We found out a few days ago, my wife is pregnant with our first child. We've been married a little over a year and I think we're both ready (or as ready as we're going to be). I've always wanted kids so I'm on cloud nine right now. Any advice from other parents on the board so I don't mess the kid up too badly?
Here's all you really need to know in order to virtually never lose your temper with your child, as many, many parents seem prone to do on a frequent basis:
Remember how old they are. Staying aware of this has made me almost completely unflappable, from the time my little 2 year old was throwing a tantrum to my now 13 year old screaming her lungs out at me because I made her turn off the TV or something.
Doesn't mean you let them do what they want or don't discipline them (you just do it calmly), but it does mean you remember "3 year old aren't very rational", and "13 year old girls ain't all that rational either, and sometimes are gonna go off on their parents if you tell them no".
That's it. That's all you need to know in this department, and you'll rarely lose your temper. You may even get some amusement out of your kid's occassional awful behavior when you look at it this from this perspective. I have literally started laughing in the wake of some my daughter's fits where she storms out of the room in a huff, whereas I think other parents might have taken it personally or reacted with their own rage.
Oh, and don't smoke cigarettes in front of them. They don't like that.