Long Distance Relationship
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ollinger
G.O.A.T.
Obviously it depends on what you want from the relationship, but remember one thing: don't ever think you know each other well enough to do something like marry or buy a place to live together until you've spent plenty of time in a "close distance" relationship. Long distance relationships involve certain stressors but don't have to endure the sort of quotidien stressors that can undo things.
chrischris
G.O.A.T.
Each one is different... temperament and characters vary a bit.
There aint no so called 'golden rule' as girlie mags Cosmopolitan , Marie Claire or daft dude mags Maxim etc brag about ..
There aint no so called 'golden rule' as girlie mags Cosmopolitan , Marie Claire or daft dude mags Maxim etc brag about ..
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Been there, done that. And yes, it was good. It really depends on how well you connect. I met a girl who was a free lance journalist at a game in Dallas, we just clicked, and she would send me some of her articles to proof read. The regular contact, made us try dating, but because we actually lived far apart, and the nature of her job took her travelling to other places, it was long distance or nothing at all. And we ended on good terms, when we did decide the time had come. Don't regret it all.
T1000
Legend
Tried it once never doing it again
She cheated (told my "friend" that loved by her we broke up they ****ed) made a mutual friend tell me she was done with me, used me as an emotional tampon during the whole LD phase (she ended it in her mind when this happened but kept me around for a confidence boost while ****ing other guys) and then when we ran into each other after all this had a different story each time and begged me to be friends with her
I doubt something like this will happen but if you don't see a future with your partner and haven't already been together for a decent amount of time before going LD then I'd just end it and move on.
She cheated (told my "friend" that loved by her we broke up they ****ed) made a mutual friend tell me she was done with me, used me as an emotional tampon during the whole LD phase (she ended it in her mind when this happened but kept me around for a confidence boost while ****ing other guys) and then when we ran into each other after all this had a different story each time and begged me to be friends with her
I doubt something like this will happen but if you don't see a future with your partner and haven't already been together for a decent amount of time before going LD then I'd just end it and move on.
r2473
G.O.A.T.
That's nothing compared to quixotic, quaestuary, quab, querken, and quaedam stressors.
Long distance relationships are often quite quisquous.
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dlk
Hall of Fame
Holy Qwap!
They don't work. Never had one, but knew many who did (for a short time). When I was young, I messed around with a girl, who supposedly had a boyfriend in another state (she was so faithful
). I believe he had money (this was before internet). So main commo was phone.
RS92
Hall of Fame
Speaking about my situation, I was (until 6 weeks ago) in a long distance relationship that lasted years... We tried everything to make it work, I wanted to live in the city where she was living (I tried actually a couple of times to move there but it was very difficult for not saying impossible..)
Every time that we were together everything was great, we were very much in love and we enjoyed a lot every day that we were together.. But when we were months without seeing each other, things weren't good obviously, we were suffering and suffering thinking if it was possible to find a solution about the distance..
Anyway, 6 weeks ago, she decided to break up with me..
The thing lasted years because as I said, we were in love and we knew that when we were together, the relationship was amazing. This was going to happen sooner or later after what we suffered with the distance thing, I knew that this was going to happen eventually, but it's still very hard for me to think that I'm not going to see her anymore.
It was worth a shot, but this lasted a lot more that it had too. It was very stupid from me to think that this was going to work and that we were going to be together in the same place sooner or later.
I don't regret it though, she was a very beautiful and special girl.
Every time that we were together everything was great, we were very much in love and we enjoyed a lot every day that we were together.. But when we were months without seeing each other, things weren't good obviously, we were suffering and suffering thinking if it was possible to find a solution about the distance..
Anyway, 6 weeks ago, she decided to break up with me..
The thing lasted years because as I said, we were in love and we knew that when we were together, the relationship was amazing. This was going to happen sooner or later after what we suffered with the distance thing, I knew that this was going to happen eventually, but it's still very hard for me to think that I'm not going to see her anymore.
It was worth a shot, but this lasted a lot more that it had too. It was very stupid from me to think that this was going to work and that we were going to be together in the same place sooner or later.
I don't regret it though, she was a very beautiful and special girl.
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racket king
Banned
Depends on the individuals involved. It's obviously more work and there can be more strain but you mean something to each other, you'll try and put the effort in. That said, I'd say most (though not all) LDRs often don't work because of the distance, the energy required, the extra work involved, the strain that it can create etc. Everything's just harder.
BlueB
Legend
She was 19 and I was 22 when we met. Took us several months to eventually get together. We spent only few months together and civil war broke out. Not wanting to take part, I ran away to another continent. She stayed another 6 months to complete the first year of the university. That was the long distance part...
Fast forward, here we are, 24 years later, married, with a kid.
Half way through, we had another period apart, when I went on a 6 months sailing trip.
Fast forward, here we are, 24 years later, married, with a kid.
Half way through, we had another period apart, when I went on a 6 months sailing trip.
SoBad
G.O.A.T.
Nothing wrong with maintaining long-distance relationships as long as they don’t impede (potentially competing) local relationships.
Wynter
Legend
Was in one for the past few years, ultimately ended once we realised that the two of us wanted very different things in life and the odds of us actually ever 'meeting' for more than a week at most was minimal. Still best of friends and wouldn't have it any other way, I find the people you LDR with are the kind that you can always get along with, it's more than pure romance but companionship as well.
Russeljones
Talk Tennis Guru
Didn't work out for Grigor and Maria.
vive le beau jeu !
Talk Tennis Guru
nice story
just curious... was it difficult to make her accept that you would be away, living your adventure, during 6 months ?
BlueB
Legend
Well... The key factor was that we finished our stay in South Africa and about to move to Vancouver. For the first (and probably only) time in my life, I had time and money to do such a thing. Sailboat also acted as a container for lots of our stuff.nice story
just curious... was it difficult to make her accept that you would be away, living your adventure, during 6 months ?
My smart wife said: "Listen, I am not happy about this and very worried, but you have to go and live your dream. Otherwise you'll be unhappy all your life..."
So, I moved her and our pets to Canada and went back to Africa, to sail.
heninfan99
Talk Tennis Guru
It's a total waste of time
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