Topaz, what do you think about this? There has not been one time in one of my matches where I got mad and confronted a guy for hitting at me, nor has an opposing female done lectured my partner for it.
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I had an issue with it once where I suspected head hunting.
This is where some men might have a problem. If the man is the better player, then the woman or the weaker player better listen and play as a team. The better players should generally be the leader and exhibit teamwork and direction.
Why is it up to the woman to 'listen and play as a team'? Why not *both of them*? If the guy, even if he is better, is suggesting something that the woman doesn't do well...uhhh, then she should just shut up and listen?
Why not encourage players to listen to each other and work together? Regardless of gender?
Like you later said...be encouraging and supportive of each other!
I once played on a mixed team that had this one guy that literally none of the women would play with...he yelled at his partner continuously in every match. He took absolutely no ownership of his own mistakes...and oddly enough, he is still down at 3.0, and *all* of the women from that team have since moved up to 3.5. No lie!
I am not trying to be rude... if you knew me it would be the last thing you would say about me.
And I consider myself to be that 5.0 guy... but most of the people that know me would say I am sandbagging and should be a 5.5
Well, I honestly didn't think you were trying to be...but again, do you see where maybe your comments are condescending? It is great that you love tennis and you have lots of experience...but you aren't the only one. And we all have different experiences and have the right to share them here.
And again, I still got my racquet on the 5.0 ball.
Thanks... I find it hard to post on this forum without sounding like I am some arrogant know it all. But some things to me seem rather obvious, but then as some here have said maybe I am just delusional.
The problem is that I had female friends that had scholarships with the U of Texas that I played with all the time and though they were pretty and hit the ball with some pace, they really were not much of a threat at the net unless you gave them a sitter. But I guess the women playing 3.5 are much better than I thought... and if that is the case. I owe someone an apology.
Well, that could be the case...I know here on TTW 3.5 is treated as the scourge of the levels, but it is usually people who don't play USTA and have no idea of the rating system (with all its ins, outs, and foibles) who have that view. Cindy and I (and Raiden) are all in the same section...and the mixed teams here are pretty darn solid. 3.5 covers a huge range of ability...as I'm sure you know. But generally speaking 3.5 players are solid intermediate level (assuming 4.5 as a high level).
you guys did it right for your strengths, but often the guy's best shot is his Fh and the ladies tend to often do better with their 2handed Bh. Guy in the Ad court also sets up for him to hit overheads all over the court if he is right handed.
With JRStriker, I played AD. We played to his strength, which also happened to line up with my strength (FH in the middle).
And, honestly...those of you who say a woman's BH is usually stronger, don't play much women's tennis do you? In my clinic groups, there isn't one of us who doesn't have a stronger FH than BH (me included), and at least three of us have FHs that you don't want to play to given the opportunity.
I think it is really kind of ignorant to continue making those kinds of blanket statements (about any gender at any level)....players are individuals.