Quitting ladies doubles

[Cindysphinx]

But SureshS, the opponent didn't say "Please don't HIT ME with the ball" (which is actually a reasonable request). She said "Don't hit the ball CLOSE TO ME." Which is ridiculous. It's certainly not "nasty" to hit the ball "close to" another player...indeed, depending on what you even mean by "close," it's impossible to avoid in many situations.

We actually do not know what exactly was said. OP said she didn’t hear it.

 

[snvplayer]

Who is OP? I'm the one who posted. I'm COCap. My specific age is not important. Wonder where you see that info. Opponent player who made the comment, "Please don't hit balls so close to me" is almost 70 I think. She used to be 4.5 a couple of years ago. My partner who quit trying is 52. Trust me that my partner is almost 4.5 (rated 3.9998 on tennis record) and she hit the ball exactly where she needed to hit it with total control. It was a great shot!

Although this was social tennis and we were not playing at anyone's club, we did not expect to have to hold back on shots. It has never happened before and we have been playing lots of social 4.0 tennis lately since there are no league matches right now.

Kind of depends on how your partner interpreted the message..Maybe she thought your opponent was trying to intimidate with seniority or was acting entitled when in fact your opponent was just asking "please be gentle with us because we cannot move as quickly as we used to, and your shots are harder than what we are used to."

Either way, I think your partner could have handled it better. Probably the first step is to ask how your partner interpreted and felt about the comment. Whether she owes you an apology, well that's her decision in my opinion.. You can choose to invite her one more time, or not invite her at all.

 

[tennis tom]

Doesn't sound like a great partnership, or "friendship", if the willingness to communicate is that poor.

 

[AtomicForehand]

We actually do not know what exactly was said. OP said she didn’t hear it.

I don't understand. The OP in her original post said,

She hit the ball pretty hard but not at anyone and didn't hit anyone [it was a great poach shot]. The opponent said, "Please don't hit the ball close to me".

 

[rogerroger917]

Um just don't play with them again.

 

[OnTheLine]

I don't understand. The OP in her original post said,

She clarified in one of several posts that she didn't actually hear the conversation ...

 

[AtomicForehand]

She clarified in one of several posts that she didn't actually hear the conversation ...

Oh. Well, then, what is the discussion actually about, if she didn't hear what was said?

 

[S&V-not_dead_yet]

Um just don't play with them again.

I think OP was caught by surprise because the commenter was someone she played with before and was a 4.5 until recently. Completely inexplicable behavior under those circumstances. Dart gave an outlier example of a woman who had extensive facial reconstruction but OP made no mention of that.