I started playing when I was about 10 and I gravitated to a 2hb. However, I never had instruction and I always felt insecure with it. To this day (now 48 although I didn't start playing a lot until about 3 years ago after about a 20 year break) I feel very insecure at times with it. It's odd, I know my problem are mostly footwork and getting flicky with it (I have a bad habit of turning my wrists over as I hit it as opposed to hitting through the ball). I've taken some lessons and one pro said he would like to switch me to a 1hb because I have a nice looking slice..but he said it would be better if I was younger, AKA I'm too old LOL!
Just wondering if anyone has any tips. I've thought of just relying on slice bh for the most part. It's just odd because when I hit against the wall I can actually hit the 1hb better and it comes naturally but when I hit against someone I feel really clumsy with it and a little bit challenged on the process of grip change. I suppose that would come in time if I stuck with it. Just looking for thoughts, input.
I started out slicing my backhand as a kid before learning any sort of topspin stroke on that side. The two-hander never really became a comfortable thing for me and when I wanted to get to work on it later on as an adult, a teaching pro saw more potential for me to learn a decent one-hander and he coaxed me in that direction. I may have been similar to you in terms of having a good foundation to work with - my slice was sound and only a little tweaking brought a one-hander together rather quickly.
Many folks can find success with building a two-hander in rather short order. Lots of leverage on tap to set-and-fire the shot without a long and involved preparation compared with the one-hander. But after my process of re-tooling my game along with coaching and teaching kids and adults later on, I'm convinced that some of us just have a stronger aptitude for learning a one-handed backhand. Despite some mechanical advantages, the two-hander can be an unnatural, frustrating move for any of us if it's not in our tennis DNA.
Yes, I think that the one-hander can come in time if you stick with it. That's easy to say, but making the transition doesn't just happen after putting in a couple extra hours over the course of a weekend. I think it's important to get real and expect to get worse over the short term in order to learn anything like this and develop it for long term improvement. This is usually the overwhelming deterrent for adults who want to get better - they're not willing to deal with the setbacks for a few weeks or more, so they retreat to the mediocre things that work in the here and now.
For the record, my dad is in his 80's and he's still learning things. There's an ocean of difference between being too old to physically perform like we could during our "warrior years" versus being too old to develop different skills as tennis players. The assertion that somebody is too old to learn something like a one-handed backhand is a cop out.
When you make your decision to really get after learning the one-hander, jump in with both feet. Expect it to make a mess of your game for a little while - that's merely evidence that you're doing something different. It has to happen. One huge obstacle with learning a one-hander is developing the instincts to initiate the forward swing to contact earlier than what we do with either a forehand or a two-handed backhand (or even a bh slice, at least in my opinion). Contact happens further out ahead of the body and accelerating the racquet is a slightly longer process.
I can also say that while I prefer to hit a one-hander, I also use a two-hander to bail me out when an incoming ball gets in near my feet. The two-hander also helps me to sometimes hit a more aggressive topspin return of serve when an opponent's delivery is too fast to let me set up my one-handed stroke for a drive. When I have time, my one-hander is the superior stroke - no comparison. But the two-hander can be useful and I still use my bh slice plenty. If I had to do only one style for the rest of my days, the slice would be it.