Cindy - believe me, I hear exactly what you are saying and asking here.
I mean, if they are clearly better, then you can't neutralize their strengths, can you? If you can neutralize their strengths, then how can they be clearly better?
That's a fair question. Given that number one, the opponent is not overwhelmingly better than you in almost every area, and you have SOME chance, you really can make it competitive if you play smart.
You CAN neutralize their strengths. That doesn't mean their strengths are not stronger than yours still right? You just find a way to keep them from hitting their 'A shots' as much as possible.
One example. In the last match I played up one full ntrp level, and this kid had a forehand to die for. Much more pace and spin then I can currently generate. I sliced DEEP LOW driving slice to his backhand, backing him up, and then I would hit a high percentage harder forehand to his crosscourt forehand. Now this kid had to hit on the run, instead of from a strong position. That turned his ace forehand, into just a decent forehand, and I would keep him pinned back there. If I let him set up well, BAM, he put me on the defensive quickly. My goal became, to put him on defense first, and then go on my own offense, and it worked.
Another point. If you can step up and hit out with winners somehow for the whole match, playing 'out of your skin', and beat them, then they aren't better than you are they? Just making a point here. So maybe we shouldn't say better, but how about, consitently more skilled or stronger?
I've never turned things around by playing defense and outlasting someone who was "better" than me.
Another good point Cindy. Let me say, I am not just talking pure defense, but rather, neutralize and counter attack, so you ARE dictating. Going 100% offense with shots you don't yet own is almost a guaranteed way to lose a lot to anybody, regardless of their skill level. Put the percentages in your favor with smart play, and your offense is just as real, and not as high risk.
I've turned things around by going for my shots, by trying to dictate rather than letting myself be punished, by hitting the ball harder and not being so conservative.
Then maybe you had the stronger strokes here. Maybe you were playing your C game, and stepped it up to your A game. You A game is NOT the best you can potentially play, it is the best game you can 'consistently' play. I am really talking about someone who owns stonger strokes or more pace and spin.
Hey, if they are way better in all areas, maybe it's just not a fair match sometimes, that happens.
If I do wind up playing some singles this spring, I will undoubtedly be facing women who are better than me.
Careful what you consider 'better than you'. Maybe they hit better, but are less consistent. Maybe they are more consistent, but you hit stronger. Better really only means...they are better at doing what they do best, while making you do what you do worst. It happens all the time. If you truly compete within one half level of ntrp, I think you have to find the way to do what you do best, and maybe, help them do what they do worst.
Brad Gilbert says, a good player never gives their opponent the shot they love the most.
In this case, Spot, in his previous post, is 'Spot-on' in his comments. Good stuff. And, good luck in the Spring!!!