In practice, for the most part, you are free to watch the ball track its flight, move into position, work on the smoothness and
sameness of your strokes- you are relaxed, at ease- you develop a rhythm, become connected to the ball.
Of course once you begin a match the opponent want to do everything to disrupt all those things you practiced.
You may start out playing strongly and confidently, but a good opponent will sense your frailties, make you feel
awkward and self doubt creeps in. Things/ideas swirl through your mind- you begin to "double-think" and evaluate you strokes
when you should bee hitting freely. You go for too much to compensate for that feeling of falling behind. Taking more risks causes more mistakes-
the cycle feedd on itself.
What can you do? Many of us have a prefered style of play- we practice that and gain confidence because we are good at it but we should not
ignor the other aspects of the game- that you seldom practice because it is not as fun. Make a list of all the varous strokes, shots, movements that
will round out your game and practice them all so you will have fewer weaknesses to take advantage of.
Often times, a person who has a strong desire to win, also has a strong fear of losing. Think of it this way- it's just a game. If you are a 4.0 or 4.5, there are
millions? of players better than you. You are out there for fun, excercise, you just want to play the ball, not the spectators, not the ranking, not your self-image.
If nothing else, think of the opponent as a friend, someone essential to the game- without him you would be standing there alone with nothing to do.