The Fast Track To Divorce Court?
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You hit upon the key. Haven't read "The Art of Doubles" myself. The one I read, and still refer to often, is "Vic Braden's Laugh and Win at Doubles". http://www.amazon.com/Vic-Bradens-Laugh-Win-Doubles/dp/0316105058/ref=pd_sim_b_3 (Got a kick out of the Amazon prices, two new from $85.47, fifteen used from $2.07. There are several for ten bucks in used, "very good" or "like new" condition.) That book taught me everything I needed to know about doubles. Now, I only need to execute. You might make it a condition for him to play with you. "Honey, I love you, but I'll only team with you if you read this book. Then, I won't have to boss you around on the court because you'll know what to do and when to do it. Okay?"
chinadoll724
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Ah. I started tennis so I could spend more time with my fiance, but after a year and a half, I love it, but now i'm even less able to play competitive mixed doubles with him. We play tons of tennis on the same courts (probably ten hours a week), but whenever we partner together, everything goes south.
He gets super frustrated when I do something wrong because he's told me N times already and I'm not doing it. I get frustrated he's yelling at me and I get more nervous and make more mistakes. He feels he has to overcompensate for me and goes for bigger shots resulting in more errors, I'm frustrated he's not playing to his normal level.
The best advice I can give having been on the other side of the partnership is to understand he's TRYING to listen and play well. Especially when we're starting, it's hard to keep all the tips and rules in our head and execute when the ball's coming at us quickly. Be patient and let him figure things out sometimes
We still play mixed doubles together occasionally, but it usually gets us both frustrated. Either we'll eventually learn how to do it well, or we'll eventually learn to just leave it alone.
He gets super frustrated when I do something wrong because he's told me N times already and I'm not doing it. I get frustrated he's yelling at me and I get more nervous and make more mistakes. He feels he has to overcompensate for me and goes for bigger shots resulting in more errors, I'm frustrated he's not playing to his normal level.
The best advice I can give having been on the other side of the partnership is to understand he's TRYING to listen and play well. Especially when we're starting, it's hard to keep all the tips and rules in our head and execute when the ball's coming at us quickly. Be patient and let him figure things out sometimes
We still play mixed doubles together occasionally, but it usually gets us both frustrated. Either we'll eventually learn how to do it well, or we'll eventually learn to just leave it alone.
this thread cracks me up! may i suggest, you take up golf, it is better for all involved if you are the lesser one.
riding in the golf cart a few weeks ago, i was about to scream i was so bored! finally, i said, hand me that club and i started hitting.
i've sat thru enough golf lessons of my kids to know a few things, and much as they don't want to hear it, there are some similarities. and there is some commmon sense involved. a: you can get a decent score if you don't kill the shot off of the tee, just straight. b: putting is where the heroes are
as one in four shots in general is off the tee...like a big serve, if that's all you got, then it ain't enough...in doubles it is one in four games, and if that serve dares to be returned, well the odds reduce dramaticallly!
i hit a few balls, and oh, how they all loved mommy being the underdog. they all helped me and felt so superiour...even my 11 year old. it put the whole family dynamics in a great spot...and i don't mind being the loser (in golf)! and, let's just say, the hubby really likes to be on top...pun intended. (sorry!)
funny thread!
riding in the golf cart a few weeks ago, i was about to scream i was so bored! finally, i said, hand me that club and i started hitting.
i've sat thru enough golf lessons of my kids to know a few things, and much as they don't want to hear it, there are some similarities. and there is some commmon sense involved. a: you can get a decent score if you don't kill the shot off of the tee, just straight. b: putting is where the heroes are
as one in four shots in general is off the tee...like a big serve, if that's all you got, then it ain't enough...in doubles it is one in four games, and if that serve dares to be returned, well the odds reduce dramaticallly!
i hit a few balls, and oh, how they all loved mommy being the underdog. they all helped me and felt so superiour...even my 11 year old. it put the whole family dynamics in a great spot...and i don't mind being the loser (in golf)! and, let's just say, the hubby really likes to be on top...pun intended. (sorry!)
funny thread!
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Patrick_St
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As long as you haven't talked about killing each other so far, then I think it's worth a go.
