This.... It is obvious ntrppopo is very serious about his tennis. As well being a basically beginner player he is all about strokes and wins and being the best at tennis. All of us here are passionate about this sport. But there is a point of insanity that ntrppopo has passed. Stating nationals is the same as having a child to someone. Maybe to a lunatic. Possibly ntrppopo has no real responsibilities at this moment so he has no real idea of what it means to be responsible for a family. A job. A career. To make money. To support the family. Tennis is a stress relief for most adult players. It is not the end goal. And if your life's ambition is to play 3.0 nationals and some person because of family responsibilities could not do it and your still bitter? I say get a life. If anyone gave me grief about a similar situation I would tell them to get a real life and stop playing with monopoly money.