sphinx780
Hall of Fame
That's the spirit! Go get 'em Tiger...
what caused your divorce?
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Big_Dangerous
Talk Tennis Guru
Eh, you're talking to a really depressed guy.
sphinx780
Hall of Fame
Sorry man, just trying to lighten the mood. Not trying to have a laugh at your expense. Hope you're talking with a professional on it.
Big_Dangerous
Talk Tennis Guru
No it's cool, I am seeing someone later in January, (soonest I could get an appointment) but thank you for your concern.
r2473
G.O.A.T.
It's a very complicated situation Max....
To love is to suffer.
To avoid suffering, one must not love.
But then one suffers from not loving.
Therefore, to love is to suffer.
Not to love is to suffer.
To suffer is to suffer.
To be happy is to love.
To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy.
Therefore, to be unhappy one must love,
or love to suffer,|or suffer from too much happiness...
chikoo
Hall of Fame
True. I was considering individuals who have independant lives, and are now husband & wife.
tennytive
Hall of Fame
Find a woman you can live with, who will cook for you, clean for you, and has a job.
Find a woman who can make you laugh out loud.
Find a woman you can trust and will never lie to you.
Find a woman who is great in bed and wants to please you.
Make sure these 4 women never find out about each other, or it may cause more than just your divorce.
Find a woman who can make you laugh out loud.
Find a woman you can trust and will never lie to you.
Find a woman who is great in bed and wants to please you.
Make sure these 4 women never find out about each other, or it may cause more than just your divorce.
Nostradamus
Bionic Poster
and all 4 of these women have to be totally hot like Amy Adams
Big_Dangerous
Talk Tennis Guru
fireandwind
Hall of Fame
I am so sorry to hear that. Everyone deserve their love. Please don't give up. My mother always said " Every shoe has its partner".
Big_Dangerous
Talk Tennis Guru
Yeah, I won't, but it is tough meeting women, and even harder trying to establish an actual relationship with one that's worthwhile. and I've had some bad experience with dates that have contributed rather considerable toward my bitter and cynical attitude toward relationships and this notion of "love." It's also conflicting, because some days I miss the connection and having someone, but then other days I'm happy to have my autonomy and not have to be burdened with letting that person know every place I'm going, etc. If I want to go out and play tennis for a few hours, I don't need permission, lol. If I want to spend a little money on myself, like on some nice clothes/shoes, etc, then I can do that every now and then.
fireandwind
Hall of Fame
Yeah, I won't, but it is tough meeting women, and even harder trying to establish an actual relationship with one that's worthwhile. and I've had some bad experience with dates that have contributed rather considerable toward my bitter and cynical attitude toward relationships and this notion of "love." It's also conflicting, because some days I miss the connection and having someone, but then other days I'm happy to have my autonomy and not have to be burdened with letting that person know every place I'm going, etc. If I want to go out and play tennis for a few hours, I don't need permission, lol. If I want to spend a little money on myself, like on some nice clothes/shoes, etc, then I can do that every now and then.
Yes, it is nice to have autonomy and do things unhinged. But we all need relationship eventually unless you are sure you want to live single life for good. It is harder to find a right woman when you get older.
To establish good relationship you have to give up many things to accommodate your girl's wishes and her own way. Also she must give up many things to accommodate your ways. It is give and take and understanding each other well, and that will help to establish long ever lasting relationship.
meltphace 6
Hall of Fame
Predictability/boredom will cause my divorce.
chikoo
Hall of Fame
"it" is nothing but a big honking 3ct diamond ring
chikoo
Hall of Fame
You mean there would be no herpes, syphillis, gonnorhea, AIDS.
Big_Dangerous
Talk Tennis Guru
Big_Dangerous
Talk Tennis Guru
One of the big relationship killers:
Always trying to find the right balance between spontaneity/complacency or predictability, along with autonomy/connection, openess/closedness.
acintya
Legend
im 10 years into this ****. the most i miss beeing totally alone. now with kids i cant even have a meal without someone beeing around me or looking into my plate.
my biggest wish right now is that i would be isolated in a mountain hut with heavy snow and wind in a warm bed surrounded with books, movies and fps games.
my biggest wish right now is that i would be isolated in a mountain hut with heavy snow and wind in a warm bed surrounded with books, movies and fps games.
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Ronaldo
Bionic Poster
Who-ville that bad?
acintya
Legend
So bad that i might become Sinner.Who-ville that bad?
Ronaldo
Bionic Poster
Who?
BeatlesFan
Bionic Poster
optic yellow
Legend
Surely there is an Airbnb that can satisfy that, though you might have to supply the books and games yourself.
MichaelNadal
Bionic Poster
I'm so glad I don't have kids, idk how people do it. It's SO TIME CONSUMING. You already have to work all damn day then go home and deal with kids, omg
I love my "me" time and my roommate is my best friend so when I do want to chill with someone I have him there and we get along so perfectly.chrischris
G.O.A.T.
Looking at Reasons for people getting divorced i found that unresolved trauma from childhood were quite frequent.
Triggering reaction that Tear up and make a person do things they rather would not and come to sorely regret
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Triggering reaction that Tear up and make a person do things they rather would not and come to sorely regret
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acintya
Legend
hm. I forgot to say that all the free time in World cant replace watching a child grow and smile, but unless you have your own kids you will never understand how it is like - even you think you understand by watching others. Like I didnt before the birth. What I learnt is that pre-child most people are overly "self-focused"like I was.I'm so glad I don't have kids, idk how people do it. It's SO TIME CONSUMING. You already have to work all damn day then go home and deal with kids, omg
Transience of life. People mostly care about un-important things.
I could blabla for a hour but its meaningless, like my 10 years of "fun" before beeing a father. The years are gone with the wind and the only thing I regret is I didnt have children earlier in my life.
chrischris
G.O.A.T.
Having kids sure is complex...
Some cant handle it while most manage and a few succeed in being there through thick n thin while having 'careers'
I find that kids lighten us up to being authentic for an instance or so. Most of us have been taught not be..
acintya
Legend
just do the opposite as the media says, which is bashing people minds about how important is to have many women, a sucessful career and free time for doing whatever nonsense you want to do until you drop dead. also the school system is totally f. up. just to take your time away.
and proffesional sports? they shouldnt even exist.
its called atomization of people. everyone is so self focused that we forgot we need to work together in order to run "the cell" . but we are becoming unconnected atoms now. everyone on his own island surrounded by imaginery friend over wi-fi.
we should have babies before turning 30 if you ask me. and the one-child policy is the biggest depopulation plan ever. you can never have enough children unless you cant handle it anymore. anyone who has the courage, money and will to have plenty of kids should have them.
is tough, but its not only the children who grow, but also the parents. its extremely hard especially if you add another baby. 2=3 in this scenario.
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chrischris
G.O.A.T.
Nostradamus
Bionic Poster
DSH
Talk Tennis Guru
The main cause of a divorce is a marriage.
And no, it's not a joke, it's a cause-effect of believing in something as obtuse as that, that unless there is assets involved and giving the surname on unborn children (legal security), this no longer has (ever had?) any reason to exist, even less so in the world in which we currently live.
The real purpose of marriage in the past was to increase the probability of having someone to support you in sickness and old age. If there is a stable system of support which can be tapped to outside of this, the need reduces.The main cause of a divorce is a marriage.
And no, it's not a joke, it's a cause-effect of believing in something as obtuse as that, that unless there is assets involved and giving the surname on unborn children (legal security), this no longer has (ever had?) any reason to exist, even less so in the world in which we currently live.
BlueB
Legend
Marriage is the pillar of the family and family is the pillar of society, in despite of what the brave new world wants us to believe.The main cause of a divorce is a marriage.
And no, it's not a joke, it's a cause-effect of believing in something as obtuse as that, that unless there is assets involved and giving the surname on unborn children (legal security), this no longer has (ever had?) any reason to exist, even less so in the world in which we currently live.
