Playing tennis is the only time i'm not depressed

FatHead250

Semi-Pro
The winter has begun and I can't play 4 hours a day like I could in the summer. I only get to play like 4 times a week.

All the time off-court, the only thing I think about is tennis. I constantly do that and get very sad and depressed that I can't play. Nothing else gives me pleasure or fulfillment.

I am a student right now, but I study barely enough to pass. I am interested in what I study (engineering) but i'm not motivated to do anything with it. The only area i'm motivated at is tennis

Should I just say screw it and spend all my money playing everyday until I die and get to terms with it? I'm not good enough to consider jsut touring futures level events (we have money in the family). In fact, i'm barely good enough to beat 4.5 adults with daily jobs
 
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socallefty

Hall of Fame
If you have money from your family to pay your bills, do whatever makes you happy as long as it is healthy for your mind and body and is legal. Playing tennis a lot certainly fits that. But, getting bored and doing a lot of illegal drugs and getting addicted to alcohol does not.

Unfortunately, many rich kids who don’t have a career and have easy money from their families fall into the addiction trap. Being bored long-term is an impediment to happiness and having a fulfilled life. It is important to have some structure in life from having a purpose for long-term happiness - if you don’t need to work, you might want to consider some kind of volunteer/charity work as a career that still allows you time to play a lot of tennis.
 

cortado

Rookie
Did both of you read what he posted before replying? He said "I'm not good enough to consider jsut touring futures level events (we have money in the family). In fact, i'm barely good enough to beat 4.5 adults with daily jobs"
Sorry what point are you making? It's not wise to assume that 'money in the family' will be there to support you your whole adult life. He needs to get a source of income of his own, and then he can spend all his free time playing tennis.
 

SystemicAnomaly

Talk Tennis Guru
Have you tried meditation? Could help manage anxiety or minimize depression. If you have a chemical / neurotransmitter imbalance, you might try to see if certain amino acids might help. Tryptophan or 5-HTP taken on an empty stomach can help some individuals. DLPA (a version of phenylalanine) is another that some have found to produce decent results. Try one of those for 2-3 months to see if it helps. If not, other amino acids you might try include theanine (often taken with caffeine), tyrosine or taurine. Arginine might help with anxiety.
Anxiety, Stress, Depression - a Supplement Approach



Have you tried other exercise or indoor sports during your tennis off season? Extended cardio exercise can lift spirits & even produce the so-called "runners high". Might try an alternate sport like table tennis, badminton, racquetball or pickleball. It might interfere with your tennis for a short time but, eventually, you can develop it to the point where it can even help your tennis.
 
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SystemicAnomaly

Talk Tennis Guru
The other thing that occurred to me is that you might be suffering from a lack of adequate daylight during fall / winter months. This can result in a condition known as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Particularly common in northern altitudes in the Fall and Winter. Full or balanced spectrum indoor lighting might help.

Some super-white LED lamps might have a full spectrum (if their color temp is 5000K or higher). Not certain if they need to contain low levels of UV to be effective. Amazon and other sources might have suitable light therapy boxes especially made for SAD.
 

esm

Hall of Fame
The winter has begun and I can't play 4 hours a day like I could in the summer. I only get to play like 4 times a week.

All the time off-court, the only thing I think about is tennis. I constantly do that and get very sad and depressed that I can't play. Nothing else gives me pleasure or fulfillment.

I am a student right now, but I study barely enough to pass. I am interested in what I study (engineering) but i'm not motivated to do anything with it. The only area i'm motivated at is tennis

Should I just say screw it and spend all my money playing everyday until I die and get to terms with it? I'm not good enough to consider jsut touring futures level events (we have money in the family). In fact, i'm barely good enough to beat 4.5 adults with daily jobs
Engineering can be interesting if you know what you like/love.
sounds you do - so maybe venture into sports science or such. I remember awhile ago that some one mention Head was looking for trainee for their Austrian HQ in racquet tech...just a thought(y)
 

acintya

Legend
The winter has begun and I can't play 4 hours a day like I could in the summer. I only get to play like 4 times a week.

All the time off-court, the only thing I think about is tennis. I constantly do that and get very sad and depressed that I can't play. Nothing else gives me pleasure or fulfillment.

I am a student right now, but I study barely enough to pass. I am interested in what I study (engineering) but i'm not motivated to do anything with it. The only area i'm motivated at is tennis

Should I just say screw it and spend all my money playing everyday until I die and get to terms with it? I'm not good enough to consider jsut touring futures level events (we have money in the family). In fact, i'm barely good enough to beat 4.5 adults with daily jobs
this seems a good plan to me
and if you get a girlfriend make sure she is playing tennis too. :D

some people spend all they money on houses and cars. **** the bricks,**** the wood. u need only a few rooms to survive. freedom is something else, freedom is to not have somebody who forbids you playtime and more racquets.
 

Rubens

Hall of Fame
Patient 1: my elbow hurts when I press on it very hard
Doctor: then stop pressing on it very hard.

Patient 2 (Fat Head): playing tennis is the only time I'm not depressed
Doctor: then keep playing.
 

Happi

Semi-Pro
The winter has begun and I can't play 4 hours a day like I could in the summer. I only get to play like 4 times a week.

All the time off-court, the only thing I think about is tennis. I constantly do that and get very sad and depressed that I can't play. Nothing else gives me pleasure or fulfillment.

I am a student right now, but I study barely enough to pass. I am interested in what I study (engineering) but i'm not motivated to do anything with it. The only area i'm motivated at is tennis

Should I just say screw it and spend all my money playing everyday until I die and get to terms with it? I'm not good enough to consider jsut touring futures level events (we have money in the family). In fact, i'm barely good enough to beat 4.5 adults with daily jobs
I would consider finding a way to work with tennis within your study (engineering), could be techical tennis, instruments for tennis, surface structures (paint) on tennis courts, the list is endless depending on what kind of engineering you study. There are two excellent books on technical tennis, you could start reading them and perhaps get inspired. That way you can get your passion for tennis to fit into your study.

Here is one:

 

croissant92

New User
Should I just say screw it and spend all my money playing everyday until I die and get to terms with it? I'm not good enough to consider jsut touring futures level events (we have money in the family). In fact, i'm barely good enough to beat 4.5 adults with daily jobs
Even if your family has enough money so you never have to work a single day in your life, and you could just play tennis every day and not have a job, I think you need to think about what the social implications are to having no actual job. It's still "cool" enough to be a college dropout wandering through life trying to find meaning and purpose when you're in your 20s, but once you hit the 30s its a different story. All your friends will have started settling into their jobs/careers and you will just be the amateur tennis player. When it comes to the dating scene, what you do for work is almost always the one of the first questions to come up. I would imagine it would be pretty hard to say to that girl/boy you're into that you're unemployed and living off of daddy's money or "I flip burgers just to pass the time when I'm not playing tennis."

I don't mean to sound harsh. Maybe you don't care about that kind of stuff, that's fine too and don't mind me. Other posters here have offered good ideas on ways to find motivation to continue your studies. I think seeing a physician for ruling out a mood disorder is a good idea as well.
 

bobleenov1963

Professional
Even if your family has enough money so you never have to work a single day in your life, and you could just play tennis every day and not have a job, I think you need to think about what the social implications are to having no actual job. It's still "cool" enough to be a college dropout wandering through life trying to find meaning and purpose when you're in your 20s, but once you hit the 30s its a different story. All your friends will have started settling into their jobs/careers and you will just be the amateur tennis player. When it comes to the dating scene, what you do for work is almost always the one of the first questions to come up. I would imagine it would be pretty hard to say to that girl/boy you're into that you're unemployed and living off of daddy's money or "I flip burgers just to pass the time when I'm not playing tennis."

I don't mean to sound harsh. Maybe you don't care about that kind of stuff, that's fine too and don't mind me. Other posters here have offered good ideas on ways to find motivation to continue your studies. I think seeing a physician for ruling out a mood disorder is a good idea as well.
Look, women do NOT care how you make money. I can work 50+ hours per week for 350K/year salary, pay tax at 35% federal bracket rate while the dude above can make money by investing in the stock market with his family money and he can make 350k/year with a 9% return on a 4M investment. To add insult to injury, he only has to pay 20% federal tax bracket rate. He can tell to that boy/girl that he is a "money manager/investor" and he has a lot of free time to play tennis.

Guess who they will want to hang out with. The one who has a regular job working 50+ hours per week or the money manager/investor.
 

Bagumbawalla

Hall of Fame
Well, let's get rid of that engineering major before it does you serious harm.
I suggest you major in art with an archaeology minor. Engineering just seems
too "real" and time consuming. In the mean time you will need cash for tennis supplies- some job you can
do right at the tennis courts- possibly pedicure or Rolfing.
Many tennis courts are located in or near a park. You could find a safe and inexpensive
place to live behind the hedges near the restrooms.
Problem solved. You can play tennis until your depression turns to bliss... and wash your clothes in the
fountain by court 2.
 

SystemicAnomaly

Talk Tennis Guru
@croissant92
I would consider finding a way to work with tennis within your study (engineering), could be techical tennis, instruments for tennis, surface structures (paint) on tennis courts, the list is endless depending on what kind of engineering you study. There are two excellent books on technical tennis, you could start reading them and perhaps get inspired. That way you can get your passion for tennis to fit into your study.

Here is one:

Technical Tennis came out a couple of years after this one. Written by Cross (physicist) and Lindsey, 2 of the same authors. Cheaper and a bit easier read. Still, enough here to whet the appetite of an engineering student.
 
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enishi1357

Rookie
I think you just want to really succeed in something and tennis is something that is achievable.
Since you have money, I think you should just hire a good coach to get good very fast then play alot of good players until you get bored or become a pro.
 

OnTheLine

Hall of Fame
Dealing with real depression is something that needs to be taken with utmost sincerity.

Your words sound like you find joy on the tennis court but perhaps few other places in your life right now.

Unless you are just a really good troll and looking for interesting responses, consider speaking with a counselor at your university for some guidance.
 

ollinger

G.O.A.T.
All the time off-court, the only thing I think about is tennis.
Dealing with real depression is something that needs to be taken with utmost sincerity.
This sounds less like "real depression" and more like being a one-dimensional person without significant other interests. Does the OP think about sex? Does he have friends he sees off the tennis court? Does he enjoy good comedy or good music? I doubt supplements or sunlight are the issue here. It seems a bit absurd that one can be that interested in tennis and not find other pleasurable interests. Is the OP dramatizing the extent of his monolithic existence? Therapy sounds like a good idea.
 

ollinger

G.O.A.T.
(and encouraging him to find work or whatever in the tennis world is exactly the wrong prescription; one doesn't encourage a one-dimensional life to become even more one-dimensional)
 

Happi

Semi-Pro
(and encouraging him to find work or whatever in the tennis world is exactly the wrong prescription; one doesn't encourage a one-dimensional life to become even more one-dimensional)
I think the opposite, perhaps the OP is a passionate person and the cure is to allow himself to be passionate about tennis. Perhaps he is not one-dimensional at all. You dont know and I dont know, so the best advice to OP is to see a doctor or a psykologist to find out if he has a depression, have a one-dimentional mind or if he is just a passionate tennis lover.
 

MaxTennis

Semi-Pro
Dealing with real depression is something that needs to be taken with utmost sincerity.

Your words sound like you find joy on the tennis court but perhaps few other places in your life right now.

Unless you are just a really good troll and looking for interesting responses, consider speaking with a counselor at your university for some guidance.
He’s a troll. Don’t take him seriously.
 

Username_

Hall of Fame
cant tell if serious since OP crapposts in GPPD a lot, but if serious like someone else mentioned here

keeping your head up is the first step
 

socallefty

Hall of Fame
Anyone who chooses a derogatory term like ‘Fathead‘ as their moniker on a public forum might either have a self-destructive streak or might act so ironic and snarky in their daily life that they might be socially awkward with few friends. While the OP is notorious for starting troll threads, I’m inclined to think there might be a grain of truth behind this one where he is admitting to finding life tough to deal with.

Or he could be laughing with his sophomoric friends in a college dorm room at the serious replies he is getting from people trying to give him advice. I don’t know which way I would bet on this.
 

Crocodile

Legend
Well the best thing to do is to go and talk to people about it, maybe a psychologist who also does hypnosis or an older wise person who has a successful track record. I knew a guy who was doing a law degree but he chucked it in to be a successful tennis coach and I think he is happy.
To get into an engineering Degree you are doing well. there is so much to look forward to and you can still play tennis and do your work.
 

sureshs

Bionic Poster
Well, no. Did my hypnosis training with one of the greats (Martin Orne) and can tell you hypnosis is not felt to be especially useful for depression.
Martin Theodore Orne (October 16, 1927, Vienna, Austria – February 11, 2000, Paoli, Pennsylvania)[1][2] was a professor of psychiatry and psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. Orne is best known for his pioneering research into demand characteristics, illustrating the weakness of informing participants that they are taking part in a psychology experiment and yet expecting them to act normally. He was well known as a researcher in the field of hypnosis and is also noted for his involvement with the poet Anne Sexton, and with the trials of Patty Hearst and Kenneth Bianchi.

Orne did not believe it was possible to use hypnosis for the purpose of creating a Manchurian Candidate stating, “When the layman inquires whether hypnosis can be used to induce antisocial behavior, he generally wonders whether a hypnotist can induce trance in a total stranger and then compel him to carry out behavior for his own personal and private benefit--the subject somehow becoming the helpless tool of the powerful hypnotist."…"No authority has seriously maintained that such a total control fantasy could be translated into real life with the help of hypnosis. Fortunately, the Manchurian Candidate still remains fiction.” [8]

Dr. Orne sought to prove his stance by replicating experiments previously believed to have demonstrated hypnosis could coerce subjects into "unacceptable” or “antisocial” behavior – such as handling a poisonous snake or throwing acid on a research assistant. By adding a control group of simulators to these experiments, Orne demonstrated that the control group (simulators) were more likely than the hypnotized subjects to perform the requested “antisocial” act. Orne explains that this is because subjects in these experiments, both hypnotized and simulators, trusted that they were not in any real danger. He concludes: “The popular view which holds that hypnosis is able to exert a unique form of control over the hypnotized individual, which can compel him to carry out otherwise repugnant actions, must be rejected.[8]
 

sureshs

Bionic Poster
I once attended a New Age fair. Most of the clients were women, some men too, most seeking to communicate with departed people through mediums or seeking a miracle cure for a disease. I paid $20 for a a 20-minute hypnosis session but was not hypnotized. The lady said some people like me are not hypnotized easily.
 

ollinger

G.O.A.T.
“The popular view which holds that hypnosis is able to exert a unique form of control over the hypnotized individual, which can compel him to carry out otherwise repugnant actions, must be rejected.[8]
Yes, pretty much all hypnosis scholars seem to agree you can't make someone do something under hypnosis that he wouldn't otherwise be willing to do.
 

Turbo-87

Legend
Tennis is the only winter activity I have outside of the home since I am both working and working out at home right now because of skyrocketing cases. I feel good about playing no matter what because at least it got me out of the house having fun doing something with relatively low risk.
 

Tennease

Legend
You could jump into tennis racquet or tennis equipments engineering! Design a powerful and arm friendly racquet and string! Invent a new string that never break and never lose tension! Invent a tennis ball that never goes flat. Engineer a new AI robotic tennis ball machine that can track and predict your movements and can play like a top tennis player!!!
 
You could jump into tennis racquet or tennis equipments engineering! Design a powerful and arm friendly racquet and string! Invent a new string that never break and never lose tension! Invent a tennis ball that never goes flat. Engineer a new AI robotic tennis ball machine that can track and predict your movements and can play like a top tennis player!!!
And make sure to build in obsolesence: every year, the racquet gets heavier to the point of unuseability [except by @Shroud], sort of like how iPhone performance dropped.
 
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