It's the differences between us that make it great and terrible at the same time.
To put it simply, men are visual. We (straight men) see a physically attractive woman and think, "Wow, I'd love to bang her." You might think it's sleazy or think men are obsessed with sex, but in the words of the late great Tupac, "That's just the way it is." Which is why for us men, it's tough to walk away from a very physically attractive woman even when we know her personality has little depth to it or our values are not in alignment. I've seen that **** play out too many times - where guys get way more invested in girls than they are in themselves because of the physical attraction they have for her. Then end up doing things that you just make you shake your head. Calling or texting like 50 million times - think Mikey from Swingers:
And trust me, every guy has done that **** in their lives, probably more than once. I know I did it in the past, but it's how you learn though. ****, even today I still worry about not coming across as needy/desperate, probably not on that level, but still, it's horribly unattractive to women that's for sure. Someone once said that desperation/neediness is like the hemlock to attraction - I kind of like that line. I've also seen guys like shower women with expensive gifts and dinners, etc. Basically trying to buy affection and validation from women. Others might fawn all over them and quite literally drop everything they're doing to do **** for them, essentially bending over backwards to accommodate women. Being way too nice beyond what's really reasonable, and yes I've been there before too, and it ****ing sucks. Not suggesting that anyone become a dick or an arrogant ass because that's going from one end of the spectrum to the other. The key is finding a decent balance between the two.
But women aren't like that though. They're far more selective when it comes to sex. Physical attraction plays a role for you women, but it's not the end all be all, and material wealth/possessions are also not the end all be all when it comes to what women are attracted to in a man. Now, I'm not a woman and Sigmund Freud once said: "The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is 'What does a
woman want?'"
However, I suspect that women are far more attractive to a man's behaviour and how he conducts himself more than any other factors. It's just the theory, but it seems to make sense if you look at the history of the human civilization anyway.
