think Nick can find happiness on the court. He's been knocking on the door all year to breaking out. Played arguably the best match of the year in Miami against Fed, and made his first Masters 1000's final. He also has gotten some nice upsets this year too like beating Nole.

Tomic to me is a lost cause. For one he never had the talent Nick has, tennis IQ nor physically. I can at least say I've seen Kyrgios' game mature in some facets, Tomic is doing the same cat and mouse style stuff he was doing when people still had hope in him.

Tomic to me is only playing now to support his lavish lifestyle of partying and spending. There's nothig wrong with that, if he wins enough matches on the Challenger or qualies to make it to a main draw and get a nice paycheck that's good for him. I no longer find it productive to keep calling the guy a loser because he doesn't try hard, just let him be. He won't be sniffing any major trophies so peopel need to adjust their focus on other things. Nick to his credit has sought help, he just has his bumps in the road.
 

Noelan

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Nick is telling the story how he wants it to be told. He wants sympathy. The entire article is "woe is me".

He says he doesn't want a public life, and yet he does certain things to attract attention.

I was at his match in New York. He can blame his behaviour on his hip, but that can't be all there is. He would take some shots standing perfectly still below the waist and just gently swing at the ball. The very next rally he would suddenly jump several feet in the air and absolutely drill it. There was no rhyme or reason to when he did something or when he didn't. He rubbed one shoulder for a couple of games. Then he was rubbing the other shoulder and called a MTO for it. The ump would call time after a change over and Nick wouldn't get up. He'd leave Millman hanging around at the service line waiting. Pure disrespect. He swore. He yelled. He acted like a baby. And then he'd drill another one, just so to show you he could.

Everything he did was all about himself. He is very needy.
If he doesn't like the life and the game, then why keep playing? Fans paid for those tickets. Fans started to leave well before the match was over. They were tired of the "show".

Don't get me wrong. I have sympathy for Nick as a person. I think he has psychological issues and needs professional help. No shame in that. I think there is a nice person underneath all of that anger and sadness. But the anger and sadness mask that person underneath and leads him to self-destructive behaviour. And he shouldn't be blaming everyone else for his troubles.
It's baffling. How and why after such performance "my shoulder will fall off my body" he went to play doubles and even won match or two:confused::confused:
 
Is he seriously putting the heat on his dead gran for his lacklustre performances? Seriously other people in sport have had to put up with this & worse-James Wattana was playing a big snooker tournament in the UK when he was told his father had been shot back home in Thailand, having been told this he went out & made a 147 maximum break & made it all the way to the tournament final before going home for the funeral-he became a better player after this because he actually put the effort in. Tendulkar's father died during the 1999 World Cup-he flew home, then returned to the tournament after a couple of days back home & jetlagged made 140 in the next game. Call Of Duty? Maybe if he spent less time playing that he would practice more.

Says Tomic is a contradiction & then says winning a slam would not make him that especially happy, so like Tomic he just wants to phone it in. Make enough to get by-laughable seeing as he has earned 5 million already just from prize money. Who do these guys think they are kidding? Isn't winning a slam supposed to be why you are in the game? It is even worse than Tomic because he doesn't have enough talent to win a slam, this guy has it in bucketloads to where he could win multiple slams.

A very private person doesn't show off like he does on the court or off of it. Enough money to open a centre? 5 million from Tennis & probably more from endorsements etc means he could open one tomorrow if he wished-so it is just more pr designed to get over what a great guy he is. These puff pieces trying to garner sympathy & paint bludgers like him & Tomic The Tanker as great guys need to stop. He would run through a wall for Hewitt? Then prove it by actually trying.
 
Nick is telling the story how he wants it to be told. He wants sympathy. The entire article is "woe is me".

He says he doesn't want a public life, and yet he does certain things to attract attention.

I was at his match in New York. He can blame his behaviour on his hip, but that can't be all there is. He would take some shots standing perfectly still below the waist and just gently swing at the ball. The very next rally he would suddenly jump several feet in the air and absolutely drill it. There was no rhyme or reason to when he did something or when he didn't. He rubbed one shoulder for a couple of games. Then he was rubbing the other shoulder and called a MTO for it. The ump would call time after a change over and Nick wouldn't get up. He'd leave Millman hanging around at the service line waiting. Pure disrespect. He swore. He yelled. He acted like a baby. And then he'd drill another one, just so to show you he could.

Everything he did was all about himself. He is very needy.
If he doesn't like the life and the game, then why keep playing? Fans paid for those tickets. Fans started to leave well before the match was over. They were tired of the "show".

Don't get me wrong. I have sympathy for Nick as a person. I think he has psychological issues and needs professional help. No shame in that. I think there is a nice person underneath all of that anger and sadness. But the anger and sadness mask that person underneath and leads him to self-destructive behaviour. And he shouldn't be blaming everyone else for his troubles.

Yep, for anybody thinking of being fooled by this PR guff watch this & see what the guy is all about.

 
These guys need to be asked the simple question by these reporters as to why they are playing. Tomic says he hates Tennis & only plays for the money, yet then claims he has ten million in the bank-this makes zero sense, why not just retire with your ten million? Kyrigos says he isn't interested in the money & winning a slam wouldn't do it for him, so again he needs to be asked if he doesn't care about the money & has no interest in winning or putting in the effort, why doesn't he just retire with his many millions & play Call of Duty instead?
 
Darcy,
thanks for poasteng that.

I am a Niko fan. I am also a critic.
He is honest. Sometimes. I like this version of Niko.
Bit of a victim, but a sweet kid. I wish him strength, and growth.

Odd how even niko distances himself from tomic. Bernie much be a pretty serious skidmark, wow.

Well, i would love to hear Niko's rationale behind his on-court dirtbaggery with Stan last year.

Was this a cry for help, or a "get off my back" note? Was it a foreshadowing of retirement?

Just sledging-most Aussie sportsmen do it. Yeah Tomic is currently at a massive toxic level & Kyrigos knows if he carries on the way he is then that will be him in a few years time. Most people are happy to hang around with douchebags while they are at a certain level, now Tomic is number 100 & whatever in the world he isn't as attractive a proposition as 20 or 30 in the world for NK or any of the parasitic hangers on.
 

reaper

Legend
Is he seriously putting the heat on his dead gran for his lacklustre performances? Seriously other people in sport have had to put up with this & worse-James Wattana was playing a big snooker tournament in the UK when he was told his father had been shot back home in Thailand, having been told this he went out & made a 147 maximum break & made it all the way to the tournament final before going home for the funeral-he became a better player after this because he actually put the effort in. Tendulkar's father died during the 1999 World Cup-he flew home, then returned to the tournament after a couple of days back home & jetlagged made 140 in the next game. Call Of Duty? Maybe if he spent less time playing that he would practice more.

Says Tomic is a contradiction & then says winning a slam would not make him that especially happy, so like Tomic he just wants to phone it in. Make enough to get by-laughable seeing as he has earned 5 million already just from prize money. Who do these guys think they are kidding? Isn't winning a slam supposed to be why you are in the game? It is even worse than Tomic because he doesn't have enough talent to win a slam, this guy has it in bucketloads to where he could win multiple slams.

A very private person doesn't show off like he does on the court or off of it. Enough money to open a centre? 5 million from Tennis & probably more from endorsements etc means he could open one tomorrow if he wished-so it is just more pr designed to get over what a great guy he is. These puff pieces trying to garner sympathy & paint bludgers like him & Tomic The Tanker as great guys need to stop. He would run through a wall for Hewitt? Then prove it by actually trying.

To be fair he's not "Putting the heat on his dead gran." He's saying that events like her death put in context the "importance" of tennis. It matters more to others than himself.
 
Mats, good points about Nick Kyrgios AUSTRALIA. And Bernard Toxic AUSTRALIA.
I really only have one comment.
You mentioned the Thai snooker player, James Wattana THAILAND. Even just reading this man's name is frustrating. I am so sad and angry that Siam changed its name to Thailand.

Can you imagine how great it would be if his name were listed alongside the nationality, SIAM?

James Wattana SIAM.

Ok, end of rant.
Credit to Stephen Fry for the wordplay.
 
To be fair he's not "Putting the heat on his dead gran." He's saying that events like her death put in context the "importance" of tennis. It matters more to others than himself.

Then why is he in it? He doesn't have to hit another ball as he has earned over 5 million in prize money & christ knows how many more millions in endorsements/sponsorships & he claims that he isn't motivated by money. So he isn't motivated by wealth & is wealthy anyway & he isn't motivated to win grand slams or other tournaments-so why exactly is he still playing?
 

Fedinkum

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reaper

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Then why is he in it? He doesn't have to hit another ball as he has earned over 5 million in prize money & christ knows how many more millions in endorsements/sponsorships & he claims that he isn't motivated by money. So he isn't motivated by wealth & is wealthy anyway & he isn't motivated to win grand slams or other tournaments-so why exactly is he still playing?

The reason Tomic continues to play (I wouldn't group him with Kyrgios) is that vacuums need to be filled. Since pre adolescence his identity has been founded on playing tennis. He may have his resentments around the lifestyle but tennis remains his principle source of both activity and identity. Remove that...and tooling around in a high performance vehicle for the next 50 years probably doesn't replace it. Kyrgios made the final of Cincinnati the tournament before last....so the question's redundant. He's playing for the indefinite future, not least because he'll never be as good at anything else he does as he is at tennis.
 
The reason Tomic continues to play (I wouldn't group him with Kyrgios) is that vacuums need to be filled. Since pre adolescence his identity has been founded on playing tennis. He may have his resentments around the lifestyle but tennis remains his principle source of both activity and identity. Remove that...and tooling around in a high performance vehicle for the next 50 years probably doesn't replace it. Kyrgios made the final of Cincinnati the tournament before last....so the question's redundant. He's playing for the indefinite future, not least because he'll never be as good at anything else he does as he is at tennis.

Both of them have the finances to do whatever they want & find happiness. Why carry on being miserable? NK could start up this kids centre tomorrow if he wanted to. Create a new identity.
 

reaper

Legend
Both of them have the finances to do whatever they want & find happiness. Why carry on being miserable? NK could start up this kids centre tomorrow if he wanted to. Create a new identity.

If Kyrgios tried to set up an organisation of that type now he'd probably end up a charity case himself. He's a 22 yo whose interests are pokemon and video games. He wouldn't have a clue how to run an organisation of any type. If he does want to help "kids"...or the poor or anyone else the best thing he could do is maximise his earnings while he retains high earnings capacity, gain life experience and maturity, then make an assessment nearer to retirement on how to allocate those resources. When aid agencies recruit young people to work on projects the first people they exclude are the starry eyed who just want to help kids. Their ideals are invariably the first to fold.
 
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He should play his best to make his Grandmother happy. He is also lucky to even know and spend ANY time with his Grandmother.

Last time I saw my last surviving Grandmother was in 2001; she is now 88 years old with dementia.

Agreed, didn't know either of my grandparents and had parent die in my teens. Don't have sympathy for this dead grandparent sob story. It's sad, I guess he was closer to her than most are , but a poor excuse for his bad behavior as an adult.
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
Both of them have the finances to do whatever they want & find happiness. Why carry on being miserable? NK could start up this kids centre tomorrow if he wanted to. Create a new identity.
Agassi was miserable too. Or at least made it that way to account for his lack of dedication in his prime years (pre nadir). Agassi even wore a wig, how superficial is that! Everyone doesn't have their priorities sorted out. As pointed out, NK was in the Cincy final so unlike Tomic he is trying.
 
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