Sadly and embarrassing to admit, I once was a 4.0 (when I was 18) and played D3 tennis. I quit exactly then and picked up the racket again three years ago (33 year break) and I finally have my strokes back. So, yes, I have those shots (except spin serves prob 8/10 vs. 10/10). I have a very good deep topspin forehand and my greatest strenght is my slice backhand and drop shots. I was finally picked up to play with high 3.5s at my club. But only because a few played with me and told others my game was better than my rating. BUT, I can't close tournament matches against 3.5s. I lose in a lot of tiebreakers (like close to 1/2). I keep playing up though in tournaments and I keep trying. But, if I just knew how close I was, it would help me immensely. It's a lot of time and $ to travel to tournaments so I'd like to know I'm making progress. Appreciate your response, I'm not giving up
ah, so probably a movement/timing issue.
if i were you, i'd play every pusher you know, and beat them first.
"playing up" can be deceiving, as you can block back hard hitters, and think you're making progress (and hoping the hard hitter, over hits)... but in reality you don't possess the skills to finish out points (eg. high & deep, aggressive deep midcourt, approach, volley/oh)... even if you beat the basher, it could be they beat themselves... so when you go back to the 3.5 pusher/moonballer (and everyone at 3.5 m/w are moonballer/pushers - else they are bashers that make mistakes), they beat you because now you have to generate pace, move, etc...
story time... when i took a 7-8 hiatus as a 4.5 top pursue other interests, when i returned i lost 5-7 to 4.0 pusher... was missing my "normal" attacking shots, then started pushing to try to win (which won't usually work at mid-high 4.5 anyway).... trained to get my footwork & timing down for the summer (basically called all the folks i used to beat, and worked my way up from bottom of my "tennis totem pole", back to the top, and returned to beat the 4.0 pusher 2,2...
moral of the story, is don't waste your time "playing up" if you don't even have the footwork/timing to beat a 3.5. it's good to occasionally "play up" to see what you need to do... and obviously good to practice with folks better than you if you can find them, but IMO, not worth traveling (time&$) to find much better players, unless you're already regularly beating all the best local players (yes, those pesky/annoying but hyper consistent pushers/moonballers).