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G.O.A.T.
A couple of times a month this man calls me and checks to see if I can be a hitting partner for his daughter who's 14. If I'm free or know I'll be practicing alone, I'll usually accept as was the case yesterday.
This is what typically happens. We'll do practice rallies and whenever she makes a stupid mistake, he belittles her. And he'll do this even during the rallies and during the points in a mock set. Her mom, who doesn't play tennis at all, is not much better as she keeps count of the number of times she hit the ball to the middle of the court. Of course this irritates me because of the delays and because of the noise from him. The girl tells him to quiet down or gives him the impression of "in one ear, out the other". Yesterday he got so frustrated with her play he ended our hitting practice after about an hour and a half.
She's a lefty and has one particular weapon, her down-the-line forehand. When it's on, it has pace and is rather flat. But, she has lazy/poor footwork, hits her forehand in a very open stance so she mishits quite a bit when she tries to hit cross-court or to the baseline, typically hits her 2HBH in a semi-open stance and has the tendency to hit weak/lazy slices that I often punish her for trying, she hits without much for topspin (her topspin forehand often sails quite long), and is very vulnerable against high balls. Her endurance is poor (she often tires within an hour of hitting with me) and she needs to improve her diet and fitness. She's not a bad player, but could be much better. But that leads up to another can of worms.
Her dad is not a good coach. In fact, from what I have seen of him, he's a beginner-level player. Some of his coaching advice for her I cringe at.
* He wants her to lob every time a player comes to the net (he even chastised her for hitting passing shots that worked instead of lobbing). He gets on her case for not trying a drop shot when she's on the run towards the net.
* He wants her to shuffle her feet immediately after making contact on the serve (so she'll be unable to lean into the serve and follow-through and unable to generate the power and accuracy that she currently lacks?).
* He keeps telling her to hit to my backhand when I've told him that's my best side. As a result, I put on a clinic from that side not to hurt her but to jab him for his lack of understanding tactics. He should encourage her to figure out the opponent's weaknesses and let her exploit them.
* He keeps telling her to backup when facing high balls, but because her movement is not good she ends up hitting floaters from both sides (she has to improve her anticipation and reaction, but she also needs to learn how to hit on the rise)
* Her serves have a fair amount of pace when they go in. Her dad is telling her to serve 5 feet away from the center. On the ad side, I can see a case for that as she's a lefty. But on her deuce side? He keeps telling her to toss the ball higher, but she doesn't bend her knees nor put weight on the front foot.
I once offered to give him a couple of pointers to improve her backhand. He basically wanted to act like he knew what he was doing and kind of gave me the impression that he didn't want to hear any outside advice. He seems to ignore the fact that she's not having fun playing (at least with him or her mom hovering over her). He has her play in Open 14s and 16s quite a bit. I suspect he's doing this in hopes she can earn a scholarship. He complains to her about her making mistakes that have cost matches, the amount of money he's invested in her playing, the fact that she's made old habits out of her play, and he fusses at her over mistakes she made 2-3 points earlier during the rallies.
I feel sorry for the girl because she could be a better player if she's motivated, better coached and trained (i.e. by someone other than her parents), slims down a bit, and got more practice against girls her age. As it stands, I'm a guy that's twice her age that plays NTRP 3.5 level yet I wear her out without much effort. I don't know if there's anything I can do to help this girl out. Her dad is a control freak and is the main culprit keeping her game down.
This is what typically happens. We'll do practice rallies and whenever she makes a stupid mistake, he belittles her. And he'll do this even during the rallies and during the points in a mock set. Her mom, who doesn't play tennis at all, is not much better as she keeps count of the number of times she hit the ball to the middle of the court. Of course this irritates me because of the delays and because of the noise from him. The girl tells him to quiet down or gives him the impression of "in one ear, out the other". Yesterday he got so frustrated with her play he ended our hitting practice after about an hour and a half.
She's a lefty and has one particular weapon, her down-the-line forehand. When it's on, it has pace and is rather flat. But, she has lazy/poor footwork, hits her forehand in a very open stance so she mishits quite a bit when she tries to hit cross-court or to the baseline, typically hits her 2HBH in a semi-open stance and has the tendency to hit weak/lazy slices that I often punish her for trying, she hits without much for topspin (her topspin forehand often sails quite long), and is very vulnerable against high balls. Her endurance is poor (she often tires within an hour of hitting with me) and she needs to improve her diet and fitness. She's not a bad player, but could be much better. But that leads up to another can of worms.
Her dad is not a good coach. In fact, from what I have seen of him, he's a beginner-level player. Some of his coaching advice for her I cringe at.
* He wants her to lob every time a player comes to the net (he even chastised her for hitting passing shots that worked instead of lobbing). He gets on her case for not trying a drop shot when she's on the run towards the net.
* He wants her to shuffle her feet immediately after making contact on the serve (so she'll be unable to lean into the serve and follow-through and unable to generate the power and accuracy that she currently lacks?).
* He keeps telling her to hit to my backhand when I've told him that's my best side. As a result, I put on a clinic from that side not to hurt her but to jab him for his lack of understanding tactics. He should encourage her to figure out the opponent's weaknesses and let her exploit them.
* He keeps telling her to backup when facing high balls, but because her movement is not good she ends up hitting floaters from both sides (she has to improve her anticipation and reaction, but she also needs to learn how to hit on the rise)
* Her serves have a fair amount of pace when they go in. Her dad is telling her to serve 5 feet away from the center. On the ad side, I can see a case for that as she's a lefty. But on her deuce side? He keeps telling her to toss the ball higher, but she doesn't bend her knees nor put weight on the front foot.
I once offered to give him a couple of pointers to improve her backhand. He basically wanted to act like he knew what he was doing and kind of gave me the impression that he didn't want to hear any outside advice. He seems to ignore the fact that she's not having fun playing (at least with him or her mom hovering over her). He has her play in Open 14s and 16s quite a bit. I suspect he's doing this in hopes she can earn a scholarship. He complains to her about her making mistakes that have cost matches, the amount of money he's invested in her playing, the fact that she's made old habits out of her play, and he fusses at her over mistakes she made 2-3 points earlier during the rallies.
I feel sorry for the girl because she could be a better player if she's motivated, better coached and trained (i.e. by someone other than her parents), slims down a bit, and got more practice against girls her age. As it stands, I'm a guy that's twice her age that plays NTRP 3.5 level yet I wear her out without much effort. I don't know if there's anything I can do to help this girl out. Her dad is a control freak and is the main culprit keeping her game down.
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