You want to be Federer but, admit it, you’re more like Kyrgios

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At the Brisbane International earlier this week, Nick Kyrgios smoked a perfectly disguised forehand from the baseline into the left corner of his opponent’s court to win the first set of his first-round match against American Ryan Harrison.

Kyrgios reacted in typical Kyrgios style: arms outstretched, Jesus-like, as if to say, “Look at me! Look at what I’ve just done! Somebody make me a Vegemite sandwich!”

Something like that. That’s what it felt like. It’s easy to judge. In truth, he was doing something different altogether.

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Battle within: It’s not easy being Nick Kyrgios, according to Nick Kyrgios.CREDIT:AAP

When Kyrgios sat down in his chair next to the umpire at the changeover, Channel Nine opened up the court-side microphones and the commentators fell silent. It allowed the viewer to listen in to Kyrgios, who was gibbering away. Not to the umpire, not to his entourage in the stands, but to himself.

Ugh. Sitting at home, my heart sunk.

It’s disturbing, when you cover sport for a period of time, to start seeing yourself in the people you write about.

Like many columnists, I’ve taken Kyrgios apart for his brattish behaviour on and off the court. I applauded former AOC boss Kitty Chiller for not wanting to pick him and fellow enfant terrible Bernard Tomic in the Australian team to compete at the Rio Olympics. Be a child on your own time and expense, sure, but not in Australian green and gold, blah, blah, blah.

But deep down, if I’m being fair dinkum, for real, I have more defects of character like Nick Kyrgios than I am like, say, Roger Federer.

I want to be Roger Federer. I really do. I want to go about my business with a smile on my face, breezing through life with a backhand that should be framed and hung in place of the Mona Lisa in the Louvre, barely raising a sweat, kissing babies, taking selfies at the net with Serena, being loved universally and, probably, intergallatically.

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Picture perfect: Roger Federer snaps a selfie with Serena Williams at the Hopman Cup in Perth.CREDIT:

Mostly, I would like Roger Federer’s hair.

But I’m actually more Nick Kyrgios: a complete and utter hot mess struggling by the hour to keep his **** together, continually riding an emotional roller coaster, not knowing whether to just walk away and do something else or stay grounded, stay honest, stop being a whinger and get on with life.

Kyrgios plays out his emotions on a tennis court with the microphones turned up. I play them out in my apartment.

“I think that’s exactly right,” John McEnroe said when I put my “we want to be Federer, but we’re actually Kyrgios” theory to him in an interview with the Herald this week. “That’s why I want to see him overcome this. I’d like to see him succeed. It would be a shame if he didn’t. But I’m worried.”

The response from readers to that interview held a familiar line: you might want Nick to succeed, John, but we gave up on him a long time ago.

Kyrgios might have done irreparable damage to his relationship with the Australian public, although I’d be stunned if he cared. But the way he continues to feel tortured on the tennis court is a reminder of how tough professional sport can be.

It’s difficult to think of a sport that tortures a soul so much. Maybe golf? Perhaps cricket?

“Opening the batting in Test cricket is very, very hard,” Matthew Hayden once told me in an interview after he finally sealed his place in the Australian Test side after years of making runs for Queensland in the Sheffield Shield. “People underestimate just how difficult it can be.”

Michael Bevan’s mental battles around his batting were legendary. One story not easily forgotten is about him walking from the field after being dismissed and just standing under the shower in the dressing room, cold water blasting, in his full kit.

But tennis seems to bring torture of Game of Thrones proportions. Marat Safin once broke 48 racquets in one season. He would pretend to cry on the court, shaking his head uttering, “Why? Why? Why? Why?” whenever he stuffed up a shot.

“We cried, we played, we broke the racquets, we insulted the referees, only sometimes, but this is all part of our life,” Safin said when he was inducted into the International Tennis Hall of Fame.

It’s a life that seems to choose the player long before the player chooses the sport. Kyrgios can walk away at any stage, sure, but seems entrapped in a career and life he sometimes wants, he sometimes doesn’t, with his arms outstretched in dismay as if to say, “Um, I have no idea what I’m doing. What would Roger do?”

https://www.smh.com.au/sport/tennis...you-re-more-like-kyrgios-20190105-p50pq3.html
 
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Unfortunately the Chardy match next round was more typical, one set of focused tennis then seemingly unable to summon the mental strength to stay in the fight against a very solid player playing well.
I’m not sure most of us are like that, don’t we stay focused, change tactics if necessary and fight to the end even if outclassed?
 
Unfortunately the Chardy match next round was more typical, one set of focused tennis then seemingly unable to summon the mental strength to stay in the fight against a very solid player playing well.
I’m not sure most of us are like that, don’t we stay focused, change tactics if necessary and fight to the end even if outclassed?
The writer has romanticized the notion that mere mortals are imperfect and lost like Nick Kyrgios, not perfect like the great Fedor.
The reality however is different. I think most people lie between Kyrgios and Federer in terms of the effort they put and **** they give.
 
I actually haven't (personally) known a single person who completely lacks any inner balance and is so obviously insecure and dissatisfied with themselves as Kyrgios is. I know that a lot of people at some point at their life deal with confusion as to who they want to be, what they must do, expectations and such but it doesn't mean that their lives are filled with constant drama. Nick has deeper psychological issues than most average people I'd say.

On the other hand, in my experience, there are many easygoing and fun to be around people (maybe I am just very lucky, IDK). Obviously they are not nearly as successful as Roger at what they do but most of my friends and colleagues seem pretty happy with their lives. And even if they don't have everything planned out, and I believe having a plan is a significant part of being successful and Roger said as much in one of his interviews, they have ideas about how they want their life to be. They try to make these ideas become reality which gives them great experiences even if sometimes things don't go their way or something bad happens.

There aren't many Federers, personality wise, in the world, but then Kyrgios is another extreme. The guy is a walking drama. Can you imagine constantly dealing with people like Kyrgios in your daily life?
 
Federer: dedicates his life to be the GOAT. He is the ultimate professional, along with the most respected player in history.

Kyrgios: does the minimum amount of work to stay in the top 30 in tennis, but is a chasing Safin for GOAT in skirt-chasing.
 
I asked Nick on facebook if he want to play FIFA on PS4.
Someone then after a few days answered I should donate moneye to his foundation.

#dontcareness :D
 
Indeed, all of us sport crazy hairstyles and long to play in the NBA, especially after we have just tanked a match in Box League 17 after serving two double faults in row.
 
At the Brisbane International earlier this week, Nick Kyrgios smoked a perfectly disguised forehand from the baseline into the left corner of his opponent’s court to win the first set of his first-round match against American Ryan Harrison.

Kyrgios reacted in typical Kyrgios style: arms outstretched, Jesus-like, as if to say, “Look at me! Look at what I’ve just done! Somebody make me a Vegemite sandwich!”

Something like that. That’s what it felt like. It’s easy to judge. In truth, he was doing something different altogether.

80f66dd5d33dfd4d15365a88cb7b8d985533aa10

Battle within: It’s not easy being Nick Kyrgios, according to Nick Kyrgios.CREDIT:AAP

When Kyrgios sat down in his chair next to the umpire at the changeover, Channel Nine opened up the court-side microphones and the commentators fell silent. It allowed the viewer to listen in to Kyrgios, who was gibbering away. Not to the umpire, not to his entourage in the stands, but to himself.

Ugh. Sitting at home, my heart sunk.

It’s disturbing, when you cover sport for a period of time, to start seeing yourself in the people you write about.

Like many columnists, I’ve taken Kyrgios apart for his brattish behaviour on and off the court. I applauded former AOC boss Kitty Chiller for not wanting to pick him and fellow enfant terrible Bernard Tomic in the Australian team to compete at the Rio Olympics. Be a child on your own time and expense, sure, but not in Australian green and gold, blah, blah, blah.

But deep down, if I’m being fair dinkum, for real, I have more defects of character like Nick Kyrgios than I am like, say, Roger Federer.

I want to be Roger Federer. I really do. I want to go about my business with a smile on my face, breezing through life with a backhand that should be framed and hung in place of the Mona Lisa in the Louvre, barely raising a sweat, kissing babies, taking selfies at the net with Serena, being loved universally and, probably, intergallatically.

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Picture perfect: Roger Federer snaps a selfie with Serena Williams at the Hopman Cup in Perth.CREDIT:

Mostly, I would like Roger Federer’s hair.

But I’m actually more Nick Kyrgios: a complete and utter hot mess struggling by the hour to keep his **** together, continually riding an emotional roller coaster, not knowing whether to just walk away and do something else or stay grounded, stay honest, stop being a whinger and get on with life.

Kyrgios plays out his emotions on a tennis court with the microphones turned up. I play them out in my apartment.

“I think that’s exactly right,” John McEnroe said when I put my “we want to be Federer, but we’re actually Kyrgios” theory to him in an interview with the Herald this week. “That’s why I want to see him overcome this. I’d like to see him succeed. It would be a shame if he didn’t. But I’m worried.”

The response from readers to that interview held a familiar line: you might want Nick to succeed, John, but we gave up on him a long time ago.

Kyrgios might have done irreparable damage to his relationship with the Australian public, although I’d be stunned if he cared. But the way he continues to feel tortured on the tennis court is a reminder of how tough professional sport can be.

It’s difficult to think of a sport that tortures a soul so much. Maybe golf? Perhaps cricket?

“Opening the batting in Test cricket is very, very hard,” Matthew Hayden once told me in an interview after he finally sealed his place in the Australian Test side after years of making runs for Queensland in the Sheffield Shield. “People underestimate just how difficult it can be.”

Michael Bevan’s mental battles around his batting were legendary. One story not easily forgotten is about him walking from the field after being dismissed and just standing under the shower in the dressing room, cold water blasting, in his full kit.

But tennis seems to bring torture of Game of Thrones proportions. Marat Safin once broke 48 racquets in one season. He would pretend to cry on the court, shaking his head uttering, “Why? Why? Why? Why?” whenever he stuffed up a shot.

“We cried, we played, we broke the racquets, we insulted the referees, only sometimes, but this is all part of our life,” Safin said when he was inducted into the International Tennis Hall of Fame.

It’s a life that seems to choose the player long before the player chooses the sport. Kyrgios can walk away at any stage, sure, but seems entrapped in a career and life he sometimes wants, he sometimes doesn’t, with his arms outstretched in dismay as if to say, “Um, I have no idea what I’m doing. What would Roger do?”

https://www.smh.com.au/sport/tennis...you-re-more-like-kyrgios-20190105-p50pq3.html
Very insightful.
Kyrgios isn't exactly the perfect "tortured genius" type. He's much more douchey than those kinds of people. The best example of a high-profile respected player who lets all the struggles and emotions show on court is Djokovic, especially young Djokovic. He was a class act and never acted too arrogant or rude, but he would still smash racquets, celebrate intensely, be streaky, etc. I could relate to that much more than I can relate to Nick. I wouldn't go around sledging my opponent's girlfriend just for the hell of it. Kyrgios is just a player whose talent in the game far exceeds his respect for it.
 
In 2004-5, that would have been a good move.
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Now? Nothing that special about his hair any longer.

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Yeah, most men in their 20s got good hair... and then...Must be terrible for a man to lose hair, I am so glad this is not happening w women the same way.
My dad still got good hair though, not lost any and not grey.
But I guess, the hair doesnt matter that much in the big picture anyway ;)

Cant imagine Kyrgios ever losing hair, but I could be wrong.
 
Yeah, most men in their 20s got good hair... and then...Must be terrible for a man to lose hair, I am so glad this is not happening w women the same way.
My dad still got good hair though, not lost any and not grey.
But I guess, the hair doesnt matter that much in the big picture anyway ;)

Cant imagine Kyrgios ever losing hair, but I could be wrong.
Kyrgios' brother is bald as a coot and one can notice Kyrgoat may be slightly balding so it wouldn't be surprising if he lost his hair
 
Roger is like the James Bond of tennis. Has lots of weapons, all business on the court, is calm and collected, and is a gentleman.

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I'm more like Roscoe Tanner. I write bad checks, steal from friends and family and as
far as the ladies go I love 'em and leave 'em. A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do.
 
Roger is like the James Bond of tennis. Has lots of weapons, all business on the court, is calm and collected, and is a gentleman.

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I wish he had a cameo appearance in a James Bond movie. Would be so befitting.
 
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