Here's my approach...
- I call it as I see it
- I NEVER challenge my opponents line calls. It's their call:
- If they're cheaters, challenging them accomplishes nothing
- If they're not cheaters and called it as they saw it, challenging them makes me look I am intimidating/bullying my opponent
- If I disagree, or on close calls, I may ask nicely "how much was that out by?" or "what was that? a couple of inches?". Something that establishes that it's my opponents call to make.
- I don't appreciate getting challenged on my calls. Particularly those guys who think they can see a moving ball that's 4 inches out all the way from the opposite baseline better than their opponent who is looking straight down that baseline? Once that happens it's "game on" and I get extra motivation to beat the guy.
I am fortunate. I would say only about 5% (1 in 20) guys I play are problematic.
I live in an area with a small enough tennis community so that everyone knows who the cheaters are. It doesn't help them. I would never go to a doctor, lawyer, accountant, contractor, etc, etc and privately would never recommend those people to my family/friends. People who are willing to cheat in something as unimportant as a recreational tennis match might certainly have integrity issues so that they can't be trusted in things that really matter. This includes those people who retaliate bad calls with bad calls of their own.
regarding "call it as i see it".... this the crux of the problem.
a person "sees" in two ways... with their eyes and with their brain.
the "brain seeing" is everyone's ability to automatically fill in the gaps. that's how optical illusions work (the mind creates a perception of reality that differs from the physical reality)
basically it's a persons mind trying congruently make sense of the world.... and how it aligns with the way they think the world works
when you add in the fact that a person wants to win, and they need to a ball to be out,... guess what, their mind fills in the blanks as appropriate.
so unless there is a fair number of "i didn't clearly see a gap between the ball, i can't call it out" type calls (which always comes up at least once a set), i'm skeptical that my opponent is truly giving their best effort to distinguish between perception and reality.
best match i ever played (that i lost) was where we were basically giving each other points every set. it was high quality hitting where were overruling each other's "i didn't see it" calls, and calling the ball out on each other
another common scenario is, let's say i'm pulled wide to the ad court, return cc, and they hit dtl,... near the line. often i'm way out of position to call a ball that's even 2-3in out... so i'll defer and ask "did you see that" since they are in the better position to make the call. if they say they didn't see it, i can't call it out