Why do you feel so bad when you wake up early?

StilltheGOAT

StilltheGOAT

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I observed this many times.
At night, just before going to sleep, I have all my issues sorted out and no regrets or pains. Needless to say, that the issue-sorting occurs after settling into bed for sleep. I think about my problems or regrets, lying down on my back, and keep thinking. After some time, I find solutions to them, or get over the regret somehow. Sometimes music is needed. And then go to sleep contented.
But when I wake up early at like 5 am or 6 am, all the sadness and gloom comes rushing back into my mind. Mind you, that that wasn't the case when I was younger. Back in the days, I used to look forward to the day if I woke up early. But now, I feel gloomy. Maybe it's because of the loneliness, as none of my family have woken up, and I'm the one working. When I was a kid, I used to be excited by the sheer fact that I woke up so early. Now I have too many problems in life.
Another point must be noted, that if I over-sleep some day, and wake up at like 8 or 9, I feel a little better.
Did anyone experience this when they grew up?
Can you ever get rid of this? Or does it stay with you for the rest of your life?
Please chip in.
 
I heard a tip verry recently and it sort of helps! Mind you I never had too much trouble with sleep before.

So the tip is this - before bedtime, reflect on the positives of the day. To "sleep in a sea of merits". If you made someone happy, or you did a bit of work that you were proud of, think about that.

The worst time to reflect on the problems of the day is just before you sleep, because it'll disrupt your sleep, and you will automatically start thinking about that thing when you wake up, so that means the whole night you were thinking about it.

If you do need time to reflect on problems, which is pretty important, I would guess the best time is when you have a moment to yourself, just anywhere but the bedroom, which is where you need to sleep.
 
StilltheGOAT said:
I observed this many times.
At night, just before going to sleep, I have all my issues sorted out and no regrets or pains. Needless to say, that the issue-sorting occurs after settling into bed for sleep. I think about my problems or regrets, lying down on my back, and keep thinking. After some time, I find solutions to them, or get over the regret somehow. Sometimes music is needed. And then go to sleep contented.
But when I wake up early at like 5 am or 6 am, all the sadness and gloom comes rushing back into my mind. Mind you, that that wasn't the case when I was younger. Back in the days, I used to look forward to the day if I woke up early. But now, I feel gloomy. Maybe it's because of the loneliness, as none of my family have woken up, and I'm the one working. When I was a kid, I used to be excited by the sheer fact that I woke up so early. Now I have too many problems in life.
Another point must be noted, that if I over-sleep some day, and wake up at like 8 or 9, I feel a little better.
Did anyone experience this when they grew up?
Can you ever get rid of this? Or does it stay with you for the rest of your life?
Please chip in.
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It is called age. The older you get, the less happiness there is to look forward to.
 
One of the cardinal signs of depression is diurnal variation, whereby depressives usually feel worse in the morning and their mood improves somewhat later in the day and evening. You might benefit from seeing a mental health professional
 
Depression is not something to be overcome. We will leave this world feeling unfulfilled and insecure.

Your subconscious has done the math overnight and you're depressed. Seek professional help and they'll give you a script that induces happy chemical reactions aka the blue pill.

or accept the reality that you're an organism and as exceptional as you are it is not because you don't die like every other organism.
 
I agree about seeking help.

I would also try to get to bed earlier. Even if you wake up in the middle of the night you can toss and turn and you will have time to fall back asleep before it is time to wake up.
 
Permitlady said:
Seek professional help and they'll give you a script that induces happy chemical reactions aka the blue pill
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Gee, I never know if they mean the blue pill in "Matrix" or the "wallet" blue pill, Viagra, or maybe................................
 
I feel so good when i wake up early, i dont have to listen to anyone in the house, baby sleeping, girlfriend sleeping, kids sleeping, its like if i had hit the pipe and everything is okey and relaxed, no noise in my brain, the gentle cool breeze of the morning..., i live out of town since a couple of years ago and nature is better when people shut up
 
By the way, budhists think you shouldnt think too much when going to sleep or when waking up, i tried that and works incredibly well, the thing is to set your mind up to work during the day, but if you go to sleep thinking about a lot of things, it affects your sleep, and also, if you wake up and your mind starts racing with toughts, you could be stressed the rest of the day
 
Waking up early is the best, you just have so much time on your hands. Your bed is not the place for you to solve issues. Read a book before bed or peruse the srsh threat. The nonsense there will confuse and tire your brain enough and you will fall asleep.
 
Azure said:
Waking up early is the best, you just have so much time on your hands. Your bed is not the place for you to solve issues. Read a book before bed or peruse the srsh threat. The nonsense there will confuse and tire your brain enough and you will fall asleep.
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I fear pa.s.sing on in my sleep if I loose consciousness while contemplating anything SourFreshian. That can not be my la.s.st thought.
 
My rather anecdotal impression is that when you wake up makes a difference to how you initially feel. Waking up with the dreams of REM sleep floating around is somewhat unpleasant.

I would see a sleep specialist before a mental health professional.

StilltheGOAT said:
I observed this many times.
At night, just before going to sleep, I have all my issues sorted out and no regrets or pains. Needless to say, that the issue-sorting occurs after settling into bed for sleep. I think about my problems or regrets, lying down on my back, and keep thinking. After some time, I find solutions to them, or get over the regret somehow. Sometimes music is needed. And then go to sleep contented.
But when I wake up early at like 5 am or 6 am, all the sadness and gloom comes rushing back into my mind. Mind you, that that wasn't the case when I was younger. Back in the days, I used to look forward to the day if I woke up early. But now, I feel gloomy. Maybe it's because of the loneliness, as none of my family have woken up, and I'm the one working. When I was a kid, I used to be excited by the sheer fact that I woke up so early. Now I have too many problems in life.
Another point must be noted, that if I over-sleep some day, and wake up at like 8 or 9, I feel a little better.
Did anyone experience this when they grew up?
Can you ever get rid of this? Or does it stay with you for the rest of your life?
Please chip in.
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Ok guys first of all, I thank each and every one of you for helping, chipping in.
Enga said:
I heard a tip verry recently and it sort of helps! Mind you I never had too much trouble with sleep before.

So the tip is this - before bedtime, reflect on the positives of the day. To "sleep in a sea of merits". If you made someone happy, or you did a bit of work that you were proud of, think about that.

The worst time to reflect on the problems of the day is just before you sleep, because it'll disrupt your sleep, and you will automatically start thinking about that thing when you wake up, so that means the whole night you were thinking about it.

If you do need time to reflect on problems, which is pretty important, I would guess the best time is when you have a moment to yourself, just anywhere but the bedroom, which is where you need to sleep.
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This is the first post that suggests keeping my mind clear before going to sleep, and I shall try that today. Thanks everyone for contributing with their opinions.
 
StilltheGOAT said:
I observed this many times.
At night, just before going to sleep, I have all my issues sorted out and no regrets or pains. Needless to say, that the issue-sorting occurs after settling into bed for sleep. I think about my problems or regrets, lying down on my back, and keep thinking. After some time, I find solutions to them, or get over the regret somehow. Sometimes music is needed. And then go to sleep contented.
But when I wake up early at like 5 am or 6 am, all the sadness and gloom comes rushing back into my mind. Mind you, that that wasn't the case when I was younger. Back in the days, I used to look forward to the day if I woke up early. But now, I feel gloomy. Maybe it's because of the loneliness, as none of my family have woken up, and I'm the one working. When I was a kid, I used to be excited by the sheer fact that I woke up so early. Now I have too many problems in life.
Another point must be noted, that if I over-sleep some day, and wake up at like 8 or 9, I feel a little better.
Did anyone experience this when they grew up?
Can you ever get rid of this? Or does it stay with you for the rest of your life?
Please chip in.
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And you even haven’t experienced the need to visit the Sleepless thread?
Wow.
You should adopt a couple of squirrels.
 
Azure said:
Waking up early is the best, you just have so much time on your hands. Your bed is not the place for you to solve issues. Read a book before bed or peruse the srsh threat. The nonsense there will confuse and tire your brain enough and you will fall asleep.
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It’ll always be the best, as long no alarm clock buzzer is involved.
 
Bartelby said:
I would see a sleep specialist before a mental health professional
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"sleep specialists" are predominantly pulmonologists interested primarily in one thing -- sleep apnea. They generally have neither the interest nor training to deal with what the OP is describing, which is less a sleep disorder than a waking mood disorder.
 
StilltheGOAT said:
I observed this many times.
At night, just before going to sleep, I have all my issues sorted out and no regrets or pains. Needless to say, that the issue-sorting occurs after settling into bed for sleep. I think about my problems or regrets, lying down on my back, and keep thinking. After some time, I find solutions to them, or get over the regret somehow. Sometimes music is needed. And then go to sleep contented.
But when I wake up early at like 5 am or 6 am, all the sadness and gloom comes rushing back into my mind. Mind you, that that wasn't the case when I was younger. Back in the days, I used to look forward to the day if I woke up early. But now, I feel gloomy. Maybe it's because of the loneliness, as none of my family have woken up, and I'm the one working. When I was a kid, I used to be excited by the sheer fact that I woke up so early. Now I have too many problems in life.
Another point must be noted, that if I over-sleep some day, and wake up at like 8 or 9, I feel a little better.
Did anyone experience this when they grew up?
Can you ever get rid of this? Or does it stay with you for the rest of your life?
Please chip in.
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Lots of factors at play
  • Potential biology. Some evidence out there for something called "morning depression" if you want to look more into it
  • Sleep cycle. If you wake up suddenly in the wrong part of your sleep, it will leave you feeling disturbed
  • Some people are quite affected by a lack of regularity and routine. As you get older you might have found you can't stomach late night meals randomly and they make you feel sick. Same with an off sleeping schedule
  • Rigidity of adulthood. As a child, you look forward to the day because you don't know much, the world feels big and full of opportunities. As an adult, you pretty much know what to expect from your day, you may feel you've taken your opportunities and are no longer on a journey but have already arrived to the rest of your life some years ago. Surely you still have possibility for play and imagination and change, but responsibility and jadedness often quells the inner child as an adult. Some responsibilities are a must, but sometimes people put their heads down to work only to never lift them again, even when they can. Can you set more boundaries and give yourself more room to play?
  • Loneliness. It's interesting to me the way you described it. Being in a house with a family but feeling lonely as none of them have woken and you are working. Do you feel lonely even when they are awake? Do you feel estranged from them because of work? Do you envy their position to not have to work? Do you feel unappreciated and invisible? Or is it just you wish for more free time to spend with them? Or just that you like being with others?
  • Sunlight. People are like plants. Sometimes we spiral into philosophical musings when what we really need is regular sun, water and food. Are you taking care of yourself?
I relate. I often feel twice my age. Lots of things change as you get older. For example, feeling twice one's age might be considered a good thing, a sign of maturity and intelligence when you're a teenager. But when you are older it is more often than not a heavy burden of the body and mind. A homeless teen might be met with more helping hands, sympathy, or optimism. While a homeless adult might be seen as a failure or lost cause. But a lot of these are incorrect perceptions and assumptions. As an adult you get used to things. And often the responsibilities and feeling of routine makes you get so used to something it feels like shrink wrap, weightless and clear yet suffocating all the same.

Maybe you need to see a professional. Maybe you have depression. Maybe you are just a little grumpy in the morning. But as the saying goes, to try the same thing and and expect different results is insanity. Even if it's something little and silly, try to spark curiosity about life again. For me, depression is never the worst when I feel incredibly angry or sad, because at least I know I am feeling something and those feelings indicate to me that I want differently. For me, depression is worst when I care about nothing and feel nothing at all. Because I feel I can put my head down and stay that way not noticing the time until I die. For me, the opposite of depression is not happiness, but interest. What will help you stay interested in life? I always tell myself I don't know what I don't know, and surely I don't know everything in the world. There must be something to find, every day.

Anyway, I'll get off my soapbox now. Sorry if any of it came off pretentiously or something not intended....I woke up a little early and I guess I did my journaling on your thread lol. I used to be a very good sleeper. Had lots of thoughts heading to bed, but could shut them off when I got in. Laid on my back and never moved, never woke up with any aches. Lately though I watch videos into the night trying to escape my own thoughts and wake up with my sheets tangled around me like someone chucked a burrito against a wall. Meet yourself where you are. Don't judge yourself and simply observe what needs healing. Good luck.
 
Azure said:
Waking up early is the best, you just have so much time on your hands. Your bed is not the place for you to solve issues. Read a book before bed or peruse the srsh threat. The nonsense there will confuse and tire your brain enough and you will fall asleep.
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Research has proved otherwise. In India, it is constantly parroted that waking up real early during the BrahmaMuhurtham is the best. May have been for priests in the ancient days. Modern research shows that some people are morning people, some are not. In fact, in spite of all the BrahmaMuhurtham talk, schools in India open much later than those in the US, but now US schools are also moving to later openings, 8 am instead of 7:30. For me, it doesn't seem to matter if I go to bed earlier or not. 6 am is my minimum wake up time.
 
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Research has proved otherwise. In India, it is constantly parroted that waking up real early during the BrahmaMuhurtham is the best. May have been for priests in the ancient days. Modern research shows that some people are morning people, some are not. In fact, in spite of all the BrahmaMuhurtham talk, schools in India open much later than those in the US, but now US schools are also moving to later openings, 8 am instead of 7:30. For me, it doesn't seem to matter if I go to bed earlier or not. 6 am is my minimum wake up time.
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Yeah I don’t know about that but waking up late i feel i am kind of catching up, even on weekends. Waking up early allows me to put my chores behind be and then the rest of the day is just for me to do the things I want to do. I too wake up early and on saturdays or sundays take a short nap in the afternoons.

I believe certain habits help. Doing night shifts for a few days and then day shift for a few more has ruined many call center guys’ lives for example.
 
stringertom said:
When will your robotic bed-to-throne transport device be operational so you can more quickly move to the more important function of keeping that robust figure of yours well nourished???
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I really respect his commitment took the drop volley.
Azure said:
Waking up early is the best, you just have so much time on your hands. Your bed is not the place for you to solve issues. Read a book before bed or peruse the srsh threat. The nonsense there will confuse and tire your brain enough and you will fall asleep.
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Falling of the chair reading the bolded part.
 
sureshs said:
So the lower classes cannot have normal social lives? I sense some elitism here
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Let me explain; pay attention. People who work third shifts (usually known as the graveyard shift, another indication of what miserable work it often is) regularly are for the most part doing work of low social and economic reward. They also tend to have high rates of depression and other psychiatric problems as shown in countless studies. They also tend to be asleep or getting ready to go to work at the times when most people are socializing. Do all of these factors correspond to less satisfaction in their social lives? Of course they do.
 
I thought errbody woke up at 0400/0500 in the morning everyday. I do sleep in sometimes on the wknd…’til 0600 or a little after.

Get ya some help…no shame or pride lost in seeing a professional in the matter.
 
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ollinger said:
Let me explain; pay attention. People who work third shifts (usually known as the graveyard shift, another indication of what miserable work it often is) regularly are for the most part doing work of low social and economic reward. They also tend to have high rates of depression and other psychiatric problems as shown in countless studies. They also tend to be asleep or getting ready to go to work at the times when most people are socializing. Do all of these factors correspond to less satisfaction in their social lives? Of course they do.
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The graveyard shift at the Mira Mesa Waistwater Treatment substation is actually considered a plum a.s.signment; nobody with any sense wants to be there when the Big Phella makes his weigh to his throne for the morning droop.
 
USMC-615 said:
I thought errbody woke up at 0400/0500 in the morning everyday. I do sleep in sometimes on the wknd…’til 0600 or a little after.

Get ya some help…no shame or pride lost in seeing a professional in the matter.
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My Godson retired from the military. Stated they got more done by 9am than most do all day.
 
isn't it normal to feel worse when waking up early? cause not enough sleep.

also, why would one "start thinking about problems" only when going to bed? what did you do the rest of the day?
 
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