Regrets? How wise are you really?

[Lleytonstation]

So, I was thinking today about my life choices and how it has led to this. That sounded glum. But I don't mean it in a negative way (if the wife sees this it will self destruct), I mean it in a curious way.

I am not Pepe love guru that would say "I don't have any regrets because I am who I am based on my past."

If you could go back (with the current knowledge you have now). Would you be more successful or happy. I don't mean going back and using it to gamble or invest in things you already know about BTF style.

I really think if I could go back to the age of 12, I would be able to lean out many mistakes and really have life figured out. Then again, I could make a few decisions and then my current wisdom (life) would have no benefit as I was not faced with the same challenges.

It always makes me wonder if what I now would have benefited me and how different my life would be.

Would you go back to age 12 and relive your life from there? Or another age?

The catch is you have to relive the whole thing, but you keep the knowledge you have now.

 

[Zara]

I think I'd prefer to come back with new goals and new looks than to just go back at age 12 with the same knowledge I have now. I am assuming I'd retain the knowledge I've gathered so far. That's really crucial for me.

But I was told that we live multiple lives at the same time anyway. So whatever I desire I am probably living it in some parallel reality anyway. If there's no time and if everything happens at the same time or now, then why should anyone have any regrets? So I find myself fine there, as it is.

 

[Steady Eddy]

Kierkegaard said that if you have children, you will regret it. If you do not have children, you will also regret that. I think we will always second guess our decisions, just don't take that too seriously. We really never know.

 

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[Turbo-87]

I wouldn't want to have the knowledge I have now at age 12. That takes away from the opportunity to discover. The only thing I would like is to re-live my life and make a few different choices that would have put me in a very different spot than I am now. Maybe a tap on the shoulder by a guardian angel or something. Lots of regrets but we all have that. If I could have the knowledge of sureshs, maybe, but not mine.

 

[Lleytonstation]

I wouldn't want to have the knowledge I have now at age 12. That takes away from the opportunity to discover. The only thing I would like is to re-live my life and make a few different choices that would have put me in a very different spot than I am now. Maybe a tap on the shoulder by a guardian angel or something. Lots of regrets but we all have that. If I could have the knowledge of sureshs, maybe, but not mine.

Go back to 2005 and out sareshi saresh.

 

[AlexanderTheGreat08]

I really don’t know , I guess a part of me will love to go back and change a few things , But i still think that despite my mistakes , I can still go in the right direction.

 

[dgold44]

I only regret a few things .

1. I dropped out of PT school after my dad pulled major strings to get me in

2. I should have picked wrestling over tennis as a youth

 

[Azure]

I did not know about a couple of univs I could have applied for when I was in my teens. I think I could have cracked them had I been more aware. Like most kids I was too focussed on doing either Medicine or Engineering. No regrets as such but I sometimes wonder how different my life would have been had I taken up Economics or Stats. I use the latter in my professional life now but with a lot of limitations. I find it so fascinating that I would have loved to major in them or get a doctorate too. Dunno.

On a personal front, I should have put in more efforts to being more social perhaps. As an introvert it is getting to be quite a pain now in my adult life that I don't socialize much. I am trying very hard to change that but its something so hardwired that its taking a toll. Probably should have worked on it a decade ago.

 

[Chadalina]

On a personal front, I should have put in more efforts to being more social perhaps. As an introvert it is getting to be quite a pain now in my adult life that I don't socialize much. I am trying very hard to change that but its something so hardwired that its taking a toll. Probably should have worked on it a decade ago.

Always be yourself, dont fake it, it catches up. You get what you want and what you didnt at the same time otherwise

Tons of weirdos out there, so far so good for you

 

[Azure]

Always be yourself, dont fake it, it catches up. You get what you want and what you didnt at the same time otherwise

Tons of weirdos out there, so far so good for you

I agree, Chad. Its not that I want to fake it. Just that I see the power of letting a few more people into your life can actually help open a world of possibilities.

As far as weirdos go, I seem to have met a lot of them on this forum

 

[Flootoo]

I've already done that. Several times, faced with a decision, I've felt pulled one way or another for no apparent reason. So it must have been future adult-me warnign about certain stuff. The current me obviously caught up with future-adult me and we've merged, with no more guidance. Hence no more impulsive decisions, and lots of frequent disasters over the past few years.

 

[Chadalina]

I agree, Chad. Its not that I want to fake it. Just that I see the power of letting a few more people into your life can actually help open a world of possibilities.

As far as weirdos go, I seem to have met a lot of them on this forum

Let them in for the right reasons.

I can speak to the 2nd, but its always a pleasure.

 

[Azure]

Let them in for the right reasons.

I can speak to the 2nd, but its always a pleasure.

 

[PDJ]

So, I was thinking today about my life choices and how it has led to this. That sounded glum. But I don't mean it in a negative way (if the wife sees this it will self destruct), I mean it in a curious way.

I am not Pepe love guru that would say "I don't have any regrets because I am who I am based on my past."

If you could go back (with the current knowledge you have now). Would you be more successful or happy. I don't mean going back and using it to gamble or invest in things you already know about BTF style.

I really think if I could go back to the age of 12, I would be able to lean out many mistakes and really have life figured out. Then again, I could make a few decisions and then my current wisdom (life) would have no benefit as I was not faced with the same challenges.

It always makes me wonder if what I now would have benefited me and how different my life would be.

Would you go back to age 12 and relive your life from there? Or another age?

The catch is you have to relive the whole thing, but you keep the knowledge you have now.

My own life? On the whole I'm a tad smug.
But I would definitely make changes to how I was/could have been with those no longer around, yup I would do some things very differently. Very differently indeed. And now it's too late.

 

[BlueB]

I would just not go back. The only way is forward.

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[Zara]

No matter which life path you choose or how many times you go back to get things right, you will still have a ton of regrets.

 

[Zara]

I'd say whatever bothers you in this lifetime is really the challenge for you to overcome. If you remain the same or do nothing about it then it will continue to bother you and you may have to relive it again.

My biggest challenge is, I am highly impatient and as a result, I rush things and prone to silly mistakes. I take time on the things I really like but anything else, where I am easily bored, I'd rush those. I also don't listen as much if it's not interesting enough for me. If you are having a conversation with me, say, in real life and I am not finding the conversation all that interesting, I will tune you out in a matter of seconds. And that's terrible.

I'd go into a thread with the perfect intention of reading it as the thread title seemed interesting enough but after skimming a few posts, I close the window immediately as I figured that's the fastest way to get out of the thread. And the thought that typically goes with it, 'get out! get out! get out!" lmho!

First thing though, is to be aware of your challenges. Once you are aware, you are able to do something about it although I've got a clue so far despite being fully aware.

 

[sureshs]

The catch is you have to relive the whole thing, but you keep the knowledge you have now.

Very difficult for most people, because having the knowledge you have at a later age leads to negativity and Nature will not permit that. In fact, you may know at age 12 that you are going to die, but it will not be significant to you. The human brain and body has one purpose: to make you feel invincible when you are young so that you will reproduce, and then eventually Nature will get rid of you. Having deep knowledge of reality when young is seen only in a few people, and many of them become religious monks and withdraw from the usual life. Most others will never get realization till it is too late, and that is how it is supposed to be.

 

[sureshs]

Make a lot of money and you will have no regrets. Of course you will say that you have tons of regrets in order to appear to be humble, but you won't mean it.

 

[Lleytonstation]

Very difficult for most people, because having the knowledge you have at a later age leads to negativity and Nature will not permit that. In fact, you may know at age 12 that you are going to die, but it will not be significant to you. The human brain and body has one purpose: to make you feel invincible when you are young so that you will reproduce, and then eventually Nature will get rid of you. Having deep knowledge of reality when young is seen only in a few people, and many of them become religious monks and withdraw from the usual life. Most others will never get realization till it is too late, and that is how it is supposed to be.

So imagine if we had people who have it figured out at 12. Would they be more successful? Would they be less? The same?

Or... is this already happening with the most successful people?

 

[sureshs]

So imagine if we had people who have it figured out at 12. Would they be more successful? Would they be less? The same?

Or... is this already happening with the most successful people?

I was talking about figuring out the more existential problems. That usually results in disinterest in life from a young age.

What you are probably referring to is self-awareness. Some people from a young age know what they want and what they don't, have a distinct personality which is not like an average of their friends' personalities, and are more immune to pressures and opinions of their parents and relatives.

Success is probably not correlated to any of the above. I have seen self-aware people with little success, and also fly-with-the-wind people who landed up in the right place at the right time and became very successful.

 

[er4claw]

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[Dedans Penthouse]

I agree, Chad. Its not that I want to fake it. Just that I see the power of letting a few more people into your life can actually help open a world of possibilities.

As far as weirdos go, I seem to have met a lot of them on this forum

First off, who's Chad? . : )

And with respect to the 'weirdo' question, .it's sometimes to navigate the 3rd dimension in a 2-dimension (forum) setting.

And if that sounds too "weirdo/obtuse" then put simply: .inflection's often lost in the cold, hard text of the written word. . : )

 

[sureshs]

Not really. The one thing I regret is not being handy which sucks given I live in a rural area alone with an elderly individual. It got passed down from my grandfathers side, lol. He had had two left hands, his father did, and so do I.

I don't think that things which you can learn and get better at qualify as regrets. Regrets are about irreversible life changes.

 

[SaintPetros]

There are definitely things I wish I could tell my younger self in order to avoid the pitfalls I experienced. I always thought the whole "I have no regrets because 'XYZ self-realization reason'" was just New Age non-sense. That experience of regret/remorse is key to feeling the pain necessary for redemption, growth...and self-realization

 

[Deleted member 766172]

I wouldn't have tried to become a doctor. I wasn't doing it for the right reasons and most likely don't have the mental capacity to get through medical school. Also would have played high school football (maybe). Would've respected my parents' wishes more as well (besides the doctor part).

 

[SaintPetros]

I wouldn't have tried to become a doctor. I wasn't doing it for the right reasons and most likely don't have the mental capacity to get through medical school. Also would have played high school football (maybe). Would've respected my parents' wishes more as well (besides the doctor part).

Why do you think not?

 

[Doctor/Lawyer Red Devil]

Unfortunately I have said to myself "If I could go back in time, with the brain I have now..." a lot of times. Meaning I could have been doing a lot better now.

 

[Deleted member 766172]

Why do you think not?

Maybe it's not my mental capacity per se, but just the way I'm wired. I don't have much discipline when it comes down to sitting down and studying, even when I badly want to study. Procrastination in college caused great difficulties for me. I can't imagine surviving through medical school while still having that bad habit.

Edit: Just looked up what "mental capacity" really means and it is absolutely the wrong word to use here. Apologies. I just meant I'm not smart enough to learn things at a quick pace when I used that word.

 

[SaintPetros]

Maybe it's not my mental capacity per se, but just the way I'm wired. I don't have much discipline when it comes down to sitting down and studying, even when I badly want to study. Procrastination in college caused great difficulties for me. I can't imagine surviving through medical school while still having that bad habit.

Edit: Just looked up what "mental capacity" really means and it is absolutely the wrong word to use here. Apologies. I just meant I'm not smart enough to learn things at a quick pace when I used that word.

Interesting. I had the same issue in college b/I was going through a severe emotional crisis and didn't deal with it. Now I'm learning the importance of self-care.

 

[Deleted member 766172]

Interesting. I had the same issue in college b/I was going through a severe emotional crisis and didn't deal with it. Now I'm learning the importance of self-care.

Yes, self care is important.

 

[SaintPetros]

Yes, self care is important.

Have you considered either mindfulness meditation or group/individual therapy? Both can be *extremely* helpful in clearing up the kind of issue you've described. Feel free to message if you're interested in discussing more.

 

[Azure]

First off, who's Chad? . : )

And with respect to the 'weirdo' question, .it's sometimes to navigate the 3rd dimension in a 2-dimension (forum) setting.

And if that sounds too "weirdo/obtuse" then put simply: .inflection's often lost in the cold, hard text of the written word. . : )

I was merely joking on the 'weirdo' front. I have met such wonderful people here.

 

[Lleytonstation]

Interesting. I had the same issue in college b/I was going through a severe emotional crisis and didn't deal with it. Now I'm learning the importance of self-care.

I also think some mature at different ages. I was a late bloomer, and did not really figure things out after college. I am very different from when I was 22, so if I could go back now, I would get on the right path sooner. I just feel I wasted about 5 years of my life. Nothing productive happened.

 

[Midaso240]

I regret my whole life,regret being born. What a pain in the butt to be stuck here for another couple of decades...

 

[Lleytonstation]

I regret my whole life,regret being born. What a pain in the butt to be stuck here for another couple of decades...

That is if your lucky...

 

[PMChambers]

I'd like the last 6yrs back, basically early 40s. Earlier than that the mistakes made me but feel like lost 5yrs. Maybe it will make me stronger.

 

[Zara]

That is if your lucky...

That’s really how you want to comfort him, really.

 

[Sudacafan]

Make a lot of money and you will have no regrets.

Not necessarily true.

 

[dgold44]

Not wise !!

Working a crap career at a ups store in Vegas as i deal with the lowest pieces of human garbage everyday ..

Not wise

I am selling in 2-3 yrs and leaving Vegas forever

 

[Lleytonstation]

Not wise !!

Working a crap career at a ups store in Vegas as i deal with the lowest pieces of human garbage everyday ..

Not wise

I am selling in 2-3 yrs and leaving Vegas forever

Where to?

 

[dgold44]

Where to?

Wherever the wind blows me too ?

Can I text from Mars ???

 

[Lleytonstation]

Wherever the wind blows me too ?

Can I text from Mars ???

Nope, but you still get TTW.

 

[dgold44]

Nope, but you still get TTW.

That will do !!!

Will I find ET or the thing up there!??

 

[PDJ]

Not necessarily true.

It's definitely "not necessarily true" if you are wealthy, but it's easier. Different problems, but not those facing people worrying about feeding their family, paying bills etc.

 

[Big_Dangerous]

That is if your lucky...

You're.*

That’s really how you want to comfort him, really.

This ain't no pity party!

 

[Zara]

I regret my whole life,regret being born. What a pain in the butt to be stuck here for another couple of decades...

Would you be very surprised if you found that you wanted this life for yourself and that, you carefully chose it?

Perhaps you can give yourself a break and release some of the burden.

 

[Vcore89]

So, I was thinking today about my life choices and how it has led to this. That sounded glum. But I don't mean it in a negative way (if the wife sees this it will self destruct), I mean it in a curious way.

I am not Pepe love guru that would say "I don't have any regrets because I am who I am based on my past."

If you could go back (with the current knowledge you have now). Would you be more successful or happy. I don't mean going back and using it to gamble or invest in things you already know about BTF style.

I really think if I could go back to the age of 12, I would be able to lean out many mistakes and really have life figured out. Then again, I could make a few decisions and then my current wisdom (life) would have no benefit as I was not faced with the same challenges.

It always makes me wonder if what I now would have benefited me and how different my life would be.

Would you go back to age 12 and relive your life from there? Or another age?

The catch is you have to relive the whole thing, but you keep the knowledge you have now.

The epoch of realizing what you desire is discerning what you desireth not.

 

[Dedans Penthouse]

I was merely joking on the 'weirdo' front. I have met such wonderful people here.

. .Totally agree - wonderful indeed..... oh and . .weirdos rule . ; )