Lately I've started an exercise regimen to get in better shape. While that might be laudable, it's also selfish. Selfish isn't always bad you know.
Exactly! And while probably nobody else would care (barring loved ones!), that is a personal goal and you will feel a great amount of achievement and satisfaction when you reach that goal.
I'd rather set goals and not reach them than not even try.
And yes, selfish is not always bad. I totally agree. So, it might be selfish of me to spend so much time on tennis and working on improving, but I've set a goal that means something to me. I get that it might not mean something to anyone else, but that doesn't mean they have to be a jerk about it, right?
In my experiences, I have found that the ones who feel it is necessary to tear others down are those who are afraid to try and fail to reach their own goals. They are the ones that *need* to belittle others in order to feel better about themselves. We all know people like that...deep down inside they are scared and insecure.
What does one do with trophies? Build a shrine in your house and show them to visitors? They wouldn't be impressed, they'd think you're pathetic for being so needy. Just the act of owning/coveting a trophy shows one as being so concerned with one-upmanship. A person doesn't need to throw it in anyone's face. Just the fact that you're willing to set aside storage space states this attitude.
Uh, no, I don't show them to visitors...never said that I do. Nobody here on this thread has said that either. Pretty sure I've thrown it in anyone's face either.
I also haven't belittled the accomplishments of others...because I know what it means to work hard toward a goal.
I'd agree that winning a tournament, or just doing well in one can be satisfying because it affirms that you've improved at something. You can always tell people about it. But is the purpose of the trophy to prove the claim? "See I really did win the Raspberry Tournament in '72". That behavior is self-defeating. Nobody will question such a claim, because nobody cares. Win for yourself, not to impress others.
You're getting hung up on the actual physical trophy there. You don't get a trophy for not doing anything...you get it when you accomplish something...thus it is a symbol of an accomplishment.
Look back to the OP...this is a discussion point not because someone was boasting about their trophies...rather because someone was dissing others' accomplishments.