Gary Duane
Talk Tennis Guru
I don't disagree at all with what you are saying here. That's why people change as they age. The moment you have kids, everything changes. People over the age of 30 are very different from who they are at 21 or 25. But don't make assumptions about who works hard and who doesn't. I'm up most of the night every night working on teaching materials and trying to push boundaries for my students, and I've been doing this for almost 50 years, as a teacher.Do you remember how Federer was? So far Tsitsipas has had better behaviour than Federer had. Yes its being immature, but it is a killer instinct and they hate to lose so much. The way they sometimes snap is probably just a small part of what they actually feel, its so much more, cause they do try to keep it together as we all do. To say the brutal truth: They probably cry at home sometimes after losses. Thats the difference between we sitting here online and they being out there on court working hard. They hate losing intensely. Just that itself, is pretty immature. Why they have to win? Why do they have to do all this big stuff in their life to prove to themselves they are worthy? Its giving us entertainment, thats for sure. Its giving us many things in life, from people w this drive. But its a nightmare being w them in the private sphere, as they are egoistic and immature, they arent spiritually developed or having peace w themselves.
Novak is probably the one of the big 3 that is most loved. As his fans love him unconditionally. The Serb thing. Federer fans leave and talk **** about him when he is not doing well. Just look in this forum, most of them are gone now. Try to put things into persepctive, you cannot say a player isnt loved when he has million of fans. Quality is better than quantity.
There are different goals involved in trying to win and in trying to help other people become the best that they can be. That's why so many of the most talented people in the world are often so unhappy. It's not just the need to win that can be so lonely and hard on people around you. Creative people are often very hard to be around because the ego to create often does not have any time for feelings. I'm convinced that many former champions actually lead happier lives after they retire - time to smell the roses so to speak.