The Annoying Mom

philaaay

New User
This has happened to me about a week ago and I've noticed the same thing happen to other players.

About 3-4 times a week, my friend and I will play on the tennis courts at a local HS. We usually rally for a bit and then get into playing some games.

Now if I'm not mistaken, I believe a form of tennis etiquette is when you arrive at some courts and all of them are taken, you wait OUTSIDE the fenced courts until a court is available.

So one day, my friend and I are playing a match and this woman with her children just open the gate and walk right onto our court and "demands" (and by demand, I mean she said, "You're going to be done soon, right?") when we'll be done. He and I stop play and tell her to please wait outside and that we've only been her for about 40 minutes and won't be done for at least another hour. She scoffs and then leaves our court without shutting the gate. I then observe her walking into the next court, where people are playing, and "demand" when they'll be done. And does the same for the rest of the courts.

I could tell everyone was annoyed by her and the sad thing is that she does this every single time she comes to the courts. I almost want to just to yell and exclaim at her that she is not being very respectful of us and the other players using the courts and whatnot, but I know that in itself is not the good thing to do, plus I don't want to do that in front of her kids.

I figured the next time she does that, I'll pull her aside and inform her that what she's doing is not respectful and that we would appreciate it if she just waited outside the courts, you know, ON THE BENCHES where other people are supposed to wait, and if we're done, we'll flag her over.

Anyone else experience similar situations like this?
 

r2473

G.O.A.T.
I've had a few annoying fans trying to get my autograph while I was playing, but that is about it.
 

Wakenslam

Rookie
I haven't experienced that, but if I did, I would probably take my time and use the court for as long as possible so she would have to wait! Oh yeah - I think usually you can play for 90 minutes of singles or 120 minutes of doubles without relinquishing a court. That's just a general guideline around here.
 
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Fee

Legend
Are there posted rules at the courts you use? Just point to the rules and gently suggest she follow them like the rest of the people who use those courts.
 

rommil

Legend
I haven't experienced that, but if I did, I would probably take my time and use the court for as long as possible so she would have to wait! Oh yeah - I think usually you can play for 90 minutes of singles or 120 minutes of doubles without relinquishing a court. That's just a general guideline around here.

This and take it to another level. Take out your elastic bands and skipping rope and do stretches and exercises in between.
 

LuckyR

Legend
This sort of thing is a public court issue. I don't play on public courts routinely now, but I played on them exclusively in my youth. At this point my attitude is that every tennis player is valuable to the sport so I take a more instructional and guiding posture rather than confrontational and negative.
 

Dilettante

Hall of Fame
Anyone else experience similar situations like this?

I wouldn't say nothing more than you said if she does only one day, you did ok.

But if she did it more days, I'd simply go in front of her and say (I'm thinking in Spanish but I'd try to find the exact English words): "Please, do not enter the court and bother me while I'm still playing... again". You know, I'd say it seriously, with a tone like if the "please" is there just to begin the sentence.

Unfortunately, that's the way to deal with this kind of people and it's the only language they understand. I'm guess I'm already too old to be patient with those jerks.
 

dParis

Hall of Fame
This sort of thing is a public court issue. I don't play on public courts routinely now, but I played on them exclusively in my youth. At this point my attitude is that every tennis player is valuable to the sport so I take a more instructional and guiding posture rather than confrontational and negative...
...he said, sounding like a jet-set Socialist.;-)
 

philaaay

New User
This sort of thing is a public court issue. I don't play on public courts routinely now, but I played on them exclusively in my youth. At this point my attitude is that every tennis player is valuable to the sport so I take a more instructional and guiding posture rather than confrontational and negative.

I sometimes play at my club, but from time to time, I usually like to play outdoors since the weather is nice and also because my friends don't have a tennis membership at my club.

Yeah, we're pretty good about keeping our court time to about 90 minutes, but usually if there are no people waiting, we'll play longer until someone comes, which then we'll stop and tell them that they can have the court.

I remember once also that this entire Chinese family took up courts playing badminton... I didn't want to be a jerk, but I asked them if they were going to be using the courts for tennis anytime soon because, well, these are TENNIS courts. They just looked at me and pointed to the court further down and says, "I think they're almost done."

That's public courts for ya...
 

LuckyR

Legend
...he said, sounding like a jet-set Socialist.;-)


No, just an old fart looking backwards in time with rose colored glasses. A clueless mom with two kids who want to play tennis is likely on the edge between encouraging them to become lifelong tennis players or not wanting to drive them to the High School because she had to deal with uppity tennis-types.

I'm taking the long range approach.
 

GetBetterer

Hall of Fame
Let's all just take a deep breath, and breath out slowly...

First off, one thing you can do is be intensively in a match and just say "not right now, lady" or, if she does ask, she's being rude anyways (and it seems, according to your story with her arrogant scoff and all, that she would), you could ignore her while playing and lose the point (or your friend loses the point) and say "Love-15, 0-0" just for laughs.

The second thing that comes to mind is to tell her to wait, do it like:

Thank+you+But+No.jpg
 

atatu

Legend
I agree with you that she is annoying, however I question you taking up a court for an hour and 40 minutes ? In some places the time limit is an hour, an hour and half for singles seems generous.
 
^^^ same here

one hour is the norm in public courts in my area, had the op said hey sure we will be done in 20 minutes then it is cool,

skateboard kid told mom with kids to wait outside:confused: that they have another hour which is a no no in my area,,,,,,,,,if she rushed in as they were playing a point then maybe but I doubt it since OP did not say so, most likely it was between points. Had i been there with my kids and op told me to wait outside and "DEMANDED" to play for another hour, I would have shown my kids a thing or two how to deal with skateboard kids :twisted:
 

SystemicAnomaly

Bionic Poster
It could be the lack of sun in Seattle leads to a lack of patience.


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I remember once also that this entire Chinese family took up courts playing badminton... I didn't want to be a jerk, but I asked them if they were going to be using the courts for tennis anytime soon because, well, these are TENNIS courts. They just looked at me and pointed to the court further down and says, "I think they're almost done."

That's public courts for ya...

I've come across this situation before. I politely told them about the various clubs and schools in the area where they can play badminton. They were undoubtedly looking for a free place to play and the windscreens at the tennis courts were an attratice feature to cut down on the wind a little bit. Even tho' they were not very good, I didn't sympathize with them all that much -- they looked like they could easily afford the fees at a badminton club.

I've also come across a group playing FootballTennis on some public courts recently. Did not have a problem with that since it is a legit use of the courts. Their ball did not go on to the adjacent court very much at all. When it did, they were good about giving the players on the other court a "heads up". Were also pretty good about tennis etiquette -- returning tennis balls to the next court, etc...
 

SystemicAnomaly

Bionic Poster
I agree with you that she is annoying, however I question you taking up a court for an hour and 40 minutes ? In some places the time limit is an hour, an hour and half for singles seems generous.

In some areas, the limit is set at 1 hour for singles and 90 mins for doubs. For some, this may seem like enough but for most serious players this is usually way too short. To my mind 90 mins for singles and 180 mins for doubs seems a lot more reasonable.
 

Cindysphinx

G.O.A.T.
The most annoying thing that non-tennis players do is cut across your court, take their time doing it, and leave the gate open afterward.

I play at a local high school. The courts are between the parking lot and baseball field. There is a pathway running around the perimeter of the fence, so there is no need to cut across the fenced tennis courts.

But no. Baseball families open the gate to the tennis courts, stroll casually between a couple of courts in use thereby making 4-8 tennis players wait, and then exit the gate on the opposite side. Leaving both gates open, of course.

Having had enough of this, I decided to act. When I see a Baseball family approaching the gate, I say, "Would you mind going around? Thanks!" If they get inside before I notice them and they leave the gate open, I cheerfully call out, "Would you get the gate for me? Thanks!!"

I haven't had any bad reactions yet. Lots of apologies and cooperation, though.

Ya just gotta speak up for yourself.
 

Steady Eddy

Legend
The most annoying thing that non-tennis players do is cut across your court, take their time doing it, and leave the gate open afterward.

I play at a local high school. The courts are between the parking lot and baseball field. There is a pathway running around the perimeter of the fence, so there is no need to cut across the fenced tennis courts.

But no. Baseball families open the gate to the tennis courts, stroll casually between a couple of courts in use thereby making 4-8 tennis players wait, and then exit the gate on the opposite side. Leaving both gates open, of course.

Having had enough of this, I decided to act. When I see a Baseball family approaching the gate, I say, "Would you mind going around? Thanks!" If they get inside before I notice them and they leave the gate open, I cheerfully call out, "Would you get the gate for me? Thanks!!"

I haven't had any bad reactions yet. Lots of apologies and cooperation, though.

Ya just gotta speak up for yourself.
So it seems they just don't understand. I know people don't get that the backcourt is part of the court. Walking through it during a point is like walking through the outfield during a baseball game. I can understand how someone might not know that. It's harder for me to understand why they would leave the gate open.
 

Cindysphinx

G.O.A.T.
^I understand that they might not know.

So I educate them. Politely.

Cindy -- convinced that these same people leave their grocery carts blocking the entire aisle
 
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