So, my dilemma of pushing and winning versus playing correctly and losing is solved. I just quit the ladder today. Screw it. I will just play tournaments. WAY too much drama. I didn't mention that the first woman I played and beat screamed "Yes" at the top of her lungs every time a ball I hit went into the net or out. I thought that was SO rude. Then, a few days later I was rallying for fun with same woman and she proceeded to scream out and not hit balls that were like 1 inch past the baseline even though she was standing right there!We were JUST rallying!!!! I was being nice by hitting with her as I thought her reactions during the match were so rude. What is wrong with people????? The next woman I played and beat blatantly lied and cheated. She called balls I hit out that I know were absolutely in; played points and then after she lost said points didn't count because my ball was really out; and she hit a "winner" when my first serve hit the net (let) and bounced in. I went to prepare for my second serve while she hit said winner and then she told me my first serve didn't hit the net. Um, hello!! The next woman I was scheduled to play left a phone message that said, "So, I see you are moving up the ladder. So, what do you think you can beat me? Well, I am not going to let that happen.". I would have been playing these same women multiple times. To make matters worse, I told the tennis director I was leaving the ladder and he started calling me selfish at the top of his lungs in front of the entire lobby (because I would mess up ladder matches?). It was REALLY embarassing. He was so pissed and implied he wouldn't put me on any teams now. *sigh* I didn't tell him the real reason I was quitting because I know these women would blackball me .....big time. So as Alexander would say...today was a no good very bad day!!! :evil: Welcome to the world of club tennis.