What's wrong with guys?

I had a huge crush on one of my close girl-friends. I told her I liked her two weeks prior. It just so happens that one of my ex-close buddies asked her out the week before my b-day, and I found out about them after I saw them holding hands on the way to class. On my birthday. Dec 17. You can probably guess I had a happy holiday ;) Actually my friends suggested we go to the mall so I can take my mind off of everything lol
 
Just so you know, I am the Chief Psychoanalyst and also Dean of Science and Tennisology of TTWU, so you are in good hands here. And also there are many other talented doctors on the forum. I need to step out for a fraction of a second just now, but please continue with those next steps we discussed, and doctors will help, and I’ll be back too very soon… We'll make things happen for you...;)
 
As you probably already know, playing tennis helps a great deal as well. It can do wonders to take your mind off a lot of things, not just girls. I speak from experience, naturally.

I also like sleep. It's my second fave pasttime after tennis right now.
 
boojay said:
As you probably already know, playing tennis helps a great deal as well. It can do wonders to take your mind off a lot of things, not just girls. I speak from experience, naturally.

I also like sleep. It's my second fave pasttime after tennis right now.
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Too bad indoor courts cost me a a shoe and a string job :[ This damn winter weather.
 
SoBad said:
Just so you know, I am the Chief Psychoanalyst and also Dean of Science and Tennisology of TTWU, so you are in good hands here. And also there are many other talented doctors on the forum. I need to step out for a fraction of a second just now, but please continue with those next steps we discussed, and doctors will help, and I’ll be back too very soon… We'll make things happen for you...;)
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If I hear about any autopsies where the person died from tennis balls... I'll know who to thank.
 
MegacedU said:
You're not a pig, you're my buddy! Let's go get a drink and be buddies with benefits...a whole other world than the one night stand!!
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Do these benefits include eye and dental? JK. You know you're on the short list of people I want to get drunk with. Drakulie needs to throw another BBQ or something.
RestockingTues said:
Another that makes me different from most teenage boys, I know when I'm wrong/what I do wrong. And I think about my past actions to the point of over analyzing myself. Torturing myself, maybe. At least I won't do the same thing 3 times :lol:
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Hey, it's good to have those thoughts, it's an unfortunate by-product of intelligence this self-loathing thing, but learn to keep it to a minimum. Yes, people will like you for being self-deprecating but they'll like you for the wrong reasons -- mostly because they can feel better about themselves at your expense. And they'll resent it if you ever decide to become more than they need you to be in order to maintain their feeling of superiority over you. Not saying you should be an arrogant *******, but even if you can't stop beating yourself internally, don't sell yourself short to other people. Don't be arrogant, but try to be confident, and with girls, don't be TOO accommodating. Be a great listener, and don't judge them, but at the same time, be the one that gets off the phone first and try to always make them like you more than you like them. And to be even more condescending, and I'm really trying not to be but I realize it might be coming off that way, know that there's somebody out there for you. That is the truth. Maybe she's the girl in school who has a secret crush on you, or maybe she's halfway across the world, staring at the stars or wishing her present jerk of a boyfriend would shut up, but she's out there. So in the meanwhile, kill time by becoming the best and most confident Restocking Tues possible so you'll be ready for the day you guys finally meet. Oink oink.
 
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MegacedU said:
So you ARE same-sex oriented. It all makes sense.

Sobad - Does that make me resident super model?
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Meg, just because he's stuck in the cultural wastelands of California, doesn't mean he's a bad person. And you know you've been the resident super even before I signed on to psychoanalyse everybody, so why even ask, you know it!@!:)
 
35ft6 said:
Do these benefits include eye and dental? JK. You know you're on the short list of people I want to get drunk with. Drakulie needs to throw another BBQ or something. Hey, it's good to have those thoughts, it's an unfortunate by-product of intelligence this self-loathing thing, but learn to keep it to a minimum. Yes, people will like you for being self-deprecating but they'll like you for the wrong reasons -- mostly because they can feel better about themselves at your expense. And they'll resent it if you ever decide to become more than they need you to be in order to maintain their feeling of superiority over you. Not saying you should be an arrogant *******, but even if you can't stop beating yourself internally, don't sell yourself short to other people. Don't be arrogant, but try to be confident, and with girls, don't be TOO accommodating. Be a great listener, and don't judge them, but at the same time, be the one that gets off the phone first and try to always make them like you more than you like them. And to be even more condescending, and I'm really trying not to be but I realize it might be coming off that way, know that there's somebody out there for you. That is the truth. Maybe she's the girl in school who has a secret crush on you, or maybe she's halfway across the world, staring at the stars or wishing her present jerk of a boyfriend would shut up, but she's out there. So in the meanwhile, kill time by becoming the best and most confident Restocking Tues possible so you'll be ready for the day you guys finally meet. Oink oink.
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You're definitely on my list of guys I'd get drunk with. haha how bout waiting... 5 years?
 
SoBad said:
Just so you know, I am the Chief Psychoanalyst and also Dean of Science and Tennisology of TTWU, so you are in good hands here. And also there are many other talented doctors on the forum. I need to step out for a fraction of a second just now, but please continue with those next steps we discussed, and doctors will help, and I’ll be back too very soon… We'll make things happen for you...
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I've never seen a statement on TTW as pretentious as this. ;)
 
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If I hear about any autopsies where the person died from tennis balls... I'll know who to thank.
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I am sorry for interruptions as a I had to attend to a patient emergency. Please continue. So irritation with mall guys was just manifestation of your unresolved conflict with that girl. So what happened with her?
 
We stopped talking. After two months of walking home together, hugs in the cold autumn wind. Hahaha she lives a block away from me too, which sucks for me.

One of my mall buddies commented that she looked like a twig, what could I have possibly seen in her.
All I could say was that she had a gorgeous smile.

Does anyone else like girls with great smiles? Not necessarily the dime or bombshell?
 
Actually, I sit next to this girl in one of my classes. And we used to go to track conditioning together. Now that she's going with her new boyfriend though, I guess I'll be getting out of shape for the tennis season ^^"
 
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She said something about needing space. And when I approached her she'd start talking to HER girl-friends in chinese. Which I don't understand.

Y'know how it's awkward if you like a friend of yours, but if you tell them then relations became somewhat awkward? Well when we walked home together, at one point she asked me who I liked everyday, for a week, even bribing me with hugs and saying that we were close. So I told her and… boom :lol:
 
RestockingTues said:
She said something about needing space. And when I approached her she'd start talking to HER girl-friends in chinese. Which I don't understand.

Y'know how it's awkward if you like a friend of yours, but if you tell them then relations became somewhat awkward? Well when we walked home together, at one point she asked me who I liked everyday, for a week, even bribing me with hugs and saying that we were close. So I told her and… boom :lol:
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I am confused about sequence of events here. You stopped talking because she said she needed space?
 
Not just because of that. I feel like I can't trust her anymore. She told me we were close friends, and that we could talk to each other about anything. I told her I liked her, and then the next day she tells me she needs some space. Seems like they're linked right?

Two weeks later, I find out for myself that she's going out with a now ex buddy of mine.

If this happened to you would you still talk to her?
 
RestockingTues said:
Not just because of that. I feel like I can't trust her anymore. She told me we were close friends, and that we could talk to each other about anything. I told her I liked her, and then the next day she tells me she needs some space. Seems like they're linked right?

Two weeks later, I find out for myself that she's going out with a now ex buddy of mine.

If this happened to you would you still talk to her?
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no, don't talk to her anymore. let her go. Also go date some other girls that you are interested in.
 
Vermillion said:
no, don't talk to her anymore. let her go. Also go date some other girls that you are interested in.
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That sounds like a good idea. The thing is, everyone else at my school I've known for about 6 years :lol: Either I know them really well or I don't know them at all. High school :roll:
 
You can’t trust anyone (save for blood relatives maybe to an extent), especially a girl you like. What did you want from her (before you stopped talking)?
 
Most guys are pigs. As a guy I can admit that, and it's made especially easier to say it since I'm one of the few who is not a pig and doesn't have sex on the mind all the time (only some of the time). I think women know that guys are pigs by now. But before you all go lesbian, know that those guys are probably still better than a lot of the horrific and selfish girls out there. At least a pig is still fun company to be around.
 
This sounds pretty sappy but I just wanted someone to hold in my arms and tell "I love you".

She wasn't particularly good looking. (My mall buddies gave her a four and five) She was kind of dorky, my ap history takes tylenol in class everytime she wants to fight over a point on a project or a test or something. She's not athletic, she doesn't even play tennis.

I'm such a sad fool haha, I thought that she was "the one".
 
Okay, Restocking Tues, now that you've gone through this, you should know the signs. Don't put yourself into that position again. Don't stop being nice, but don't become like the straight gay male friend that girls use as a garbage dump for their emotions and insecurities.

If a girl really likes you, they want to spend every moment with you, and definitely the weekends. You and only you. Don't care what you have planned, they want to hang out and they always give you first dibs except for special occasions. In general, anything short of that, and that means she doesn't like you "that way." I'm not saying that a woman will become a complete wreck, wanting to be with you even at the risk of losing her job, home, and car, but it will be obvious. Don't trick yourself into thinking girls are always playing hard to get (they do, but even then it's obvious) or they're kind of into you and they just need your patience and understanding to push them over the edge...

Don't become the serial friend. If and when this girl comes back, because she enjoys the ego boost of knowing you like her, avoid falling into the same routine at all costs.
 
35ft6 said:
Okay, Restocking Tues, now that you've gone through this, you should know the signs. Don't put yourself into that position again. Don't stop being nice, but don't become like the straight gay male friend that girls use as a garbage dump for their emotions and insecurities.

If a girl really likes you, they want to spend every moment with you, and definitely the weekends. You and only you. Don't care what you have planned, they want to hang out and they always give you first dibs except for special occasions. In general, anything short of that, and that means she doesn't like you "that way." I'm not saying that a woman will become a complete wreck, wanting to be with you even at the risk of losing her job, home, and car, but it will be obvious. Don't trick yourself into thinking girls are always playing hard to get (they do, but even then it's obvious) or they're kind of into you and they just need your patience and understanding to push them over the edge...

Don't become the serial friend. If and when this girl comes back, because she enjoys the ego boost of knowing you like her, avoid falling into the same routine at all costs.
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Thanks a bunch 35ft6. It's great knowing you're on these boards :D
 
I don't plan on hooking up with any girls anytime soon though. I decided a better use of my time would be getting to the 5.0 level first :lol: Hugeeeee leap from where I'm standing.
 
OK, now it’s a little more complicated… but why do you think you wanted someone to hold in your arms and tell "I love you"?
 
SoBad said:
OK, now it’s a little more complicated… but why do you think you wanted someone to hold in your arms and tell "I love you"?
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I've watched the Notebook too many times, and too many Asian dramas. So now I'm brainwashed into thinking that love is going to happen to everyone, and it's the best thing in the world.

I'm not thinking straight right now so I'll probably edit this later as soon as I am. Lol
 
RestockingTues said:
I've watched the Notebook too many times, and too many Asian dramas. So now I'm brainwashed into thinking that love is going to happen to everyone, and it's the best thing in the world.

I'm not thinking straight right now so I'll probably edit this later as soon as I am. Lol
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Never reveal that soft under belly to ANY woman until you've been with her for a while. If you come straight out with that stuff, it'll just be awkward. Act like a man, have fun. When you get closer and more comfortable, then they just love that sensitive stuff...in moderation.

Watching The Notebook together and enjoying it = good

Gentle sobbing after the movie ends = bad
 
RestockingTues said:
I've watched the Notebook too many times, and too many Asian dramas. So now I'm brainwashed into thinking that love is going to happen to everyone, and it's the best thing in the world.

I'm not thinking straight right now so I'll probably edit this later as soon as I am. Lol
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Well I think we made a lot of progress and everything is just excellent. I think you are doing great thinking and very lucid, and I am too, and will also log off soon to help people in need around me as well as psychoanalyse myself a little too. Nice thread, good work, sweet dreams.;)
 
RestockingTues said:
We stopped talking. After two months of walking home together, hugs in the cold autumn wind. Hahaha she lives a block away from me too, which sucks for me.

One of my mall buddies commented that she looked like a twig, what could I have possibly seen in her.
All I could say was that she had a gorgeous smile.

Does anyone else like girls with great smiles? Not necessarily the dime or bombshell?
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I love girls with nice smiles. It's one of the best things you can have.
 
firstservethenvolley said:
I love girls with nice smiles.
It's one of the best things you can have.
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''I like big butts and I cannot lie.
You other brothers can't deny...''

Kidding. Well, not completely.
But I'm with you on the beauty of a sincere and great smile.

Restocking Tuesday, you're trying so hard. Like Meg, I thought you were a girl at first, too.
Relax a little bit. Stop living through a movie or a tv show. Man up a little. Outgrow the dorky years and you'll find your stride with a lady one day.

Paging Andrrres and Zhan, or Andres and Wyutani. Please report to this thread. Stat.
 
35ft6 said:
Do these benefits include eye and dental? JK. You know you're on the short list of people I want to get drunk with. Drakulie needs to throw another BBQ or something.
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Hopefully you can make the sony ericsson. Meg too.

That way we can put our 6.5 drinking skills to the test.

If you think I make an ass out of myself on court wait till we go out.

J
 
RestockingTues said:
I've watched the Notebook too many times, and too many Asian dramas. So now I'm brainwashed into thinking that love is going to happen to everyone, and it's the best thing in the world.

I'm not thinking straight right now so I'll probably edit this later as soon as I am. Lol
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Love can happen to everyone. But the best way to get on board with it is not to revel in past disappointments on a tennis board. Ditch the fanciful ideas, go out and find someone you think you can get along with, and go for it. I'm not trying to be harsh but trust me, I speak from experience. Its easy to get caught up in ideas about love and relationships and as a result miss out on both. Get off the computer and back on the horse. when you find someone who works, the fanciful notions of romance, etc have a way of coming about by themselves. When you go out looking through that lens of dramatic love at everyone you're interested in, you're bound to be disappointed more often than not.
 
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