Social anxiety?

[Kofe]

I'm having a tough time meeting new friends. I have my own set of friends, but I just can't seem to branch out and meet new people. I'm sort of shy so it makes it really tough and I usually end up staying in doing nothing unless one of my few friends call me up to do something.

Has anyone else been like me?

Also please don't say to go out and meet new people, I already know that, that is part of the problem.

 

[TokyopunK]

If your life is fine the way it is... then there is no need to go out and meet new people.

That's how I look it at it.

 

[veritech]

befriend people who have similar interests with you by joining groups or clubs. think of easy conversation starters, and once you get the conversation going, be respectful to the person and just be yourself. those are my only two guidelines i follow when i meet new people.

 

[CanadianChic]

It's not always easy to meet new people and extend yourself, I understand. I used to be terribly shy as a child and remember how crippling the feeling was at social gatherings. I'm not sure exactly what the trigger was, but a switch of sorts went off when I was a teen and I became the polar opposite. Do you call anyone from your group of friends up and suggest going out or wait for them to call you? Try being the one to instigate the plans and the more comfortable you become with that then perhaps it won't be as intimidating doing the same with new people. When I meet someone new I just ask them if they want to grab a coffee or see a movie sometime to let me know. This may help you as it presents yourself up for friendship without having to make a bold move of calling someone new up yourself.

 

[pro_staff]

I would join a club or a sports team. Those are good, sure ways to make friends, especially sports teams. Good luck!

 

[CanadianChic]

I'm not disagreeing with your idea, but it is a lot easier to say "go out and make some friends", or ""go join some clubs" than actually doing it when you are shy. He needs to overcome the shyness to feel comfortable in that type of environment or else he'll just be the shy kid that no one knows.

 

[Headshotterer]

delete!!!!

 

[Lakoste]

Kofe...long time no see.

My story is similar and different at the same time. I was always the sociable guy, never had a problem approaching new people. Then I fell in a rut of sorts. My wife got cancer, went through all the treatment . I lost all motivation to do basically anything other than stay home with her. I only went out if my friends had something for me to do. It wasn't healthy. The treatment went fine and she is fine now, but I had trouble going back to who I was. I knew I could go out and have fun, but it was almost like my newly found laziness was keeping me in.

A good way to break your laziness (that is what you have btw, you're not a shy dude) is to have a party at your place. Tell friends to invite everybody and anybody. Good way to branch out since everybody will want to meet the host.

That, or give me a call. I'll definitely get you out meeting new people.

 

[ls206]

I'm having a tough time meeting new friends. I have my own set of friends, but I just can't seem to branch out and meet new people. I'm sort of shy so it makes it really tough and I usually end up staying in doing nothing unless one of my few friends call me up to do something.

Has anyone else been like me?

Also please don't say to go out and meet new people, I already know that, that is part of the problem.

Joining clubs is a great way to meet people. People at clubs are always very friendly to new members. If you don't want to go on your own, go with a friend or family member.

 

[0range]

I'm having a tough time meeting new friends. I have my own set of friends, but I just can't seem to branch out and meet new people. I'm sort of shy so it makes it really tough and I usually end up staying in doing nothing unless one of my few friends call me up to do something.

Has anyone else been like me?

Also please don't say to go out and meet new people, I already know that, that is part of the problem.

I know exactly what you mean. Are you diagnosed?

The condition will sometimes get slighlty better and sometimes slightly worse... unfortunately I don't know if anything can "cure" it. The best thing to do is trying to keep yourself happy and loving life (a hobby, keeping at least one reliable good friend, being passionate about something...etc); it makes a lot of difference.

 

[anonymous2364]

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