Tennis Parent Cautionary Tale: Gabby Price

giantschwinn

Semi-Pro
Not only the coaches say it, the NTRP 3.0 Sunday ladies group on the adjacent court are asking how old you are and "are we gonna see you on tv one day." It's easy to see how after awhile the parents start thinking they have a real prospect on hand.
 

SystemicAnomaly

Bionic Poster
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Do you really think any coach is going to tell you to your face that your kid is not talented?
Not only the coaches say it, the NTRP 3.0 Sunday ladies group on the adjacent court are asking how old you are and "are we gonna see you on tv one day." It's easy to see how after awhile the parents start thinking they have a real prospect on hand.
I really only had one young student who I thought had pro potential. But, regardless, I've always given students and parents more reasonable expectations when their expectations significantly exceeded talent.
 

mcs1970

Hall of Fame
I think it's quite different. There are almost endless opportunities for a kid who was pushed academically, even if they fall short of expectations - assuming that we're not talking crazy levels of academic pushing (which is obviously bad). If you push a kid with the expectation of becoming a successful professional athlete you're playing against the longest of odds and disappointment is almost assured.



Two issues here: (1) At what emotional/mental price? (2) Anecdotes like Lavar Ball are just that... anecdotes. There are 99+ Lavar Ball failures out there for every successful one.

I agree with you. My only issue was anyone on the outside trying to judge Gabby’s dad based on one or two YouTube interview lines.

That’s why I said if it comes from a place of genuine love and the parent expresses that part throughout the child’s life, then it is ok, regardless of how some of their actions or words might be perceived by outsiders.
 

TennisCJC

Legend
Even if the parents do everything right or at least reasonable right, the odds of a 4 year old prodigy making top 200 is slim. Al Parker won 25 junior USTA titles in the 1980s and people were already forecasting him as a top 10 player. He did play pro tennis but was 1-10 at pro level. He had a successful collegiate career playing for Georgia and reaching NCAA semi-finals. He was probably a hell of a tennis player but I don't think people realize how good you have to be to be in the top 200 much less the top 20. With tennis pulling players from all over the world, the competition is incredible.
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
Really? She made it to 8 in the world and became a house hold name for various reasons. I'd say that she lived up to the hype. She certainly made enough money to justify the hard work.
You should know that ever since Kournikova became a model, it's unfashionable to accept that she was a good tennis player. I bet it will be the same with Bouchard. And the fact that she made RG semis and Wimbledon final will be completely forgotten. If somebody beat Halep and Kerber in the same tournament, you can't argue she was NEVER good.
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
Here is the original 2012 video of this prodigy.

Wow, that's some thick snake-oil from Macci: "Behind every kid that goes onto greatness, there has to be parental involvement". I heard that Sampras' father didn't particularly care when he told him he had won the US Open? And all Raducanu got was a hug and homemade dumplings.
 

FiddlerDog

Hall of Fame
Wow, that's some thick snake-oil from Macci: "Behind every kid that goes onto greatness, there has to be parental involvement". I heard that Sampras' father didn't particularly care when he told him he had won the US Open? And all Raducanu got was a hug and homemade dumplings.

Total BS. Any parent of a slam champion has made the player the center of their entire universe and has uprooted the entire family to serve the tennis needs. In 1978, the Sampras family moved to Palos Verdes, California, so the 7 year-old Sampras could play tennis for most of the year. Sampras player with Laver at age 11. How did the father arrange that? The Sampras family joined the Jack Kramer Club, and Sampras trained with tennis coach Robert Lansdorp. That's huge money invested. Does that sound like a parent that doesn't particularly care about tennis? Same with Raducanu. You don't get your 17 year old to train with Andy Murry if its all about dumplings.
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
Total BS. Any parent of a slam champion has made the player the center of their entire universe and has uprooted the entire family to serve the tennis needs. In 1978, the Sampras family moved to Palos Verdes, California, so the 7 year-old Sampras could play tennis for most of the year. Sampras player with Laver at age 11. How did the father arrange that? The Sampras family joined the Jack Kramer Club, and Sampras trained with tennis coach Robert Lansdorp. That's huge money invested. Does that sound like a parent that doesn't particularly care about tennis? Same with Raducanu. You don't get your 17 year old to train with Andy Murry if its all about dumplings.
That's entirely different from what you see in the video with Price's father. He is saying there that he wants her success as much as the kid herself, overruling his wife's warnings not to live his dreams vicariously through her. That's where I am comparing them with Sampras or Raducanu's parents.
 

FiddlerDog

Hall of Fame
That's entirely different from what you see in the video with Price's father. He is saying there that he wants her success as much as the kid herself, overruling his wife's warnings not to live his dreams vicariously through her. That's where I am comparing them with Sampras or Raducanu's parents.

Trust me, every parent of every slam champion is a total nutjob who is batshitcrazy. That's the only way to get to the top. All or nothing.
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
Trust me, every parent of every slam champion is a total nutjob who is batshitcrazy. That's the only way to get to the top. All or nothing.
No, I don't have to trust you and I don't think tennis parents or parents of prodigies are all alike. Seles' father was nothing like Graf's. There is a difference between encouraging and nurturing the talented child and doing backseat driving. Price's father was doing that and Macci appeared to be endorsing that.
 

FiddlerDog

Hall of Fame
No, I don't have to trust you and I don't think tennis parents or parents of prodigies are all alike. Seles' father was nothing like Graf's. There is a difference between encouraging and nurturing the talented child and doing backseat driving. Price's father was doing that and Macci appeared to be endorsing that.

It's all subjective. Quitting or changing your career, and moving the entire family to a new country or state just so your 8 year old can play tennis is universally batshitcrazy, in my book.
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
It's all subjective. Quitting or changing your career, and moving the entire family to a new country or state just so your 8 year old can play tennis is universally batshitcrazy, in my book.
No, that's just believing in the possibility that your child may with your support become a star in tennis. Even if it's crazy in terms of betting the house on very long odds, it's not harmful to the child in and of itself. Carping non stop as Gabby Price plays another junior on video is. I have a tennis mom in extended family and I believe she is part of the reason her child sees tennis as a chore and a bore now.
 

FiddlerDog

Hall of Fame
No, that's just believing in the possibility that your child may with your support become a star in tennis. Even if it's crazy in terms of betting the house on very long odds, it's not harmful to the child in and of itself. Carping non stop as Gabby Price plays another junior on video is. I have a tennis mom in extended family and I believe she is part of the reason her child sees tennis as a chore and a bore now.

How do you know Sampras dad was not yelling at Pete after a loss in juniors? Were you at the dinner table?
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
How do you know Sampras dad was not yelling at Pete after a loss in juniors? Were you at the dinner table?
That's neither here nor there. Firstly, you weren't at their dinner table either. You are just making a supposition that all tennis parents are the same. Secondly, even if he did yell once or twice at Sampras, it wouldn't by itself make him as obsessive as Father Price. Wait, are you the girl's father and does that explain your keenness to argue this in his favour?
 

Finster

Rookie
Is this any different from a parent who says a kid has to be pushed to succeed in academics?

At the end of the day parenting does not come with a cookie cutter guidebook. Push hard and child fails you get blamed. Sit back and child fails you get blamed. OTOH if a child succeeds you will get praised no matter which approach you took.

In hoops Lavar Ball was getting blamed but lately I have seen some clips of ex athletes talking about how they wish they had a dad in their lives who did what he did.

To me, at the end of the day if whatever a parent does comes from a place of love and there is a strong bond with the child throughout their lives, then it doesn’t matter how someone on the outside perceives it. That answer can only be provided by the child no matter what we perceive from the outside.

Read Agassi's book, "Open." In it, he describes how his dad forced him to train in tennis so hard as a child, he claims he hates tennis. His relationship with his father suffered as a result. But look at him: 8 grand slam titles, rich and famous, philanthropist. None of that happens if his dad didn't force him and push him as hard as he did. True, that outcome is an extreme exception. But still...
 

mcs1970

Hall of Fame
Wow, that's some thick snake-oil from Macci: "Behind every kid that goes onto greatness, there has to be parental involvement". I heard that Sampras' father didn't particularly care when he told him he had won the US Open? And all Raducanu got was a hug and homemade dumplings.

Sampras sister also was into tennis. It doesn’t come without parental support. Sampras’s story I read was that his dad was undecided on spending more money but others who watched Pete play convinced him to continue to fund the lessons.

Also Pete has said that his parents used to get nervous watching him and hence they would not watch him live. So I am sure they cared very much when he won.
 

mcs1970

Hall of Fame
TBH it feels strange when I see Fed’s dad, Rafa’s dad, Djokovics’s dad, Stefanos dad, etc in their boxes and having that intensity. These are folks whose kids are adults and have already made it. But in many ways they still look like dads who are critiquing their 10 year old kids. Does Roger’s dad really need to promote his son’s logo by wearing that cap?

If one of my kids had made it that way I would be relaxing somewhere with a Pina Colada.
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
Sampras sister also was into tennis. It doesn’t come without parental support. Sampras’s story I read was that his dad was undecided on spending more money but others who watched Pete play convinced him to continue to fund the lessons.

Also Pete has said that his parents used to get nervous watching him and hence they would not watch him live. So I am sure they cared very much when he won.
As I said in an earlier moment, I am not implying that a kid can make it without parental support but that parental support doesn't have to involve bearing down on the kid and living with his/her practice every moment. That's what Price's father was doing and Macci was endorsing that (probably because it was good publicity for his academy).
 

mcs1970

Hall of Fame
As I said in an earlier moment, I am not implying that a kid can make it without parental support but that parental support doesn't have to involve bearing down on the kid and living with his/her practice every moment. That's what Price's father was doing and Macci was endorsing that (probably because it was good publicity for his academy).

But that’s not what I was replying to. You were talking about parental involvement. Involvement and obsessiveness are different. I didn’t read Macci’s quote as saying the parent has to be over the top. Maybe he just meant in terms of the financial support and taking the time to take the kid for all the tournaments.
 

mcs1970

Hall of Fame
Read Agassi's book, "Open." In it, he describes how his dad forced him to train in tennis so hard as a child, he claims he hates tennis. His relationship with his father suffered as a result. But look at him: 8 grand slam titles, rich and famous, philanthropist. None of that happens if his dad didn't force him and push him as hard as he did. True, that outcome is an extreme exception. But still...

Pushing to the point where it fractured their relationship is not something I would endorse.
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
But that’s not what I was replying to. You were talking about parental involvement. Involvement and obsessiveness are different. I didn’t read Macci’s quote as saying the parent has to be over the top. Maybe he just meant in terms of the financial support and taking the time to take the kid for all the tournaments.
That comment of mine too was in response to the video and not a general comment on parental involvement. If Mr Macci doesn't issue any critique of Price's behaviour, I am inclined to take his statement to mean he thinks this is how tennis parents should be.
 

mcs1970

Hall of Fame
That comment of mine too was in response to the video and not a general comment on parental involvement. If Mr Macci doesn't issue any critique of Price's behaviour, I am inclined to take his statement to mean he thinks this is how tennis parents should be.

You could be absolutely correct. All I am saying is that if tomorrow Gabby talks about how wonderful her dad is, then he had to have have done something right and maybe we were making too much of a few things that we saw in camera.

OTOH if shes says how she was always pushed and depressed trying to please her dad, then it is another thing.

A parent pushing the kid by itself is not evil. The issue is if he was consistently going over the tipping point.
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
You could be absolutely correct. All I am saying is that if tomorrow Gabby talks about how wonderful her dad is, then he had to have have done something right and maybe we were making too much of a few things that we saw in camera.

OTOH if shes says how she was always pushed and depressed trying to please her dad, then it is another thing.

A parent pushing the kid by itself is not evil. The issue is if he was consistently going over the tipping point.
It is conjecture at the end of the day but what I saw in the video and read in the NPR interview suggests somebody who was going over the tipping point.
 

mcs1970

Hall of Fame
It is conjecture at the end of the day but what I saw in the video and read in the NPR interview suggests somebody who was going over the tipping point.

Which one? The article states he doesn’t force her and hitting sessions can only be 20 mins if that’s all she wants. Also in the video he tells her not to look at him and he can’t help her. Maybe the kid is also driven?

The only thing I would question is Macci and her dad both feeding in her from a ridiculously young age that she has greatness in her. Why would you do that at such a young age than asking her to enjoy the process more than anything at that age? As time has borne out that hasnt aged well.
 

Dolgopolov85

G.O.A.T.
Which one? The article states he doesn’t force her and hitting sessions can only be 20 mins if that’s all she wants. Also in the video he tells her not to look at him and he can’t help her. Maybe the kid is also driven?

The only thing I would question is Macci and her dad both feeding in her from a ridiculously young age that she has greatness in her. Why would you do that at such a young age than asking her to enjoy the process more than anything at that age? As time has borne out that hasnt aged well.
This one which was already posted in this thread:


Read here. To me (put together with the video), it sounds a lot like he is telling himself that he is not pushing her hard. And it sounds like his wife tried before to tell him to take it easy and found he wouldn't listen.

" Well, listen, I was never on Gabriella at four and five years - I mean, I used to train her at four and five, but it didn't get - it wasn't a crazy environment. It was a very easygoing environment, and let's just be disciplined and let's do the right thing on the court. And even though she was really good at seven, her footwork needed work. Her forehand needed work. Her backhand needed work. Her serve needed work. But, you know, she embraced it. She enjoyed it. She enjoys tennis. "

It's like Gabby is too young to know she needs all this training but she is certainly not too young to know she enjoys all the pressure. Yeah, somehow that's supposed to work.
 

sureshs

Bionic Poster
I am tracking a case since a few years now. The junior girl is from my club. Nationally ranked. 13 years old. Father quit his job to help her. She takes lessons once a week from a well-known pro at another club. She was offered a free ride to IMG in Florida and went there with her father early this year, but they have come back now. She is home schooled. Father is determined to make her a pro.
 

mcs1970

Hall of Fame
This one which was already posted in this thread:


Read here. To me (put together with the video), it sounds a lot like he is telling himself that he is not pushing her hard. And it sounds like his wife tried before to tell him to take it easy and found he wouldn't listen.

" Well, listen, I was never on Gabriella at four and five years - I mean, I used to train her at four and five, but it didn't get - it wasn't a crazy environment. It was a very easygoing environment, and let's just be disciplined and let's do the right thing on the court. And even though she was really good at seven, her footwork needed work. Her forehand needed work. Her backhand needed work. Her serve needed work. But, you know, she embraced it. She enjoyed it. She enjoys tennis. "

It's like Gabby is too young to know she needs all this training but she is certainly not too young to know she enjoys all the pressure. Yeah, somehow that's supposed to work.

I guess each one wants to read what they want into it. I didn’t see anything wrong with it. Some kids are driven and ambitious . It doesn’t mean that there are aspects that have not yet developed.
 

mcs1970

Hall of Fame
I am tracking a case since a few years now. The junior girl is from my club. Nationally ranked. 13 years old. Father quit his job to help her. She takes lessons once a week from a well-known pro at another club. She was offered a free ride to IMG in Florida and went there with her father early this year, but they have come back now. She is home schooled. Father is determined to make her a pro.

Ome of my relatives close friend did the same. Quit his job to be a full time tennis parent. One year later the kid shut down and now has no interest in playing.
 

TennisCJC

Legend
As I said in an earlier moment, I am not implying that a kid can make it without parental support but that parental support doesn't have to involve bearing down on the kid and living with his/her practice every moment. That's what Price's father was doing and Macci was endorsing that (probably because it was good publicity for his academy).

Chris Evert's dad was a pro and several of his children played pro and/or collegiate tennis and Dad Evert didn't coach Chris as a pro and in general stayed out of her career. I am sure Dad got them all started and gave them good fundamentals but he also had the common sense to step back and let them be in charge of their careers. I wonder if some of the ATP and WTA pros who still use parents as coaches would be better off getting an outside pro with experience at the pro level rather than keeping Mom or Dad as the primary coach. My thoughts are parental support is absolutely necessary for young players but it has to be at a healthy level. And, at some point, most parents should try stepping back and letting junior fly on their own.
 

a12345

Professional
Raducanu has set a good benchmark to follow. She stayed in school, went to a top girls school. Did lots of other sports. She says she doesnt really talk to her parents about tennis.

It shows you dont have to be all in doing one thing to make it.
 

Dartagnan64

G.O.A.T.
I think these sensationalist stories largely are a "tiger Woods" phenomenon. ever since Tiger, media are constantly on the lookout for the "next big thing". But it's hard to predict success from a childs abilities. Even look at professional drafts where you are picking 20 somethings. So many top draft picks flame out. trying to get it right from a kid's talent is impossible. Lots of late bloomers and lots of talented kids without the mental fortitude to do what it takes.

Growing up in hockey crazed Canada, I knew several kids that were superstars in junior hockey but all quit or failed at the major junior level because they lost motivation. They just didn't have that mental attitude to take things to the next level despite being crazy talented.
 

SystemicAnomaly

Bionic Poster
@giantschwinn @dimadima @cortado
The technique and movement it all looks very good.

Unfortunately if shes 5"3 thats something you cant train for and shes at a natural disadvantage thats hard to overcome. Not a lot she can do about that.
Not easy for women 5'6" and shorter to succeed in the WTA. But it is possible. Justine Henin, Simona Halep, Chris Evert & BJK all about that height or shorter. Leylah Fernandez is also 5'6"

Quite a few at 5'4" and shorter have made it to the top 30 or so. Carla Suarez Navarro (5'4"), Kimiko Date (5'4"), Dominika Cibulkova (5'3"), Amanda Coetzer (5'2") and Lauren Davis (5'2") all have done rather well.

Still, WTA at ~700 ain't too shabby at all. Sounds like Div I
 
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AlexSV

Semi-Pro
She never turned into a straight to the professional game phenom, but you can't discredit the results or the rankings. She got to 29th in juniors, and that is legit.
 

SystemicAnomaly

Bionic Poster
The kid who won the Australian Open juniors (men's) is only 5'9", curious to see how he will do in the future.
Michael Chang was the same height. Won RG & reached #2. Olivier Rochus at 5’5” made the top 25 in 2005. David Ferrer at 5’9” was #3 in 2013. Kei Nishikori, only 1” taller, reached 4 in 2015.
 

atatu

Legend
Michael Chang was the same height. Won RG & reached #2. Olivier Rochus at 5’5” made the top 25 in 2005. David Ferrer at 5’9” was #3 in 2013. Kei Nishikori, only 1” taller, reached 4 in 2015.
Yeah, I'd love to see this kid do well, Schwartzman is only 5'7" and has been in the top ten, it's just tough, was watching Mackie McDonald play against Zverev today and I feel like if Mackie was 6 foot he'd be ranked higher.
 

TennisDawg

Hall of Fame
Great Moments in the Annals of Parenting...

At 2:25:
Mom: And she really wants it. We don't want it for her. She wants it for herself.
Dad: Correction. I want it for her. I do want it for her.

At 3:00:
Dad: I will push her. She has to be pushed.

Poor kid.
I hear this diagologue from a lot of parents pushing their kids in primarily individual sports. Track and field is another example and when you bring up another sport that the kid might be interested in. You get this same cadre of words. We let Johnny decide we don’t decide for him. Meanwhile they push him into training everyday because they compete weekends, even traveling across the country. It’s a long grind for the kid and the parents think they are just being good parents.
 
@navigator

Anyone recall 5-year old tennis phenom, Jan Silva back in 2007/08? Everyone had assumed he would be playing ATP level tennis in his late teens. His family even moved for to France for a while to train with Patrick Mouratoglou.

But it appears that he that he peaked quite young. He was only a three-star recruit for college. He ended up playing for Sac State, a D1 school.



Just saw a recent YouTube video of him. He still has a nice one-handed backhand. He should give Tsitsipas some pointers.



 
I remember reading about this girl about 5 years ago (this article, in fact) and thinking, Her Dad is completely insane (possibly Mom, too, it's hard to tell).


Fast forward to the present day and she's 18 years old and ranked ~700 WTA. She's 5'3", wears a knee brace and has had pretty serious injuries to her back and ankles. She's getting shellacked routinely at the equivalent of Challengers-level events. Now, don't get me wrong, 700 WTA at 18 years of age is still pretty impressive (and she'll likely improve). But clearly this whole adventure has been a disappointment relative to years-ago expectations. She'll probably be an excellent college player if she goes that route (there's still time). But undersized and injury-prone at 18 does not bode well for a professional tennis career regardless of Dad's inflated desires.

Interestingly, the hagiographic articles about her stopped appearing around three years ago, likely around the time she stopped growing and started getting injured. Regardless, good luck, kiddo!

I'd be curious to know how much money the parents have put into this project... hopefully a college scholarship will make it worthwhile.

Sounds like she is chronically in pain. Doesn't look like she is going to college. I guess she will be coaching tennis at a tennis club or recreational park soon.

 
I recall that Anna Kournikova in her pre-teen & early teen years had created quite a buzz and was expected to be a future number one. However, while she did reach a #1 standing in doubles for a while, she never reach higher than #8 in singles. A SF run in a slam event and several finals in Tier I events, but she never managed to evr win a singles titles.

She didn't do too bad. She has a family with 3 children and a net worth of probably $200 million.
 
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