What's wrong with me?!

[babolat141]

OK I need some serious help because when i like a girl i think about her all of

the time and all of that junk.

But when i find out she likes me back i want to just stop talking to her

forever and she starts talking about dating and going to dances together I

really lose all of my attraction for the girl......

so please tell me whats wrong with me

 

[ollinger]

Sounds like what's usually called approach-avoidance conflict in psychology. Growing up, we want to stay close to mother (father) but also want to establish our independence. We're afraid to lose the attachment if we wander too far away but also afraid we'll lose our autonomy and independence if we get too close. It may be for you that her expression of interest raises this fear of losing your autonomy and independence (a fear of merging egos, as some would call it) and so you suddenly lose interest. Such issues are grist for the mill of psychotherapy.

 

[ollinger]

Kentucky.....bourbon!!

 

[babolat141]

damn this feeling is awful like i think a girl

is so nice and pretty and then she says

something like im starting to like you and

i think like get me outta here

 

[JorgeLobo]

Hilarious - thanks for the very pompous and pedantic pop psychology, ollinger.

 

[samprasvsfederer123]

maybe you still feel like a child and feel like youre not ready you feel shy about it, i dont know that really is weird, you get so nervous, that you feel like you have to get out of there

 

[ollinger]

Jorge
You're welcome. It's a privilege to be part of your first post. What aspect didn't you understand?

 

[JorgeLobo]

I understood perfectly that you are a pedantic twit but thanks for the subsequent confirmation.
Now tell us about molecular biology.

 

[ayuname]

Afraid of commitment, are we?

 

[ollinger]

Ah, Jorge, I am absolutely pedantic, and the only person in this thread who actually tried to explain to the guy the nature of his problem. By your standards (deduced from the "who killed JFK" thread in which you implicate his wife Jackie), I am pleased to be a twit.

 

[rommil]

Find somebody who can't talk....

 

[LanEvo]

whenever she starts talking, just once in a while nod ur head, or say "oh thats interesting", u dont have to listen

 

[Kobble]

OK I need some serious help because when i like a girl i think about her all of

the time and all of that junk.

But when i find out she likes me back i want to just stop talking to her

forever and she starts talking about dating and going to dances together I

really lose all of my attraction for the girl......

so please tell me whats wrong with me

I never heard of that. I remember being attracted to some smokin' girls up to 10th grade, and I could barely look at them when the slightest chance arose. By 11th, it faded away, because I partied a bunch and was drunk at most parties. Drunk enough to take chances. By 12th, I realized I didn't need beer courage. It is all confidence. You know, though, maybe it is for the best. Some women come off the wrong way to me. I avoid women who come off like they have a dark side. As an example, I never hooked up with any "agressive" chicks I met in the horse industry. I think we avoid some situations because they scare us for a good reason.