Am I the only one who thinks displays of perfect sportsmanship after a match often seem less than sincere?
I'd prefer sincere and honest over vanilla "perfect" sportsmanship any day of the week. If I won, I don't need my ego stroked any more. If I lost, honest feelings (about my game or theirs) are more valuable than nice words that seem harder to believe.
Sure, and it's all in the setting. If we're just exchanging a couple of words after the match, it should be good match, you too, enjoyed it, good luck, you got me today, look forward to seeing you again, etc. It's all just pleasantries at that stage. I don't want to have my one comment be that I was hurt and I'd prefer not to hear that either.
Once I do have a conversation I've found guys will give honest appraisals and feedback and I try to do the same. At that point you get beyond the "I was lucky today" talk and into, "Here's something I saw that you may want to work on. I took advantage of this." (Assuming they are open to hearing that.)
Maybe at this point as well someone brings up an injury that's been affecting their play, and it comes across a little better at that point and less like an excuse for losing. If nothing else, knowing about that might be useful as motivation to keep up the pressure in case they are in better shape next time.