I don't consider exposing your opponent's weakness winning ugly. It's like saying that if your opponent can't handle your best serve that you should back off so the ball can be returned back into play. No. What I consider winning ugly is the hack and slash pusher ****. If all you're going to do is put the ball back into play with nothing but defensive shots and wait on unforced errors from your opponent, GTFO!
Bottom line, expose weaknesses and hammer on them when possible, but do it offensively. Playing pusher tennis and winning on unforced errors is ******** in my book. It's boring and it just becomes a marathon match with 20+ rally points which no one wants to play. There's a reason why 4.5 players don't want to play lower ranked players who cannot play with pace and offensive shotmaking.
Typically I like your posts but at least on this one I have to disagree. We have differences. For me there are NO qualifications on how you win or lose. If you play someone 100 times knowing you're the "better" player but you don't win 51 or more, something is incongruent between the mind and reality.
Blaming opponent for losing
- He didn't give me enough pace to work with (I don't like doing all the work)
- He hit those darn drop shots (I suck at digging them out)
- He hit 2-story moon balls to my baseline all day (I don't practice returning those)
- He hit so flat (I can't adjust to the ball)
- He hit so spinny (I can't adjust to the ball)
- He did not hit to me (I'm too lazy to run)
- He did not hit to my forehand all day (I'm a FH diety but he found my BH)
My excuse for losing
- I kept hitting long, short, or wide (I hit hard and look pretty but the ball just would not stay down)
- I got tense with long points (Don't want people know I lost to a pusher)
- I got tense with short points (Don't want people know I lost to a pusher)
- I was caught watching when he returned my "winners" (I'm enamored at my glorious 80mph SW FH forgot to move when he hit it back)
- My arm, leg, eye...was sore that day (I gotta find some excuse why I lost to an "inferior" player -- the pusher)
Bottom line
If a pusher, one who has no offense but wins by you screwing up, beats you note that YOU made the loss happen NOT him. You may have prettier strokes and be "far superior" but you made more unforced errors than him. The ball kept coming back and you had the power many times to put the ball away for good. But it's all very simple...you failed.
If you can't beat a pusher you are not all that you think you are. You have weaknesses he exploited so work on them. Practice against pushers and learn to win. If you make too many UE you need to dial back the caveman shots! If you play an animal who has incredible, monster spin/pace/placement and you win -- how did you win? He hit more out than you going for the gorilla shots. Or you lunged for a ton of balls got them back and he crushed them for what should have been easy put ways but landed out. You win against the ape.
No matter the type of player you play, no matter the excuses, who usually wins the tennis match at the rec level? Generally the guy who is more consistent. There are 4.5 players who win exclusively by retrieving every ball until the opponent goes too big. Granted, I'd MUCH prefer to win by hitting winners off my shots than to lose by hitting weak shots the opponent hungrily crushes. We'd all love to win on our own accord by hitting hard, spinny shots. Feeling like WE won the match.
Percentage wins
If you look at the percentages, going for big shots all the time means you're gonna make too many UE. I'll concede that it may actually be a g good thing for a young guy to (maybe a year into tennis) to transition to an aggressive game and expect to lose 90% of his matches. He will lose by hitting big UE. Yet with much practice he'll continue to improve. At some point he will be so good that he'll just destroy a pusher -- and have fun with it! But the average rec player won't put in enough practice time to hit big most of the time and win. The guys who do move far above rec level and compete way beyond normal.
Flashback
Recently I watched a video of an entire NCAA D1 match and both were great players. I was just floored at how damn hard one kid was hitting (opponent was Steve Johnson). Just crazy. He'd hit with such power and spin that I figured the other guy was doomed. In fact the other guy (not flashy really) ended up winning. I was disappointed really as the gorilla kid seemed like a "better" player. Pace. Spin. Aggression. But at the end of the day the guy who was more consistent won.